To think brides often get their dress wrong?

[FreeMantle]

I have always thought this actually but no one else seems to have noticed.
My lovely friends, who pride themselves on dressing very well, seem to chose a dress that doesn't suit them at all. Skinny ones go for the tightest column dress ,so they look like beans. My large busted ones are falling out of massive strapless meringues.
The latest is my size 8/10 cousin who without an inch of fat, has wide hips. So of course she's gone for a full on strapless mermaid. Making her shape look totally out of proportion.
Obviously she'll be beautiful as a bride but why that dress?
I am now looking for one for myself . Despite being short and athletic everyone seems to love a huge ivory fluffy tulle princess type dress on me. I look like a dumpy fungus. It's thin straps and tight bodice totally emphasise my lack of top half. And yes, I'm tempted.

The things you learn from mumsnet! I had a strapless dress, I thought I looked fabulous but according to posters here I'm deluded! Chavvy, cheap, vulgar. Charming.

I actually think mine was pretty good! I never wear dresses but this gave me a waist and covered me where I wanted coverage. Having lost ten stone I am still amazed I looked this good and comfortable and like me on my wedding day. Oh and it was the first dress I tried!

If they love the dress and feel beautiful in it, that’s all that matters.

Depends on the dress @GaryBarlowsTaxReturn a lot do look chavvy but my friend wore one and looked beautiful and tasteful.

I still laugh when I think about my colleague’s wedding. She had a strapless gown and glasses (couldn’t be asked with contacts) and her photos look ridiculous.

I agree that bridal shops try and push you into what they have, rather than what you want. I was adamant that I wanted a tea length rather than full length dress, and the first shop I went to turned out to only have two that weren't full length in their whole range, and so unsurprisingly gave me a big speech on how much more special I'd feel in a full-length dress. This was after the assistant had already nearly fainted in shock because it was only five months to the wedding, which I thought was plenty of time but she did not.

I think I looked beautiful on my wedding day. DH does too. I had a strapless dress .
Couldn’t really give a toss what anyone else thought

I still laugh when I think about my colleague’s wedding. She had a strapless gown and glasses (couldn’t be asked with contacts) and her photos look ridiculous.

Don't you sound like a delight.

I quite fancied getting married in gold, like Lady Harriet Vane in the Dorothy LSayers stories. But went for white in the end as it was easier. I don’t think I’ve ever owned a white dress before or since, but it was pretty.... and not strapless thank goodness

Oh and I thought I hated strapless dresses. Never thought I’d have one. But I genuinely loved it. I wore a tiny lace jacket in the church as my DGM would have gasped in horror if I’d had bare shoulders in church.

When I was getting married, the trend was for strapless dresses and I was adamant that I didn't want strapless. I just felt too exposed, so went for a very classic elegant style with spaghetti straps. I am quite booby and not so much brides but bridesmaids I have seen being put in to strapless dresses and they are obviously not comfortable and spend the day pulling at their dresses.

Out of all the weddings I have been to there are two that stick out one apparently her dress was handmade by family and she was a big girl and it was not flattering at all. The other went for a very bold style with lots of colour on the dress which I think will date badly. Apparent from that some I really liked and some were just quite average.

I loved my wedding dress because it had a kind of lace top which meant that although it was strapless, it wasn't a tits-out kind of affair. It was this one and when I tried it on every woman who'd come with me to the shop cried, so I knew it was the one. I've got broad, swimmers shoulders, too, so looked less like Hulk Hogan than I might have in a strapless number.

Strapless dresses suit no one. Always look like a corset with petticoat that's missing the actual dress laid over the top. I had to wear a strapless dress to my senior prom back in the 80s (had just broken up with my boyfriend, wasn't planning to go, my best friend was going with her brother's uni flatmate so begging me to go with her brother as she didn't want to go with him alone) and had to borrow a dress from one of my sister's friends. I was about a size 6 bottom but about a 10 on top. That dress has the most uncomfortable thing I've ever worn. I ditched it soon enough to get naked with my best friend's brother. Much better .

I got married 10 years ago too and there were only strapless dresses in the shops. I remember the lace dresses with cap sleeves were just starting to appear in the magazines, but they were only available in the most expensive shops. When my friend got married 2 years later they were all the shops had.

I'm big busted. The ladies in the dress shop put a halterneck strap on the dress and added a frill across the top at the last minute. I didn't particularly like the frill but it helped stop me looking like I was falling out of the dress.

The majority of women do not suit strapless dresses.
You need a decent bust with toned,shoulders and slim arms.
I have just bought dd2s prom dress and the sales assists t wasn't very good at offering advice. Both myself and dd2 did the work. It was the last dress she tried on, not shown to us by the sales assistant but by another assistant who happened to come Into the room heard what dd2 was saying and produced the dress we bought.

I don't think strapless looks awful on everyone. Far from it. I was adamant I didn't want one though simply because so many brides seemed to have them. We went to so many weddings before ours. Probably 25+ in the space of about 4 years. Not joking. And pretty much all strapless and poofy (bar 2 I can think of). I wanted something different.

I think if you can basically predict what someone will wear it's a good sign that they picked the right dress.

@NeverTalksToStrangers - wasn't it a bit late to say that? .

I got mine massively wrong. I had a lively figure - tall and willowy in a model like way and I wore a sack. Now my body is more mum-like and live in sacks I really wish I'd had a dress that showed my bod off properly. Truth is I chose the dress my mum wanted

Most don’t look good really, do they? They also seem to date quickly. Was glad when the whole strapless trend died, it did no one any favours. This is why I got married in jeans.

My large busted ones are falling out of massive strapless meringues. A very well blessed woman I worked with did this. Not only was it strapless it was very low cut and I think everyone spent the day with their eyes fixed on her bust as her breasts kept threatening to escape. It was sort of hypnotically fascinating. Every now and then she hoiked her bodice up which was an elegant solution. She was very pretty though.

I agree with you completely OP, unfortunately I looked a little bit shit in my wedding dress too. I went for 50s style tea length but by the time the day came it was too big for me and what would have been gorgeous in a size or 2 smaller ended up looking like a sack of potatoes.

I was dead skinny when I married - not that I really realised at the time. I think I looked lovely. It’s not a fashionable dress right now. But it was 20 years ago. I nearly went a the fantasy dress, which was very theatrical but in the end I stuck to off white.

Just because the dress isn’t 100% to your taste, what does it matter? No one needs to be a predetermined “perfect size” to wear a wedding dress. Brides, who are happy naturally look beautiful. Who are you to judge?

What a nasty, bitter comment, TheFirstMrsOsmond.

Oh I had a strapless dress and thought it looked ok... you've all got me worried now!!