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To think brides often get their dress wrong?

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FreeMantle · 13/04/2018 18:16

I have always thought this actually but no one else seems to have noticed.
My lovely friends, who pride themselves on dressing very well, seem to chose a dress that doesn't suit them at all. Skinny ones go for the tightest column dress ,so they look like beans. My large busted ones are falling out of massive strapless meringues.
The latest is my size 8/10 cousin who without an inch of fat, has wide hips. So of course she's gone for a full on strapless mermaid. Making her shape look totally out of proportion.
Obviously she'll be beautiful as a bride but why that dress?
I am now looking for one for myself . Despite being short and athletic everyone seems to love a huge ivory fluffy tulle princess type dress on me. I look like a dumpy fungus. It's thin straps and tight bodice totally emphasise my lack of top half. And yes, I'm tempted.

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cunningartificer · 13/04/2018 19:02

My fear of strapless is more about my arms and less about the dress! Fashion is interesting though. I remember so many (lovely) dresses I tried beaded all over—they weighed a ton! You never see them nowadays.

Ultimately, nothing else you’ll ever wear looks like a full on wedding dress, so why not enjoy it? If you want the frills the fluff the beads or the mermaid tail—good luck to you! Brides who are happy are always beautiful—even with glasses, Glug, though people who make comments like yours rarely strike me as lovely themselves. Something about the expression you have on as you look at your friends I expect.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 13/04/2018 19:02

As an item of clothing most wedding dresses are hideous,and don’t suit
But there’s a notion of princess/special day etc and that sets the template
But of course I’d never utter a word if bride were happy

Stopandlook · 13/04/2018 19:04

Strapless mermaid here, genuinely love it still and think I look gorgeous in my photos.... I’m posh me, too.

WipsGlitter · 13/04/2018 19:04

Agree about people going for mad hair-dos they'd not normally have. And trowelling on the make up. Unrecognisable.

NeverTalksToStrangers · 13/04/2018 19:05

YearOfYouRemember No, she meant when she was getting married. She's been with her boyfriend for years now. I'm gonna hold her to it, lol.

AnneProtheroe · 13/04/2018 19:05

My first wedding dress I had made - I sat down with the dressmaker and discussed what styles I liked versus my body shape. I loved it.

My second wedding dress I haven't worn yet... Grin

CoolCarrie · 13/04/2018 19:06

Strapless dresses are easy to make and cheaper, that’s why some bridal shops and designers do that style, Nothing much to them.

jacket with

Prancingonthevalentine · 13/04/2018 19:07

I think how you felt on the day is probably more important than whether you were objectively looking good in it.

katmarie · 13/04/2018 19:07

I'm a 38 g bra size and I couldn't bear the thought of spending all day in a strapless dress, let alone a heavy wedding dress, and even so I still very nearly bought a strapless one, when shopping for mine. I went with wide straps and a bodice which flattered my tum in the end. And pockets! I hope I've got it right, but either way I can't wait to wear it!

CoolCarrie · 13/04/2018 19:08

You could wear a short jacket with it OP!
look on line and visit lots of shops, not just bridal shops.

CuntPuffin · 13/04/2018 19:09

cunning mine was a gold skirt with a beaded bodice, piped in gold. It had narrow shoulder straps.

I still think it was the right dress for me. I tried on so many but it was the only one that suited me. I had a tiny waist, proper size 6 hourglass and it showed all my curves without being 'in your face' about it.

I went into one shop who tried to convince me that because DH was getting married in his uniform that I should wear a very plain dress so I didn't outshine him Confused. Needless to say, I did not buy from them.

As for the comment above about glasses - have this Biscuit

Cuppaoftea · 13/04/2018 19:09

When I got married 10 years ago I went wedding dress shopping alone to Monsoon, couldn't bear the idea of having anyone with me giving advice!

Still love my dress now, it's Jane Austen style with a beaded, empire line bodice and floaty skirt.

BennyTheBall · 13/04/2018 19:09

A few years back loads of brides wore strapless and often with blotchy ham arms and fat overspill.

Not a good look.

Situp · 13/04/2018 19:10

My fear of strapless is more about my arms and less about the dress!

Me too. I had the worst bingo wings!

golondrina · 13/04/2018 19:10

I got married over 10 years ago and had an idea in my head of what I wanted, something simple and not with a big skirt. In hindsight, I'd probably have looked better in a big skirt and cinched in waist. I think my dress was a bit disappointing when on really. If I were getting married now I'd go for a totally different style.

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FreeMantle · 13/04/2018 19:11

Just because the dress isn’t 100% to your taste, what does it matter? No one needs to be a predetermined “perfect size” to wear a wedding dress. Brides, who are happy naturally look beautiful. Who are you to judge?

You've missed the point. It's not about my taste or their size.It's about getting the dress right for whatever size and shape they are. Which normally women can do pretty well. It's just bridal dresses that seem to miss the mark.
I think I suit a strapless shape actually.I also suit white and I like streamline satin but there's every possibility I might end up in a tulle monstrosity.

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LeighaJ · 13/04/2018 19:11

Women fall in love with a dress whether or not it suits their shape unfortunately.

Coulddowithanap · 13/04/2018 19:13

I still laugh when I think about my colleague’s wedding. She had a strapless gown and glasses (couldn’t be asked with contacts) and her photos look ridiculous.

Omg not glasses AND a strapless dress, she must have looked horrific! Hmm

Why are some people so nasty.

midsomermurderess · 13/04/2018 19:14

Strapless dresses did few women many favours.myou had to have a small bust and be pretty slim to carry it off.

Redrosebelle · 13/04/2018 19:15

Hmm I agree without you that some women don’t choose well however most people CAN wear strapless dresses (not saying they look good) and not be pulling them up if they are properly fitted. Dresses tend to be made of stiff fabrics that loosen as the day goes on. The dress needs to be tight (perhaps uncomfortably so) to allow for stretching. Also they need inbuilt corsets and bra cups so that nothing, and I mean nothing, can move. A well fitted strapless dress stays up even when the gown has loosened. I see so many alterations not being done properly or even at all.

AmysTiara · 13/04/2018 19:15

Glug I don't get it. What did the bride wearing glasses have to do with anything? Confused

Coulddowithanap · 13/04/2018 19:16

I've been to several weddings and whilst the brides didn't wear dresses that I would have chosen they all looked beautiful.

seven201 · 13/04/2018 19:16

I don't have anything against strapless dresses. I think they can be lovely. I didn't have a strapless dress personally but there's nothing Chavy about them and they can look fab on various shapes.

Redrosebelle · 13/04/2018 19:17

Oh and enough with the ‘tulle monstrosity’ Wink my dress was a strapless one in silver (gasp) me had lots of tulle layers and I rocked it.

PistFump · 13/04/2018 19:19

Did I look shit then?! I thought it was ok at the time!!

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