NC and may have to bump in the morning as it's late. Not sure what I'm expecting to get out of this besides a massive angry rant but that will do me for now.
My MIL does a days childcare a week for me so I can work. Please no "just pay for childcare" comments- I can't afford it and I can't afford not to work. So yes, I know I should just be grateful and not whinge about what's coming next, but: she's stealing all of my feeding milestones.
She is only with my 9 month old DD a few hours once a week and has already introduced her to solid food, fruit pouches, handheld snacks and juice before I have had a chance. And I feel like I'm missing out on all my 'firsts'. DD is my first baby and I also couldn't BF. I exclusively pumped for months so I feel like I really cling to these feeding milestones as my little achievements.
I think I am also bitter because, when she used to see me struggling to latch, she would say really unhelpful things like "Well it's so much easier for me to feed her now" because all of my milk was bottled. She once even took DD out of my arms when I was trying to latch her at just a few weeks old, because she wanted to cuddle her!
I think my annoyance of her introducing all of these new things stems from more (as she hasn't exactly been helpful anywhere in our marriage or parenthood) but, before I go ahead and ask her to stop giving my DD something new every week (not that there's anything new left now)... am I being ridiculously unreasonable?
Should I jusy be greatful of the help? Or glad she is sharing these things with the granddaughter she loves? I've talked to my DH but he just won't say a bad word to his mother. If I am BU, how do I stop myself feeling so upset? Did anyone else have experience with this and did you feel like you were BU?
I do want to be realistic but please go a little easy as this is something that is really getting to me, even if it shouldn't.