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to be annoyed that someone fed my 6mo chocolate?

40 replies

pamplemousse · 11/05/2007 21:55

Thats it really, it was chocolate mousse cake so had eggs in it too!
I have been weaning her very carefully (due to wheat and dairy intolerences in family and eczema) and this friend of my parents (who we were at dinner with) just popped a tiny bit (she said, I didn't see) into dd's mouth.
I was really annoyed

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flightattendant · 12/05/2007 06:29

BTW my parents also does DS (3) up with biscuits etc. which I do ask them gently to restrict, as I try hard to save things like that for bribery purposes, and am terrible at feeding him proper food anyway - mixture of my hatred of cooking and his reluctance to eat decent stuff!
Still he comes back biscuits in hand. They do help with him a lot though so I have to allow them some indulgence, and they feed him good stuff as well...

flightattendant · 12/05/2007 06:29

DOSE!

phoebebouffet · 15/05/2007 01:17

God no - my lo is not far from the 4 month stage - people are already desperate to wean him and are horrified at the 6 months weaning thing - THINGS CHANGE DEAL WITH IT! I'm gonna wait as long as poss just to piss em off! And I know cos they know I'm a bit of a foodie and health freak (in the loosest sense of the phrase) that they'll be dying to stuff him full of chocolate and crap - why when it's just not necesssary - I know it won't harm him but that's not the point.

americantrish · 15/05/2007 13:50

i think its all about putting it in perspective... when you look back on this in a year or so, you probably won't see the big deal in it. but they should have asked you or your partner's permission first before offering YOUR child anything.

twinkleinthesky · 15/05/2007 13:53

my brother wandered off with DS2 (6 months at the time) at a family gathering. Came back into room with DS2's face smeared with brown and white stuff with a look of glee on his face saying

"OOOOOOO he loves chocolate and cream!"

I was at the time

but look back and laugh now

mawbroon · 15/05/2007 15:05

I would have been annoyed, very annoyed especially now I know that ds has a severe egg allergy. I was lucky that nobody fed ds without my knowledge as I didn't let him out of my sight for this very reason. I still don't let him out of my sight in these situations unless we are in a setting where I know that everyone understands the consequences of him eating egg. I probably bored everyone to death, but I would always say to ds in a loud voice(so really saying to everyone else in a roundabout way) "oh look what a shame you can't have any of that cake/pudding/whatever because you are not eating dairy/wheat/eggs etc etc yet. Another x no of weeks until you can have that ds. etc etc

It's difficult though. I just admit to everyone that I am a neurotic mother in a joking manner before they think it themselves. It sort of diffuses the situation a bit I find.

maisemor · 15/05/2007 15:20

The friend really should have asked, and I totally understand you being annoyed.

When we had our first child we told everyone that we did not want her to have any sweets (in any shapes or forms) until she was minimum 1. In-laws did not like this and even sent us a picture of them feeding her her first icecream ever. We are her parents and it is our decision. Plus now I have missed out on watching my daughter's face when she has her first taste of sweets.

Problem is that we told them we found it rather distasteful, that they were so blatently disrespectful of our wishes and to this day they still mock US about it. They are openly telling us how silly we were that we did not want her to have sweets before she turned one, and how funny it was then that they gave it to her and have pictures of it.

Brangelina · 15/05/2007 15:41

I'd have been seriously miffed too. What you choose to feed your child is exclusively your business and should be respected, even if there are no allergy concerns. A lot of the older generation in particular know nothing about nutrition yet insist that they know best. I know my MIL would have started DD on chocolate, ritz biscuits and coke from the age of 5 months if she'd had her way. She's also got a problem with the fact my DD doesn't eat meat and is dying to pop a bit of salami in her mouth. Luckily my DP supports me as he remembers the total crap he was fed as a child and DD is never left alone with his mum.

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pamplemousse · 19/05/2007 22:55

Eek some awful stories there! Thanks for support, I may well go with the neurotic mother speech before hand as suggested so people don't have to exchange 'a little bit of chocolate mouse cake never hurt US' glances!

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mylittleimps · 19/05/2007 23:00

YNBU at all,

luciemule · 19/05/2007 23:45

Your DD was fine but knowing me, if someone had done that to my 6 month old, I'd have been a bit arsey with them and said how did they know whether DC had any allergies. It annoys me when people don't bother to ask before giving your kids something. My MIL is famous for saying "is it alright if I just give them? ".........whatever it is.........as she produces it from her bag and gives it to them. It's always in their mouth before I can say no.

lyrabelacqua · 19/05/2007 23:59

YANBU.
On DS1's first birthday we had a party which his grandad came to and when i looked away for a second he just popped a big chunk of pork pie into ds1's mouth. i was on the other side of the room and wanted to cry out noooooooooo and snatch the pie from DS1's mouth but had to sit and seethe in silence instead.
So i understand how you feel.

Twinklemegan · 20/05/2007 00:00

Erm I gave my DS chocolate when he was 8.5 months and I swore I wouldn't. He was screaming his head off and I had a Twix finger in front of me I was dying to eat. I let him suck it and he loved it bless him.

But I'd have been really annoyed if someone else had done it so you're not being unreasonable.

anniebear · 20/05/2007 11:25

I would have been really annoyed......a "friend of your parents"???

she shouldn't have done that to your 6 month old,

lisasophie · 20/05/2007 16:05

I would have been really annoyed. It is ridiculous to feed someone elses child without asking and anyone who does it is an idiot. For all they knew she could have been allergic to it and had a severe reaction.
An old woman on the bus tried to offer my dd a chocolate button a month ago. I told her to not offer her sweets as she didn't even eat food yet
YANBU

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