Night in a hotel alone - AIBU?

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After several years of pregnancy, breastfeeding, sleepless nights with three children, I have a big birthday coming up, and decided to treat myself to a night in a posh hotel alone to relax. I actually posted in Chat asking for recommendations yesterday. But some friends and relatives have reacted strangely. Why would I not want to spend time with my family? Why would I not want to take my family? Why am I doing this instead of a weekend away with my family? Does my husband mind? What about the children?

For the record, I spend lots of time with my family. It's not an either/or situation - this doesn't impact upon family holiday plans, either time-wise or financially. My husband doesn't mind at all, same as I didn't mind on the occasions he's had nights away to do things he wants. As for the children, I'm sure they'll be fine with their perfectly capable father. He lets them eat more cake than I do, and watch more TV, so they'll be happy.

I'm not being unreasonable to do this am I?

Sorry, should add, this will not be on my birthday, but a few weeks before or after. So I will be with my family on my birthday.

Do it. I've done it before (actually DH booked it for me #hesakeeper)

Do it.

I had a weekend away (with a friend) and no kids. It was wonderful.

No responsibility was awesome.

Absolutely not. Enjoy.

YANBU at all! I’d do the same. Enjoy!

Sounds like a perfect plan! I did something similar when mine were babies. I must admit though by the time it came to breakfast I was looking at other people's babies and wanting to hug my own! I think it does you good to have a bit of alone time. Take a good book and enjoy!

I wish my DW would do this! It would be a welcome break for everyone

Absolutely do it! I have a fab one year old and DH. Love them to bits but I used to travel all over the country for my job and I miss the simple alone time occasionally, plus the hotel bath, a good book and time to read it. TBH if I could, I would rather do this than have a couple of nights away with the girls at the moment.. book away and enjoy

YANBU I would love this too ;P enjoy and ignore!

Can you not get someone to baby sit and take your DH too? I’m going to stay in a hotel for my 40th later this year but we’re going out for a meal together first.

I would love that! Ignore them, your birthday, your choice ;)

Did you get any good recommendations - which bit of the country are you looking in?

That wood have been perfect at the time.

Good idea!

I would just tweak it to be a weekend (Fri night to Sunday pm)

Have a relaxing, peaceful self-indulgent time.

Excellent, glad I'm not alone in thinking this is OK!

Woman at work: "Won't your children miss you?" I'll be gone 24 hours. A fair bit of that they'll be in bed. I'm sure daddy and Paw Patrol can keep them adequately entertained.

As for taking my husband, no, not on this occasion. Part of the reason for going is to get away from his snoring for a night!

Can you not get someone to baby sit and take your DH too? I’m going to stay in a hotel for my 40th later this year but we’re going out for a meal together first.

Maybe she wants some time alone? I love my DP but sometimes love a night apart. Nothing wrong with that.
The thought of being alone in a hotel for a night, being spoiled with room service, watching what I want on tv, going to the swimming pool or spa and having a full night of undisturbed sleep in a big bed to myself... sounds like actual HEAVEN

green with envy OP!

It is just heaven OP. I do it a couple of times a year.
Turn your phone off. In a real emergency your DH could phone the Hotel and they’d put him through to your room.
I take a book I’ve been wanting to read and just lie there reading for 24 hours. Occasionally getting up to eat.
Ut.Is.Bliss

It is bliss. Not it

No, YANBU and I'm envious. Fuck 'em.

Why not make it a long weekend?

I take a book I’ve been wanting to read and just lie there reading for 24 hours. Occasionally getting up to eat.

That sounds like very heaven.

A bit of time alone just to be you is a good thing. Women are far too often defined merely in relation to others - wife, mother.

Have a great time!

Sounds absolutely fabulous! You enjoy!

I'm honestly not sure why you need to ask...your DH is fine about it, there's no money/time issue and it doesn't impact on anyone else. You must know that no-one is going to say YABU?

Go for it! Make sure there's a bath tub, if you want to do bubbles / a bath bomb etc.

Right, I'm spending this evening looking at hotels! I definitely need some time to myself. Three kids under 5 plus a job is lovely, but busy, and I need to be alone. Phone definitely being switched off, ipad at home, room service ordered, good book, bottle of champers, and I'll be sorted!

If anybody has any recommendations, I'm on the edge of London, so happy to go to most areas within London. Possibly Kent, Surrey, Sussex too.

Sounds wonderful..