To tell DS I won't be financially supporting him through uni unless he pulls his finger out

[wibblywobblyfish]

I'm so fed up. DS1 is 19 and as has yet again, failed to get himself out of bed again to go to his single college lesson today. This is a regular occurrence. He has an offer from his first choice of uni for September and is keen to go, however he can't get himself up. I don't think he will get the full maintenance loan and he will be expecting a top up from me. I've told him today, unless he starts getting himself up and dressed I'm not prepared to throw money at it. AIBU?

*noting not boring

Your first year at uni might not count towards your overall degree but if you fail, you'd have to repeat the year.....or get kicked off. I think he's underestimating how much work is involved at uni.

there was a hell of a step up from year two to year 3 on my undergraduate degree.

Year 2 often counts towards final degree.

Several pals who messed around too long, discovered that to get an upper second, they had to score an average of 75+% in year 3, to mitigate mediocre performance in year 2.

It just followed them around.

On my course not one of the people who we rarely saw in lectures scored above a 2:2...it was not just information but context of the lectures which was important, but was just missed by folk lying in bed,

If he cant be arsed to get up for college even with you on his case hes going to have a very expensive wake up call if he gets to uni and subsequently gets booted out for not attending lectures as its mostly self or possibly peer motivated to attend
no degree and a bloody big loan to pay off

I was at uni 5 years ago, never expected support from my parents. I had a job and managed my own life and finances. Of course I'll help my son if I'm in the position to, but I won't micro manage his life.
Just advise him of the right pathd and be there when he goes off road!