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AIBU?

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To have called 101 about this prick?

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VelvetSpoon · 07/04/2018 19:43

Background- I don't get on with my neighbours. I've posted about this before. They've got 4 undisciplined kids in a tiny house. The kids (all under 10) do as they please, are constantly in the garden hanging over my fence or climbing on it. They also ride their bikes across my front garden, draw in chalk on my drive, blah blah. The parents are the my kid can do no wrong types but also leave them outside unsupervised all the time So don't see most of this.

Anyway the main issue is they are always chucking toys over and kicking their ball over. I used to throw it back. But it was constant. And they then took to climbing over themselves. So I stopped.

A couple of days ago the ball came over. Yesterday we were in the garden, (actually carrying some heavy stuff so no free hands) one of the kids yells 'give me my ball'. I don't respond to kids speaking like that so we ignored them. Later they're all out in the street with their mates (another group of even more annoying kids who live opposite) yelling we want out ball. We'll make you give it back and general name calling. All of which we ignored and didn't react to.

Today we're in the side alley putting up fence panels. The dad of kids over the road marches over onto my property, asking why we had a go at his kids yesterday. Assured him we said nothing. He says he'll let it go this time but we need to watch ourselves. I said excuse me is that a threat, who did he think he was? To which he went off alarming, f ing and blinding all over the shop, shouting at me I better watch myself, we'd see what happened to us for causing trouble. I said fine you're threatening me I'll call the police. He carried on a bit longer then went off telling us to watch ourselves, taking his 2 teenage boys he'd brought with him for back up.

After this I end up having round 2 with the guy next door (who is not aggressive just irritating) and while I'm having a relatively civil conversation with him, his shrew of a wife shouts out 'don't talk to her she's crazy she's got mental problems she's a loony

All this was in the street/ on my drive in front of my teen DC.

So I've called 101 on guy over the road. AIBU to have done so? And WIBU to also tell the police about the gobby cow next door?

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VelvetSpoon · 09/04/2018 12:11

I've no prejudice against people who rent, especially housing assoc properties as I grew up in one.

However the guy opposite is the sort of person who gives social housing tenants/ benefit claimants a bad name. Fit and able enough to issue threats of violence to me and my family, and brawl in the street, yet seemingly unable to work. Leaving sofas and other detritus in his front garden. Regular noisy parties. Raising a pack of feral kids who ride unlicensed motorbikes without helmets and generally cause a disturbance/ nuisance. Which is annoying of itself but even more so when you take into account that this is meant to be a naice area. 3 bed semis in our road are 400-450k.

He's getting a police visit this week. He is probably stupid enough to do something else so I will make sure my camera is working. And if anything else does happen, I'll be contacting the housing assoc too.

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SpringNowPlease2018 · 09/04/2018 12:25

Good that the police are visiting. hope he keeps himself and all his crazy away from you!

Elusiveone · 09/04/2018 12:35

I had a very very bad neighbour who played constant loud music at all times when my dd was young. I tried and tried with them to be reasonable. In the end it got to the stage they turned violent. Throwing stuff out of there flat above. Heavy objects. One night i woke up and heard fire brigade. They had set fire to our car. Police arrested him and charged him and they were evicted. This went on for a year it brought me so down i was scared my dh then went and lost hes job due to all this. And not once did either of us be confrontational to them. So op report every thing they do which causes you alarm and distress. Now i moved countys and have lovely neighbours.

Elusiveone · 09/04/2018 12:36

Oh and before anyone suggests did i contact the council i did. Housing and environmental health but nothing was done

ThymeLord · 09/04/2018 12:50

It's hard to be an owner in a street full of renters or what have you

That really stands out as one of the more unpleasant comments about renters that I have read on here, and i've read a lot of vile stuff.

6demandingchildren · 09/04/2018 13:29

Only on Mumsnet can you get a partner being verbally abusive to the other partner and everyone is advising to call the police,
But in this instance some are thinking the op is overreacting.
Only the op knows how bad it actually is and I wouldn't like being threatened either.
And I'm a homeowner in an area of many renters, and apart from parking issues we have been very lucky with our neighbors. But it only takes one family to upset the balance of things

summermeadows · 09/04/2018 15:13

Interesting that @Winterdown has not come back to address his/her's vile comments about us 'renters'!!

@TeasndToast, we rent privately in a naice area, very few people know that we rent and for exactly the same reasons as yours!

summermeadows · 09/04/2018 15:14

Damn it, I've messed up the bold writing again

RabbityMcRabbit · 09/04/2018 15:22

I doubt the police will be interested. I'd take it to the local council if I were you, as anti-socual behaviour

SpringNowPlease2018 · 09/04/2018 15:31

I don't think Winterdown will be back.

it's going to be weird for her DC I think. I grew up knowing the neighbours well and when my parents had various illnesses (we were teens) they were on hand to help. If you've pissed off the whole neighbourhood you can't ask for help - well, okay you can, but they're not likely to agree.

SpringNowPlease2018 · 09/04/2018 15:31

oh and the "we own our house outright" - WTF has that got do with anything at all?!

GreenTulips · 09/04/2018 15:32

I doubt the police will be interested

Read the post

Most police forces have a community officer and would rather things were reported to prevent further problems than deal with a huge problem later on. Prevention is easier than detection.

RabbityMcRabbit · 09/04/2018 15:38

GreenTulips I think the OP is one of the lucky ones in that case. I was going on personal experience. I was assaulted by a NDN and the police's handling of it was unacceptable

GreenTulips · 09/04/2018 15:51

Then you should've made a formal complaint

TeasndToast · 09/04/2018 16:47

@ summermeadows. Me too. I think some folk forget that just because circumstances dictate, that we have no less desire than other people to provide a lovely home for ourselves and our children in a naice area. We work hard, keep the house lovely and it’s like some dirty little secret we have. Sad really but the PP demonstrates why we feel the need to keep quiet.

RabbityMcRabbit · 09/04/2018 17:08

GreenTulips oh I did believe me

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