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To say No (DP put petrol instead of diesel in car)

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NotAHousewifeFromCheshire · 05/04/2018 22:36

DP has just phoned from Gatwick where he is picking up 1 of his DC . His DD (18) is with him.
He has broken down which has now transpired he has put petrol in the car instead of diesel.
He is obviously off the scale pissed off & suggested I should come to collect them (via Uber) so they don’t have to wait.
The journey is 45 minutes each way.

I don’t have the money to spend.

AIBU to say no ?

OP posts:
FiveNightsAtMummys · 05/04/2018 22:37

Why do you need to go? Couldn't they get a uber back home?

grumpy4squash · 05/04/2018 22:38

If he wants an Uber, he can just get one. No need for you to travel there and back. I would have thought he'd need to stay with the car so it can be recovered though.

dangermouseisace · 05/04/2018 22:38

YANBU. RAC/AA will sort him out.

Even if he's not a member he can join, at a price, but it will probably be cheaper than an Uber.

Belphegor · 05/04/2018 22:38

Why can't they Uber home on their own?

QueenDoris · 05/04/2018 22:38

It depends. Are you the sort of person that would help out their partner when they are in need? Or are you the sort of person to post a whiny thread about it on Mumsnet?

Userplusnumbers · 05/04/2018 22:38

Yes, why do you need to go? Can't they order their own Uber?!

BuntyII · 05/04/2018 22:39

Tell him you'll come and get him if he gives you the diesel money?

AnneLovesGilbert · 05/04/2018 22:40

They’re two adults. They don’t need an escort!

UrsulaPandress · 05/04/2018 22:40

Offs Queen.

Why do you need to go?

And who puts the wrong fuel in their own car???

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 05/04/2018 22:40

He can order his own Uber, it'll be far quicker surely?

AnneLovesGilbert · 05/04/2018 22:41

Of naff off doris. He’s an adult who’s been abroad without OP and now ballsed up.

KatharinaRosalie · 05/04/2018 22:42

Why does he need help to call AA and/or Uber?

Butterymuffin · 05/04/2018 22:42

Even if you went and got them, what then would happen to the car? You can get someone from the AA/RAC to come and drain the tank, but doubt they would then drive it home for you. They'll expect you to wait! So they will have to hang around.

LizzieDarcy1907 · 05/04/2018 22:43

Text him the numbers of some local breakdown companies. And turn your phone off.
He's an adult. Let him deal with the consequences of his stupidity.

AuntMabel · 05/04/2018 22:44

How is it going to work if you get there in the Uber before recovery people do - assuming he has called them? You can't abandon the car. Does he expect you to wait whilst he and DD go home?

Quicker and cheaper for him to wait for the tow truck. Will cost £££ to drain/clean/refill the engine.

melonscoffer · 05/04/2018 22:44

My husband put petrol in his diesel van. I found a service that comes to your vehicle and sorts it out.

The diesel was sucked out from the tank somehow.
Within the hour it was being sorted.
We filled up with diesel and drove home.

Inertia · 05/04/2018 22:44

Surely he needs to call one of the breakdown services to sort the car out?

ChildofASD · 05/04/2018 22:45

And then what? He will still have to deal with the car. no no no. His stupidity his problem to sort out. RAC Fuel Drain Patrol on: 0330 332 8456

AnneLovesGilbert · 05/04/2018 22:45

Apologies, he hadn’t been abroad as was picking his DC up.

Nevertheless, he’s capable of making calls, googling services he needs and sorting himself out without OP needing to swoop in and rescue him.

Noqonterf · 05/04/2018 22:46

Can't he get the AA out to drain the tank?

ErrolTheDragon · 05/04/2018 22:46

No sense at all in spending twice as much, and wasting your time. Unless there's some particular reason the 18yo isn't able to accompany the other DC home - you don't say how old that one is.

QueenDoris · 05/04/2018 22:47

I clearly have my relationship priorities wrong. I thought that if one or other of us needs help, we would work stuff out together. It would appear from this thread that what you do is leave your other half to deal with it on their own and post shit about them on the internet.

Original poster
NotAHousewifeFromCheshire · 05/04/2018 22:47

@Queendoris - not whining just venting my frustration after he’s been on hold & ive been on hold to RAC/AA etc for 25 minutes.

Thank you everyone else. You are all right. They can get back in their own Uber if they don’t want to stay & support their Dad.

Yes he’s a complete dickhead for putting the wrong fuel in the car.
Currently having a glass of 🍷 & will just let him sort it out

OP posts:
Anotherdayanotherdollar · 05/04/2018 22:47

I don't actually understand this. what does "collect them via Uber mean"? Surely getting an Uber from where they are would be quicker?

NapQueen · 05/04/2018 22:47

Huh? This makes no sense.