To say No (DP put petrol instead of diesel in car)

[NotAHousewifeFromCheshire]

DP has just phoned from Gatwick where he is picking up 1 of his DC . His DD (18) is with him.
He has broken down which has now transpired he has put petrol in the car instead of diesel.
He is obviously off the scale pissed off & suggested I should come to collect them (via Uber) so they don’t have to wait.
The journey is 45 minutes each way.

I don’t have the money to spend.

AIBU to say no ?

Ahhhhhh come collect the 18yo! Now i understabd.

Dh should just call an uber for the 18yo and put them into it.

what is there to be 'worked out?' It doesn't take 2 people to call for assistance.

Has he sorted the car?

Did he start the car OP? As that will be a lot more work than a drain.........

I don't understand how a person can be so incompetent to misfuel their own car.

No idea if he’s sorted it as haven’t heard anything.

We don’t have breakdown cover so we phoned different companies. Most now don’t do phone up & join like they used to.
We were supporting each other but my AIBU was about him wanting me to get an UBER from home to accompany DC back.

Ah, does them = kids? 18yo can Uber alone surely?

He is pissed with himself and not thinking straight. It happens often hence AA/RAC etc specialist fuel trucks although driving it won't have helped hope it gets sorted.

Yes - dickhead for wrong fuel (I’ve done it once in 30 years of driving but will never admit to it )

Blaaake I thought that until I did it myself and drove it to work and back! My dad (a mechanic luckily) was really pleased with the hour he had to spend draining it on his day off! In my defence it was my it was my first ever diesel car, but we’d had it 2 Years!

Don't get him an Uber. He needs to sit and think about what he's done. Half joking anyway he needs to be with his car!

I think the OP means her DP wants her to pick up his kids in a taxi while he stays for breakdown. But one of them is 18 so that's ridiculous. And if he he scared of them being in a cab alone then they can just stay with him.

He’s just phoned - he’s being towed back

@Loulalollipop I once owned a bloody car dealership and the amount of people that have done it means you're not alone! However in my 25 years of driving I've never done it, and I've had loads of big diesel tanks.

Yes sorry- I don’t think I explained properly.

He wanted me to accompany his DC in an Uber.

Anyway they are all currently being towed back

I'm guessing he's not quite twigged yet that an 18yo is a young adult, not still his little girl?

AA still do sign up now and get help.

Glad its sorted.

I think sometimes when things go wrong, you don't always think clearly. By tomorrow he'll realise what a dumb idea you getting an Uber was!

Is he usually the type to baby his children? Expecting someone to "collect" an 18 year old is beyond silly.

I filled my diesal car up with petrol once. I'd had a diesal for years and I have no idea why I reached for the unleaded that day. Dickhead badge here. In my defence I was heavily pregnant, very sleep deprived, stressed as fuck trying to finish work so I could go on maternity, and clearly not thinking very straight.

@mustshowdh - thanks. Yes I think he envisaged waiting for hours at the barriers of the car park (awkward) & just wanted DC to be home as 1 had been flying for 6 hours.

Anyway currently prepping cheese on toast & apparently DP ‘needs a drink ‘ !

It depends. Are you the sort of person that would help out their partner when they are in need? Or are you the sort of person to post a whiny thread about it on Mumsnet?

Or are you a mug like Doris?

Sod that, he could get a cab.

Reminds me of a mate of my husbands last year. His girlfriend had been to a town 175 miles away for something, and her train came back at 6pm, (as what she was doing finished at 5pm,) and she said she didn't wanna be arsed to travel on the train at that time, as it would be busy...' So could he come and get her.

He refused. She moaned. But she only had to get one train (no changes,) that took 3 hours. HE would have had to travel 4 hours there and 4 hours back with her IN THE RUSH HOUR, and take the afternoon off work (as he would have to start out at 2pm-ish.)

Incredibly self-centred of her to expect him to do an 8-hour 350 mile round-trip, when she can jump on the train, go to sleep, and be home in 3 hours

But Cheshire WHY would he want you to "collect" them? Why was that his default reaction instead of just sending them off?

I don't understand why he can't get an uber from where he is.

Regardless, I think you sound like a dick.

"Currently having a glass of 🍷 & will just let him sort it out"

Sounds like a very unpleasant relationship to be in.