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What things are acceptable to do in your PJs then?

312 replies

EphraimLevi · 04/04/2018 23:40

Answer the door

Put the bins out.

Go down to breakfast in someone’s house.

Go down to breakfast in a hotel

Early morning dog walk

Go to the shops.

Do the school run.

??

I would (and do!) do all except the last three because I am terminally lazy and rarely dressed before noon if I don’t have to be. AIBU and a dreadful skank?

OP posts:
speakout · 05/04/2018 09:24

EphraimLevi

So PJs are your choice of day wear?

You put on PJ bottoms in the morning to wear all day?

Don't you shower in the morning?

Pinkvoid · 05/04/2018 09:25

I have seen people go down for breakfast in a hotel in their pjs and it’s bloody weird! Out of those I would only take the buns out personally...

Pinkvoid · 05/04/2018 09:25

*bins Grin

cherish123 · 05/04/2018 09:26

Number 3 is poss ok if it's your parents' house.

speakout · 05/04/2018 09:26

I think many people wear PJs in public places to make a statement.

It screams " look at me I don't give a fuck".

Except it means you do give a fuck- you want to be noticed.

Zaphodsotherhead · 05/04/2018 09:28

I feel a bit icky about being seen by anyone apart from my nearest and dearest in my pyjamas. So I tend to choose pyjamas that look like 'leisurewear' (for want of a better word) and still absolutely never wear them outside unless it's to put the bins out because I've forgotten (carefully checking the road outside to make sure no one is about) or to hang washing out in my (not overlooked, no neighbours) garden.

I was caught by some horseriders this morning putting the recycling out. They just gave me a cheery wave, but I was morto. And as for walking the dog in them!! Have you seen the mud out there?

Original poster
EphraimLevi · 05/04/2018 09:29

I usually shower before I get dressed, or in the evening.

I will be getting dressed in a minute to go to the tip (rock and roll). I didn’t get dressed yesterday as I didn’t have to go anywhere and DH is off so took the dog and kids out for their run.

I am at my happiest in my home, in comfy pjs. My dream would be to not have to leave the house for weeks on end.

OP posts:
speakout · 05/04/2018 09:32

EphraimLevi you must lead a quiet life.

My life is too busy to be interrupted by a shower half way though the day.

By then activities are in full swing, people need things, errands to go, stuff to pick up, drop off, people at the door.

I wouldn't have the time to stop mid way though the day to get ready.

SirGawain · 05/04/2018 09:32

We stayed at a nice hotel, (part of an international chain), in the UK. Guests were mostly business people and a few tourists. The dining room was part of the main lobby. I could not believe it when a whole family came down to breakfast in pyjamas around 9am. Very disrespectful to the other guests.

londonrach · 05/04/2018 09:33

In theory none of them are but 1 and 2 are ok in an sos situation. No idea how any of the others can been done. Maybe if you a child doing a sleepover have breakfast in someones else house. Unless im ill and even then not for long pjs are for bed only and maybe in the evening if watching a film.

nagynolonger · 05/04/2018 09:33

The first two.

It's OK for toddlers to wear Pjs to breakfast in a hotel but not adults.

Ebeneser · 05/04/2018 09:36

Early morning dog walk in PJs?! Would the poor dog only go round the corner? I put my walking gear on by 6:30am to take the dog out for a couple of miles minimum. Couldn't imagine doing that in PJs, they'd get sweaty, and potentially muddy and wet.

I have often answered the door to the postman if he has come too early on a weekend in my PJs and wild hair (I'm sure they've seen worse). Used to take the bins out in my PJs, but don't since getting the dog as I'm up and dressed at the crack of dawn on weekdays now.

I've gone to the corner shop in my PJs, but wearing wellies and a long coat.

Friends houses, my families houses etc, PJs at breakfast no problems.

Those are the only times I'd personally wear PJs. Seen a few people wandering around in the supermarket in their onesies now and then, but so long as people are decently attired I don't care what they are wearing.

BarricadesBabe · 05/04/2018 09:37

On the mornings I do the school run I shower, dress, tidy hair and put on lipstick/mascara, then when I get home I take it all off again and put on my comfy "work uniform" for the rest of the day Grin

LakieLady · 05/04/2018 09:38

My life is too busy to be interrupted by a shower half way though the day.

Halfway through the day when it's before 9.30? I'm still at the drinking tea stage (although I have been out in the garden to hang up some washing, wearing my pyjamas).

I don't shower/dress until I've done a few chores. I see no point in getting showered/dressed if I'm only doing housework. I'd rather do it afterwards, to wash off any housework-induced sweat and grime.

abitoflight · 05/04/2018 09:40

Urely it depends on what pj's look like
If flannelette and pink pattern type of things I wouldn't put bins out in them
I have pj's that plain marl grey and look like casual wear/leisure wear and certainly appropriate to answer door in and have walked dog early and gone to corner shop with coat and boots over them
If I know I've got a big household cleaning job, I'll keep them on for that then get into proper clothes as they are easy to wash and not restrictive

mzcracker · 05/04/2018 09:41

The first 2. Ive answered the door in pjs and dressing gown but I'd only go out to do the bins if it was really early!
Sometimes I compromise by throwing on leggings and a hoody and leaving them out. It's loungy but still counts as being dressed right? 😆

littlepill · 05/04/2018 09:41

The only thing I can bring myself to do is potter around the house - once or twice have stayed in pyjamas all day, but I even disgust myself with that Grin I don't usually wear pyjamas in bed, anyway (sleep naked Smile) but the thought of presenting the world with clothes I have been sleeping in makes me feel ill. The thought of all my shedding cells from my sleepy body. Ick ick ick!

OTOH I would never know if someone else were wearing theirs, but it does seem inappropriate to wear them to the supermarket or on the school run. Implies an unwashed self!

princesspeppax · 05/04/2018 09:44

I would not do the last 4

In my dds nursery i have seen a few parents dropping / picking there kids up in pjs Confused seems to be the same parents who often do it, cant understand why

missmorleyme · 05/04/2018 09:44

popc0rn i live in Liverpool and hate seeing people out in their pajamas, its just looks lazy. And dont get me started on the school run, its like some people just want to live in them.

pencilhoarder · 05/04/2018 09:44

I would have to get dressed to do any of those things because I sleep in the nud. It's a good discipline and saves on the washing Smile

PrimeraVez · 05/04/2018 09:48

I didn't realise so many people wore pyjamas at all.

I have one pair that I would wear if I was sleeping at a friend's house, but apart from that I always sleep naked.

Once DS is in bed, I usually have a shower and get changed into something comfy (jersey haram pants, vest top etc) so would happily run something out to the bin or even pop to the local shop dressed like that.

MMcanny · 05/04/2018 09:48

Get dressed is the only one I can think of! I have nipped out to the bin in the garden but even then feel a little naughty!

OneStepSideways · 05/04/2018 09:48

I don't think any of those are acceptable if your PJs look like PJs. Although answering the door in them is ok if it's before 9am.

My trick is to wear PJs that look like loungewear. Loose fitting black leggings or joggers or those stretchy slouchy trousers that have a seam down the front, with a stripy t-shirt. That way if i haven't got dressed and the postman/a neighbour knocks, I look like I'm dressed! If I'm going out I shower and put a bra on. If I'm just going to the shop/putting bins out I wear fresh 'loungewear'. For breakfast in a hotel I always shower, dress and do my hair and make-up. I feel more confident like that.

I think part of the obsession with wearing PJs is that Western clothes tend to be uncomfortable. Jeans and 'proper' trousers have zips and buttons that dig in, a lot of dresses and tops are cut to be figure hugging and need supportive underwear.

RidingWindhorses · 05/04/2018 09:51

Why not get some soft 'leisurewear'? That's what I wear round the house. Yoga pants and soft cardigans.

I also have 4 Jack Wills tartan shirt dresses in brushed cotton - super comfy and not unlike a nighty but I wear them with tights and padded ballet flats.

HidingFromTheWorld · 05/04/2018 09:52

On our travels last summer, we stopped at a McDonalds at about 7am for a toilet break and drinks and sat in the car people watching for a while.

A car pulled up next to us and out got mum, dad and two children. They were all in their pyjamas, with dressing gowns and slippers. Then a people carrier pulled up next to them and about 7 people emerged in various items of nightwear.

They all had bed hair, all looked like they’d just fallen out of bed (probably had) and they drew everyone’s attention!

We were Hmm