To have ran after the delivery bloke in my dressing gown?

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So most Friday night's my sister and BIL and my ex H will come round for a takeaway/tipple.

We usually go to the same place each time because it's nice food, quick delivery etc.

BIL or Ex H answers the door whilst we get the plates. It's always same driver in red cavalier.

Can always hear BIL/exHmaking small talk, weather, busy? Etc

So they haven't been for a few weeks so me and DP decide to order. My DP is a woman.

Food arrives and door opens, she says hello, thankyou, is there drinks? And thanks goodnight.

All silence besides that, I thought it must have been my hearing but when she walks in I said "did he reply to you?"
She says 'no. He ignored me completely. Wouldn't even look at me

So I ran out and asked why he felt it acceptable to completely ignore a customer when she was talking to him and to not even say you're welcome when thanked. First he pretended he couldn't hear me then pretended he didn't speak english. I know he does because we've ordered from them for over a year!

He half mumbled 'sorry' (whilst looking through receipts and wound the window up and drove off.

This was last night. I was going to call the shop but thought nothing would be done.

But AIBU to he annoyed that he would have a full convo with BIL and DH but wouldnt even look at my girlfriend?

Why is everyone banging on about small talk?! Op said her dp asked him a direct question and he ignored her. He then refused to acknowledge her thank you.

Wow! I'm pretty anal about customer service, your DP may be been a bit affronted but YWBU! Running after him in your dressing gown? Get a hobby.

"he didn’t spout out his life story to someone he saw for the first ever time"

Don't be so silly. 'life story'? It was just a case of replying to 'hello,' 'thankyou' and a few other utterly ordinary snippets of polite exchange.

Enough socks here to have a Primark multipack with the days of the week on.

Misogynistic cunt is definitely paradoxical chickoletta .

Massive overreaction OP. Kindly accept the grip I am handing you and use it.

YABU and slightly unhinged..

i really cant imagine giving a shit if the delivery driver spoke to me or not. I have far more important things to worry about (and im sure so does he). Maybe he doesnt like strangers and feels he knows your ex & BIL by now. Maybe he doesnt like gay people. Maybe he doesnt like women. Maybe he is just a cockwomble. Who gives a shit - his job is to deliver your food then fuck off while you enjoy your evening - not to chat to you.

Enough socks here to have a Primark multipack with the days of the week

They have to be told it's not acceptable here.

Absolutely, OP.

Down with this sort of dog whistle thing.

Pretty sure you aren’t the only gay in the village OP. How on earth would the delivery driver divine that your DP was your DP anyway? If BIL or your EXH always answer the door, it’s more likely he thought the two of them were a gay couple and he was wondering where the hell a woman had suddenly sprung from.

Nice work, by the way, using your sexuality as an excuse to be racist. About as subtle as a sledgehammer. 1/10.

Yeah, there's a lot of internalised misogyny on MN these days esp AIBU since well, since fucking FaceBook / penis fucking beaker / the flow-across to the Daily fucking Mail.

Mind you, I think a lot of threads are started by fucking journalists and this could well be one of them. Who knows?

Have I said fucking enough to not be quoted in the Mail yet?

stopbeingabloodyvictim

Made me snort with laughter, thank you!

He may well have just been having a crappy day or not feeling up to talking, yes a little rude but not complaint worthy. He is the delivery driver his job is to deliver the food which he did.

Being gay is highly likely to have nothing to do with it, how would he work out that this "new" female to answer the door must be your GF? If he has only seen XH & BIL it could have been either of their OHs. Reading between the lines is this your first female partner and your expecting a lot of attention/conflict over it???

Was he uncomfortable because she was also in her nightclothes?

I'm with Dippingmytoesin What exactly does not acceptable here mean?

Huh?
Delivery driver arrives
Hands order over correctly
Leaves
Cant see an issue.
Maybe he is more blokey with erm blokes that he sees regularly.

I knocked on the door of a house once to do an Estate Agency viewing. The guy answered the door in boxers and tee shirt. I was so embarrssed I didn't know where to look. No rudeness intended.

Yeah silly woman expecting a polite reply to a question. Ffs.

It's a shame,he obviously forgot to hand over your bag of grips

We often order pizza on a Friday night, and it’s always the same driver. Usually my DP goes to the door, and they have a chat about football because they support the same team and go to matches (the delivery guy had a team sticker on his car window). If I go, there is absolutely no chat, beyond thank you very much, and maybe a comment about being busy/weather. I just want the pizza. I hope the delivery man doesn’t take it personally.

martha Why are you so determined to make this such a woman verses man issue?!

Calm down OP

Perhaps he wasn't in the mood to speak?

Perhaps it's because he doesn't know her as well as your ex and BIL?

I highly doubt he knows you are gay unless you've told him?

Feels like you are looking for people to have an issue with your sexuality and yes you were being unreasonable to chase after him!

It does sound like he has a problem with women. Some cultures definitely encourage this and it is very rude. I dont think I would have chased him down the road but a call to his employers would have been a good idea.

I think you have far more issues than this. You've just projected onto the poor driver.

Huge overreaction on your part. Shocking behaviour - you not him.

YABVVVVVVVVU.