To have ran after the delivery bloke in my dressing gown?

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So most Friday night's my sister and BIL and my ex H will come round for a takeaway/tipple.

We usually go to the same place each time because it's nice food, quick delivery etc.

BIL or Ex H answers the door whilst we get the plates. It's always same driver in red cavalier.

Can always hear BIL/exHmaking small talk, weather, busy? Etc

So they haven't been for a few weeks so me and DP decide to order. My DP is a woman.

Food arrives and door opens, she says hello, thankyou, is there drinks? And thanks goodnight.

All silence besides that, I thought it must have been my hearing but when she walks in I said "did he reply to you?"
She says 'no. He ignored me completely. Wouldn't even look at me

So I ran out and asked why he felt it acceptable to completely ignore a customer when she was talking to him and to not even say you're welcome when thanked. First he pretended he couldn't hear me then pretended he didn't speak english. I know he does because we've ordered from them for over a year!

He half mumbled 'sorry' (whilst looking through receipts and wound the window up and drove off.

This was last night. I was going to call the shop but thought nothing would be done.

But AIBU to he annoyed that he would have a full convo with BIL and DH but wouldnt even look at my girlfriend?

Well it doesn’t sound like great customer service but your reaction was over the top and incredibly aggressive.

There could be lots of reasons why he was quiet/rude most of which are nothing to do with you.

As an aside, how on earth would he know that your DP is gay? Especially given that a man usually answers the door.

I do think you are bringing other issues/past experiences to this encounter OP.

The usual response would be to order from somewhere else next time.

They have to be told it's not acceptable here

What is not acceptable where? How would he know you are gay and why would he care? You wanted to start a fight op, I wouldn't bother ringing the restaurant, I suspect he will have told them you shouted at him and your custom won't be wanted anyway.

How would he know the woman was your girlfriend? He probably was expecting your BIL and exH(!)

I mean why on earth would you run down the street?! if this really happened of course

He knew woman answered the door and completely ignored her question and every thing she said. On what planet is that not rude?

OP
You ordered food and got food, so what's the issue ?

His job is to deliver food, not be sociable.
Maybe he doesn't like Females.
Maybe he doesn't like gay couples
Maybe he doesn't want to talk
Who knows.

As long as he wasn't verbally RUDE to your DP,you have to get over it.

Your behaviour sounds slightly OTT.

You are not being unreasonable, OP, and the level of misogyny on this thread is frankly depressing,

I'm imagining him starting a thread here, explaining that he's an introvert and doesn't like talking to people...

Absolute nonsense.

Everyone knows homosexuals can't run.

niska you are correct the digusting misogyny on this thread is mind blowing. These people genuinely think its perfectly acceptable to blank a female and the women should apologise to him!!!

It does sound like you've been teetering on the precipice of 'I'm ready to take offence' for some time.

Why are you so touchy?

pooryorick so he is an introvert who can talk away to men but he cant even exchange a single civil word with a woman?

What? So you didn’t get small talk and that upset you? Honestly, I rarely make small talk with delivery drivers; it’s clear they just want to make the drop and get out. They probably won’t fancy delivering to you again

I have no idea who he is. He is a delivery driver, he delivered food. Given how many MNers are 'introverts' who can't pass the time of day with another human being, I don't understand the issue here.

Oh my god get a grip

I've honestly never had a food delivery driver who hasn't just wanted a tip and to fuck off, sharpish. I don't feel marginalised.

Not acceptable here? Oh fuck off.

Is 'misogynist cunt' an oxymoron?

Maybe it's because he knows we are gay but he had a problem with her.

Your the one with the problem here. Huge chip on your shoulder. Massive overreaction.

Not acceptable here makes me think of Royston Vasey or something

Oh dear op I can almost see this unfold like a comedy sketch! Cringe! Of so maybe he could have been more polite but please! Did you try to lasso him with your burning bra?

“Yes, Hello is that the chipper”

“Yes it is, how can I help?”

“One of your drivers was rude to my DP today”

“Oh, sorry, what did he do”

“Well, he did his job, by delivering our order, but he didn’t spout out his life story to someone he saw for the first ever time”

....

Abysmal customer service indeed 😂

So what? why does a delivery driver have to engage in small talk? Granted, it would be nice but it's not necessary, as long as you received your food then I don't see the problem.

My ex used to do take away deliveries. He always had a laugh and a chat with regular customers as he knew them, people he’d never met before not so much as some people don’t like to chat etc.

The more logical explanation is that the driver didn’t chat as he’s never met her before, or he was in a rush, or not in the mood for a chat... there are a million possible reasons before jumping to misogynistic homophobe. Your reaction was odd and if I was the driver I’d refuse to deliver to your home again if you actually did follow him out in your dressing gown and accost him for not being “friendly” enough.

I hate to burst your ego-balloon OP but I suspect the driver wasn't remotely interested in your sexual orientation, and wasn't giving you or your partner a seconds thought. You probably really aren't that interesting.

Imagine if it was a Man chasing a woman delivery driver in his nightclothes down the street and being rude to her because she didn't make small talk with him. I'm pretty sure the police would be involved.