To ask over 40s how they feel about their hair?

[AjasLipstick]

I'm 45 and this year my long hair just looks awful. It's the texture of a horses tail thanks to me dying the greys at home. It's very, very thick and dry anyway...so now I must be 80% grey, it's worse.

I'm going to have to get the chop. I'm really nervous because though I am attractive, my jawline isn't what it was...last bob I had about 5 years ago drew attention to my jawline being less than sharp!

I am thinking of something a bit funky though....I'm not a particularly conservative dresser...more likely to be seen in big boots and slightly vintage clothing than anything expensive and posh.

What style?? I want some length on top! NOT a bob though.

I really like the way Emma Willis has her hair of late? Something like that maybe?

I'd consider longer layers it might help the condition and keep your lovely locks .. I have light layers just at the ends and my hair bounces happily... I have fine hair mind

Yes that long on top look is what I want I think....so I can have it down and floppy or "poofed up" a bit quiffy.

I just had this haircut yesterday (not me in photo!) I love it. I have thick wavy hair. Been having it cut in a similar style since last year when I had my long hair chopped off but it grows fast!

Gemini it's past that I think. As it's so thick, layers just make it thicker. It's really in bad condition and much darker at the bottom half than the top thanks to bad dye choices.

Order that's lovely but no way would mine look like that on an average day...plus...I have about three times as much as that in thickness!

It might be time to get your colour done at the hairdressers if you can afford to, that might avoid the drying issue.

I’ve been graying since my twenties but have been quietly colouring it back to my natural colour so long that few people know.

A good hair dresser should be able to advise on a flattering cut and on the best way to deal with your colour is you are mostly gray.

I’ve found that a salon shampoo is really worth the extra money these days to keep my colour intact and my hair looking glossy. Supermarket brands don’t cut it these days unfortunately.

Cavendar I plan to ask about the colour problem...I just can't afford regular salon colours though. Not within my reach.

Slightly shorter version, more bob like though. My stylist cuts right in and takes a lot of the weight out of mine.

45 and I love my hair. Naturally white/silver/grey, and currently a couple of inches below my bra strap :-)

If you've thick hair, layering it will help. It also sounds like you need more off the top as that's where it's been dyed the most, and it will help the condition.

The style pictured above is good for thick hair, it probably just needs a bit of scrunching while drying to give it a bit of a style.

I had a pixie cut over a year ago but am worried that it verges towards looking like Big Boo from orange is the new black. I spend ages trying to style it and wax it but it’s thick and heavy and flops about.

Am growing it again now and have just about managed to transform myself from Big Boo to Mrs LegoHead.

Ajas it is difficult, it is very expensive. In that case get your stylist to bear that in mind when suggesting a style.

You will probably find that cutting the damaged/dry hair out makes a world of difference.

Going completely gray can look fabulous as well if you get the style right and adjust your make up etc to match.

Nearly 44 here. Just found my first grey hair a couple of weeks ago. Other than that, no discernable change in my hair condition, colour, thickness etc.

Love my hair I'm 56 very thick hair which is going white on top and in front but still dark brown underneath and at the back. I have it coloured at the salon just a root touch up and warm highlights covering the white bits. I wear it in a jaw length bob - my jaw can still take it.

I’m 55, I was convinced (by my hairdresser) to cut my hip length hair when I hit 40. Biggest hair mistake ever!
I’m only now happy with my length again , it’s just shy of waist length, I hated how frumpy I looked with the old lady bob, I did persevere with shorter hair for a few years, then I began growing it. I only realised I liked my hair again once it was beyond my collar bone.
Be sure before you commit to short hair, it takes much longer to regrow, I do have mine up a lot, but if I spend time on it, it looks great down.
I’m about 80 grey and colour it (hairdressers, not box kit)

I have extensions. Not stupidly long or fake looking but it's the only way to get decent hair in your 40s. I use Brazilian hair and wash twice a week. After years of trying to have the volume in my 20s I am sure it's the only way! Maintenance isn't that expensive, about £60 a month and when they are looking rough I slide them off and she sites them at the roots.

I also recommend a very good stylist. Home hairdressing shows. But it depends what you want. Having now RTFT, I can see extensions aren't the answer. But a really decent cut and colour, properly maintained is. Once you find a stylist you trust, let them tell you.

I think I'm just sick of long hair....I wear it up every day as I hate the way it drags my face down when it's not up.

Cavendar it's not the cutting that I can't afford but the colouring....pro colours cost a lot.

I've always liked low maintenance hair. Now that I'm in my 50s, i wear my hair up most of the time. It's shoulder length and I get the hairline highlighted to blend in the grays.

Mostly twisted and clipped.

If I wear it down I curl it either a wand for waves. Makes it look thicker.

Keil well I am in a strange country and can only go on recommendations from friends. No way of knowing if I trust them till' I let them cut it off!

50 that's how I wear mine...twisted and clipped....but I'm tired of the sheer weight of it I think! I'd never wear mine down as it looks awful.

I’m 46 and mine is a shorter version of the photo disordered posted
It’s mostly dark brown but I have blonde bits underneath which I dye rose gold at home with a temp dye I add to my conditioner at the recommendation of my hairdresser.
I really love it at the moment

I'm 40 + but I don't dye my hair as it's not grey and if I see the odd white one I just pull it out! Mine is thick and long, I wear it up most days as it's prone to frizz. If I'm going out I'll straighten it so I can wear it down but haven't got time to do that every day! If I do go grey I guess I'd dye it but keep it long.

Well into my 50s here and I've been dyeing my hair since I was 14 and have no plans to stop ever. My regrowth now shows some grey but as it's coloured every 6 weeks I have no idea how grey I now am and that suits me fine!

My hair is exceptionally thick and heavy and I'm letting it grow. Now just below shoulder length and I'm thinking it's about where I want it to be as washing and drying is becoming quite a chore.