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DH hasn't even acknowledged he didn't buy me an Easter egg

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bitdisgruntled · 01/04/2018 23:23

Just that tbh. I was kind of expecting that he hadn’t as a few times in the past I’ve bought my own ( but told him when I had) and there was no obvious last minute dash to the shop on Saturday night. Then this morning the children got theirs from the Easter bunny and he was half jokingly complaining to the children that he’d been left out. Then I gave him his egg (which incidentally was one of the larger eggs, much bigger than the children’s) in a bit of a rush as we were going to church and he didn’t say thank you or say anything at all really. We’re home from my DM’s house now and still no “Tadah! Here’s your egg.” He hasn’t given me anything and hasn’t even mentioned the fact that he got me nothing. It’s not the lack of an egg that bothers me - there’s loads of chocolate in the house. It’s the lack of, well I don’t exactly know - just an “ I didn’t manage to get you anything this year” would have been ok. I realise it sounds childish, totally prepared to be told iabu

OP posts:
sleepyjane · 02/04/2018 07:26

Nip in Tescos today Op, they usually have some of the big luxury ones left over. Treat yourself, make sure it's a nice big one.

monday1983 · 02/04/2018 07:30

Its just some chocolate, get over it

Twodogsandahooch · 02/04/2018 07:31

I don’t think YABU. we’re not known for our massive gestures and we bought each other one. I would do as others have suggested and eat at least half of his

pilates · 02/04/2018 07:33
Biscuit
saoirse31 · 02/04/2018 07:33

Can't believe adults buy choc eggs for each other, tbh. Especially large ones, 'bigger than the children's...

But if you bought him one, least he could have done was say thanks, say he hadn't got you one and share it.

Coconutspongexo · 02/04/2018 07:35

MN baffles me I didn’t know there were grown women or men who got upset over not getting an Easter egg off their significant other.

PussCatTheGoldfish · 02/04/2018 07:36

Yanbu! I see I'm in the minority though Grin.

He usually buys you an egg and hasn't bothered this year, I'd ask him if he forgot.

Fwiw, we buy each other eggs and do the 'Ta daa' thing. Easter Grin

LiquoriceTea · 02/04/2018 07:38

But he doesn't usually buy her an egg. She said she sometimes gets it herself.

Xenadog · 02/04/2018 07:39

To anyone saying adults don’t get Easter eggs or it’s only chocolate you are missing the point. The OP’s husband has an expectation he will get a present and yet he doesn’t feel the need to reciprocate. He is showing himself to be a selfish and tight-fisted arse.

OP, I think I’d tell him I’m pissed off with this attitude and he needs to buck up his ideas. If he doesn’t get it, I’d make sure that I’d treat myself to all the things he likes and then definitely not share. Yes that’s petty but sometimes you have to make a point. I do think OP, you need to outline your expectations very clearly with your DH.

Btw I bought my OH a Heston egg (didn’t realise the bloody price until I was paying) but I didn’t expect or want an egg. He insisted and got me one in the family shop but he’s a (on the whole) thoughtful and generous man so not getting an egg wouldnt have been an issue.

JaceLancs · 02/04/2018 07:41

I can’t imaging buying each other eggs ever - in my household eggs were for DC when they were younger, I stopped buying them eggs sometime during high school
We do still buy treats for each other just because we can
I suggest if it means something to you it needs to be brought up in advance so there is a clear expectation

TammyWhyNot · 02/04/2018 07:45

It isn’t about the egg, and you need to talk to him.
You have different expectations: you see an egg as the token of love and affection that an exchange of gifts represents, so naturallly feel hurt,

Maybe he sees eggs as a traditional trapping of the season, which get bought with the groceries, same as hot cross buns, in order to be found in the egg hunt. Maybe he thinks they are just for kids, maybe he hears you saying you want to cut down on chocolate.

Or maybe he thinks the Easter Bunny really does bring them,

This has been going on for a few years now.

Ask him. Just say “how come I always get you an egg and you never get me one?”

Ohyesiam · 02/04/2018 07:49

F you feel invisible/unappreciated/ underloved, you need to talk to your partner about it. Don’t Pin it all on a non egg incident, as that makes it sound so trivial. but ask for more of whatever you need.

Skippetydoodah · 02/04/2018 07:49

Some years I've bought DH one and he's forgotten, and vice versa. We both get to eat the chocolate regardless! It's not quite like forgetting you birthday or Christmas present is it?

NutElla5x · 02/04/2018 07:56

Do what I do-eat the kids eggs!
Seriously I find it funny that you buy yourself an Easter egg-chocolate yes, but an actual Easter egg seems a bit childish to me,unless it's after Easter and the price has been knocked down by so much that it'd be rude not to buy one or 5 Easter Grin

Shen0102 · 02/04/2018 08:03

if you don't ask you don't get..he kind of asked for an egg, well he moaned in this instance and he got his egg at the end of it. He's not a psychic so maybe you should have asked for an egg too, he probably doesn't even realise you want one, as he thinks you probably would have bought yourself one or brought it up to him.

Orangecake123 · 02/04/2018 08:06

You are not being unreasonable.

It's not about the chocolate per se, but the lack of thought and effort from him.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 02/04/2018 08:13

Jump on his egg OP ! 😂

Downtheroadfirstonleft · 02/04/2018 08:17

YANBU. Egg giving is something you both do and DH didn't do it this year. Talk to him though. Flowers

I'm a Christian and always thought Christmas was even more important than Easter. Worried I've been doing Christianity wrong...Confused

areyoubeingserviced · 02/04/2018 08:18

FFS

LotsToThinkOf · 02/04/2018 08:19

We don't even have the Easter bunny in our house and the DC are quite young, we just buy eggs and hand them over on Easter Sunday. I bought everyone an egg, DH didn't buy me one so I claimed one of the DC's. Sounds like the issue is his lack of effort overall rather than the absence of an egg.

Springsnake · 02/04/2018 08:20

I bought all the eggs in our house,bought my dh the one he wanted,and myself the one I wanted.....some shops may have some on sale today ,so go and treat yourself,and next year when you buy the kids one ,get yourself one

anxious2017 · 02/04/2018 08:20

This thread is hilarious. Again, the crazies of Mumsnet are out in force. Only on Mumsnet would it be suggested that you can't have an Easter Egg as an adult 😂 Apparently, chocolate in the shape of an egg is just for children. How utterly bizarre.

YANBU, OP. Most normal, adult humans in the UK buy each other Easter Eggs. That's why they sell gorgeous ones marketed at, that's right, adults.

Also, not many people give a flying fuck about it being Christian. It's all about the chocolate, amazing food, decorating eggs, being with family and days off work. Similar to Christmas. Zombie Jesus is just a background fairy story.

Alltheprettyseahorses · 02/04/2018 08:33

YANBU. It's thoughtless and inconsiderate not to get you even a little token. To complain about not getting an egg himself is an insult and if he wants one, then it shouldn't really be beyond his understanding to think that you might want one too.

Who bought the children's eggs, OP - I'm guessing it was you? If so, then he's not even showing any interest in them, just himself.

sleepyjane · 02/04/2018 08:35

Zombie Jesus is just a background fairy story.
Oh dear, had to get that one in eh?

speakout · 02/04/2018 08:36

YANBU. It's thoughtless and inconsiderate not to get you even a little token.

Rubbish.

It's pandering to an adult behaving like a 5 year old.

If I complained to my OH about not getting an egg he would ( rightly) tell me to get a grip.

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