DH hasn't even acknowledged he didn't buy me an Easter egg

[bitdisgruntled]

Just that tbh. I was kind of expecting that he hadn’t as a few times in the past I’ve bought my own ( but told him when I had) and there was no obvious last minute dash to the shop on Saturday night. Then this morning the children got theirs from the Easter bunny and he was half jokingly complaining to the children that he’d been left out. Then I gave him his egg (which incidentally was one of the larger eggs, much bigger than the children’s) in a bit of a rush as we were going to church and he didn’t say thank you or say anything at all really. We’re home from my DM’s house now and still no “Tadah! Here’s your egg.” He hasn’t given me anything and hasn’t even mentioned the fact that he got me nothing. It’s not the lack of an egg that bothers me - there’s loads of chocolate in the house. It’s the lack of, well I don’t exactly know - just an “ I didn’t manage to get you anything this year” would have been ok. I realise it sounds childish, totally prepared to be told iabu

Yes Easter Eggs are a very important part of Christianity

We always buy each other easter eggs, but it's just something we've always done as we met when we were young.

You could always guilt trip hubby and send him to the shops tomorrow for one - everything will be half price, so you could end up with a whole lot of chocolate goodies, but drum it into him that he mustn't forget again.

What the fuck is all this sneering about buying Easter Eggs for adults? Plenty of people do it. But whether you do or you don't, the point is, for anyone who is genuinely adult, that OP and her husband do, therefore he knew that she was very likely to give him one and that he should reciprocate. Not to bother, and not even to apologise, does make him a bit of a dickhead.

I bought myself 3 eggs this year and not one for DH, he couldn't care less because he's a sodding adult

I do always give him more meat from the roast though

Eat half of his..

I can understand how u feel the other Christmas my other half announced I wouldn’t be getting a gift for Christmas as he only had enough money to give to his nieces and nephews ,two of which are adults with jobs .

Mmm so the general consensus is iabu. Ok admittedly I am feeling a little childish I suppose. But I still maintain it would be a normal behaviour to a) say thank you if given a gift eg an Easter egg and b) if you had nothing to reciprocate say sorry you hadn’t. According to MN however DH should actually have told me to grow up, what was I thinking buying him an Easter egg of all things!

YANBU OP. DH and I buy eggs for each other, because we love each other and like to do nice things for one another. Of course there is no real need for it, but it's lovely to know your partner has wanted to make a small gesture to make you happy. I get it.

When i do the Tesco order i just say "Ok what does everyone want?" and we all pick a big Cadbury's job.

Gnothergnu thank you.

Edwinbear thanks. That’s exactly what I meant. It just feels like he isn’t bothered.

It's not just Easter though is it op?

He buys you nothing else in general anyway, he doesn't sound generous in anyway
Least of all spirit.

Honest cards on the table,chat needed

I bought my own Easter egg, and made sure it was a Jelly Tots one as I love Jelly tots. DH got minstrels as I also love minstrels and if he'd annoyed me too much that would have been mine too.

As it was we ate chocolate (and small gummy sweets) for breakfast.

I love moments when I can be a big kid

So it's not really just about Easter. It's about the fact he doesn't really give a shit in general.

Have you ever told him the lack of gifts on special occasions bothers you? I would. I also wouldn't buy him anything if that was his attitude.

I can understand how, if you feel that giving each other an egg is traditional for you as a couple, his omission is notable and could be construed as a demonstration of a lack of affection or similar. However, I think that you've already undermined the importance of him buying you an egg by buying your own in the past. I don't think it would be unreasonable for him to assume that it wasn't important or a 'set in stone' expectation.

Just tell him that you expect an egg every Easter, and don't buy your own again.

It is upsetting when your partner makes it clear that he isn't bothered - when there's an occasion where gift giving is usual; he expects you to get him the relevant gift but CBA to get anything for you. And it's usually men who take this attitude that buying and arranging gifts is women's work, but the women shouldn't expect any kind of reciprocation.

Who are all the fancy Easter Eggs for, if not for adults?

If your children are past the Easter bunny stage do they still get Easter Eggs, if so, do they not think it is strange that the adults don't get Eggs? DS(13) gets an Easter Egg from us but he also buys us Easter Eggs. If we see any other adult relatives over the Easter holiday we will also buy them Eggs.

I understand why you are upset OP

OP don't let people make you feel you're being unreasonable. If it's important to you then it is. Your DH must know you like to get an Easter egg if you usually get one so I totally understand why your a bit put out. Just say outright that you would have liked an egg then next year if he still doesn't get you one he is an arse.

We buy each other eggs and I buy my Mum one and my adult son one. Have always done this. I would be upset too if my DH didn't think to buy me one just as if he hadn't bought me a birthday present. I am with you OP.

Oh my god of course adults get Easter eggs. Have you not seen all the massive adult eggs in the shops!!!

Juin the club. I didn’t get an Easter egg either 😢. I bought my gf one but she didn’t buy me one. 😢.

Since when do adults get Easter eggs?

Can't imagine many young children enjoying a dark chocolate Green & Blacks Easter Egg. Also as someone else has said you can get alcoholic ones, who would they be for?

Obviously, a grown woman being upset that she hasn't been gifted a chocolate egg is a bit unreasonable. But it sounds to me your AIBU is more about how you seem to be slipping out of your DH's thoughts and consideration. I think that is a reasonable concern for pretty much every married person, whether the lack of an egg indicates this is a more difficult question though.

I think you need to look at more of your life together to decide on whether it's worth pursuing. And if you do feel you really need him to be on the ball for specific gift-giving occasions (whatever you decide as a couple those should be), I think you need to be clear about it and stop muddying the waters by sometimes buying your own. Because it sounds as though there may have been a slow slide into this behaviour that you've been semi-complicit it in because you get yourself the present when you see something you really want - which could be a bit of signal to him that it isn't his thought, consideration and effort that is really important to you on these occasions.

I would just be straight and tell him you're a bit miffed he didn't buy you an egg! I suppose he could be a bit confused what the expectations are if sometimes you buy your own things for certain occasions and sometimes you don't. Then again I get why you're upset, it's the gesture, and if he hadn't got you anything but then you gave him an egg, he had the opportunity to then say sorry I'm sorry I didn't get you anything, but he didn't bother saying anything!

I suppose as most places are shut today he couldn't just pop out and get you something to make up for it, maybe he'll go and get you something tomorrow? If he doesn't then what's wrong with just telling him you're upset? I would. Then in future make it clear that you'd like an egg too!

Of course Easter eggs are for grown ups too, the shops are always full of ones geared at adults, especially the boozey ones with gin, Baileys etc.