DH hasn't even acknowledged he didn't buy me an Easter egg

[bitdisgruntled]

Just that tbh. I was kind of expecting that he hadn’t as a few times in the past I’ve bought my own ( but told him when I had) and there was no obvious last minute dash to the shop on Saturday night. Then this morning the children got theirs from the Easter bunny and he was half jokingly complaining to the children that he’d been left out. Then I gave him his egg (which incidentally was one of the larger eggs, much bigger than the children’s) in a bit of a rush as we were going to church and he didn’t say thank you or say anything at all really. We’re home from my DM’s house now and still no “Tadah! Here’s your egg.” He hasn’t given me anything and hasn’t even mentioned the fact that he got me nothing. It’s not the lack of an egg that bothers me - there’s loads of chocolate in the house. It’s the lack of, well I don’t exactly know - just an “ I didn’t manage to get you anything this year” would have been ok. I realise it sounds childish, totally prepared to be told iabu

OP: I just want to hug you!

Are you really, seriously, honestly in need of an Easter egg?!

I can't believe so many of you have missed the point. It's not about the egg!! It's about the OP's DH not getting her a thoughtful gift as in previous years and is expected.

My advice to you OP is to tell your DH that you were hurt that he didn't bother to get you an egg and establish your expectations accordingly.

No, sorry tried hard, can’t see the problem. Is this the first world perhaps?

Maybe he's not an arse and just didn't realise you expected an egg. I wouldn't assume adults did.
However I did mention to my mum that although I'm 34 I still need an egg 😂😂

My hubs said 'we don't do eggs do we!' Rolling eyes
'No dear, have we in the last 11 years'
'Don't tell me I have to do a card!'
'I know I'm a bit obsessed with cards, but no, we just go to my mums and she cooks lamb'

...but she did turkey and I was livid...

Surely OP this is not just about the egg but you feeling generally neglected by your DH perhaps.

It's not really usual practice for a DH to give an Easter egg.

Wow! Well I didn’t expect that. I only thought I’d get half a dozen comments.
At the risk of inflaming the situation can I just say again it’s not about the chocolate or lack of actual egg. It’s not even about the fact he didn’t buy one - he has form for not buying Christmas/birthday presents. What I was upset about was that when it became obvious I was the only person in the family with nothing he didn’t say a word. Like he either didn’t care or refused to admit it. He deliberately ignored the fact. His whole attitude then and behaviour the next day was just nasty. Surely the normal behaviour of a DH would be “ oh bitdis you haven’t got anything, sorry I didn’t get a chance to buy you one ( he’s been off for two weeks) here share mine “ or do I have some unrealistic mills and boon image of marriage - I was using the egg analogy as a comment on the state of mine ( for those who haven’t caught up yet )
Anyway it’s Wednesday now - I’ve moved on.

I think in our case mine would assume I hadn't wanted to buy myself one if I'd bought for him and the kids, as whoever goes shopping gets them. I dont think he's even be aware of feeling neglected.

However I can understand if it's a general thing with presents - mine is rubbish with birthdays and mothers day. I've learnt to actually prime him in advance, explain I need the children to get me something - how about x and "can you sit down and make cards with them tonight." He honestly wouslnt otherwise at it just doesn't register.

If love him to be the type that buys something for me thats just lovely or thinks of me that way but he isnt. Have you read anything about "love languages"? Mine is the type that loves by "doing" so will be practical around the house and is ever so thoughtful that way.

Id still like not to have to organise my own presents though ;)

I think the majority of the people on here have completely missed the point and have also felt the need to post some harsh and unnecessary comments. The OP is obviously feeling upset because she was thoughtful towards her partner whereas he completely forgot about her. I don't think this has anything to do with the chocolate and everything to do with their relationship and it being one-sided in the fact that she is kinder and more loving towards him than he is towards her and she is feeling upset about.

wow - if this is a problem in your life - you must live a pretty sweet life.

"he was half jokingly complaining to the children that he’d been left out."

So he expects one from you but didn't get you anything? Start eating his Easter egg, you'll quickly see whether he "just wasn't that bothered" or not.

Easter eggs are for children but if you really want one the supermarkets have loads of reduced ones now.

"wow - if this is a problem in your life - you must live a pretty sweet life."

@MrsFarm - I don't think it sounds like a sweet life. @bitdisgruntled's dh made a fuss when he thought HE hadn't got an Easter egg, but couldn't bother his arse to make sure he had got one for her - and has form for forgetting to get her gifts in situations where he expects one from her - as @purplepansyem said, it is a consistent disparity in the relationship, and the thoughtlessness and lack of consideration that has upset the OP. That doesn't sound like a sweet life to me at all!

It's not really usual practice for a DH to give an Easter egg

What now? Usual practice to who? It's definitely usual practice in my family.

Easter Eggs are for children

No. No they aren't. Children do not get the monopoly on eating shaped chocolate.

Bollocks @anxious2017 only children ever eat chocolate shaped like eggs. Adults only eat normal chocolate bars, or chocolate shaped like mountain ranges that someone’s buys in an airport. I’ve been told that round truffles are ok, but if they get squished and look a bit like an egg you have to give them to the nearest child.

I'm totally confused. I was served a slice of cheesecake at lunchtime that had a mini egg on it. There were no children nearby. Was I supposed to pick off the egg and dispose of it? Perhaps I should have covertly wrapped it in a serviette and put it into my handbag to dispense to the nearest child at the earliest possibility. Or is it napkin?

Mumsnet makes life so complicated.

anxious would it help if I told you to get a grip, grow up and that if that's your only problem in life then you're lucky? I can do that for you free of charge if it'd help your dilemma

By the way, haven't you heard? Saying "serviette" has now been deemed to be common by MN so that was never the thing to do!

I bet @anxious2017 is one of those awful MNers who celebrate their own birthdays. I don’t even know the date of mine and think having it on your passport is grabby. Why are you hinting at border security to buy you a gift, weirdos?

It really didn’t occur to me that people bought their own Easter eggs! MN is awash with people who do this, apparently.

Do I boil your piss and make your teeth itch?

My exDH forgot to buy me a birthday card once, even though I took him to Card Factory, showed him the one I wanted and held him there until he picked it up. I was told to LTB, so I did.

Actually I read your last post on the loo and positively scalded my, wait for it... vulva.

Vial. Just vial.

anxious your type are the reason why MN isn't as good as it used to be. That's just you, pacifically

Vial?

Do you mean Vile?

I'm not normally so pedantic but ...

I think anxious was just larking about extinct, if you read the last few posts we'd gone off track somewhat...

Ah Ok, Sorry I didn't get the joke...

Bit late to the party but I'd be annoyed. We get each other an egg, I get DS whatever I want, he had a Bounty Egg off me and he shared his bounty bar with me, I'll share my mint aero with him. It's the little bits of sweetness and kindness that oil relationships