To think this is an april fools joke gone too far!

[Gabbyleo]

I've had enough really. out of any day not Easter. My DCs 8, 5 and 3 have been waiting patiently all month for their chocolate eggs. I wake up this morning to find the Easter eggs all eaten with the the boxing left in the cupboard , the wrappers inside with one smarty, button or malteser left . I put it on the top of the cupboard so only DH and the DS 1&2 (18 and 15) could reach them. I go up to DS room and they were pretending to sleep. I wake them up and they admitted to eating all the Easter eggs. there was 8 of them! I cant actually believe it! They said they were planning to go to shop and buy some replacements but it was closed. They claimed it was an 'April Fool joke but went wrong'. The worst thing was they both found it funny I've told them they have to apologise to younger DCs. That there consoles and phones will be confiscated for all Easter break and that they are grounded and won't be going to any of their friends house. April Fools jokes are supposed to be funny! DH told me in going too far but I don't care sick of them treating the younger ones like shit. Rant over.

I would check they aren't still hidden,if not then that's disgraceful behaviour I'd actually go mad. It's honestly not normal for a 15 and 18 yr old to act like that and to bully little kids.

Your DH is also an arsehole. I would find it very difficult to have any kind of respect or romantic feelings towards a man who thinks it’s funny to bully a 3 year old.

Basta
The only way they could get the smarties is if they opened the egg. The smartest are inside the actually chocolate egg

*actual

I think it's awful. My two have looked forward for today as it is part of the magic of childhood.

Of course it's possible that the eggs & contents are intact somewhere-but even if so, why should the kids have to have stuff that's been mauled about anyway?

So either way the older ones should be buying new to replace.

Slartybartfast

is this a blended family op?

Nope it's a family that's very divided. Where DH lets Ds1+2 to as they please. It's been getting worse lately especial DS2.

Your punishments are spot on. They are not young boys at all! Especially the 18 year old.
Maybe to them it was a funny idea to start with but I would be expecting some shame and remorse now. I would ask them to tell the younger ones what they have done and how any chocolate they receive today they will immediately give to their younger siblings. (How old are the younger ones? )

I would not be happy with your husband either. Do you think he was in on it? Not eating maybe but fully aware of what they were doing?

They definitely need to go out and buy good replacements too. And the older one needs to be paying his way in your house.

Op I'm with you. What they have done is so nasty and spiteful. It's not a funny trick. It really is a nasty thing to do.

Your dh sounds like a prick. Sorry!

Long shot - but is your DH soft on the teenagers to appear to be "down with the kids" and cool? Kind of reliving his own youth?

Are you sure this is still not an April fool and they will give them back shortly?

I reckon they have bought replacements already

At 18 and 15 they really should know better tbh. What they did was really nasty and there was no need for it. You 'd'h sounds just as bad tbh

I dont think it is an april fools joke if you can only get the smarties by opening the egg.

I also think if you have had them awhile then they havent eaten them all at once. I think they have carefully been eating them over time but you havent noticed as you havent got the boxes down till now so they looked intact if they were high up.

If they have done this and its normal behaviour for them then they will definitely not get on in adult hood etc.

My sister was allowed to do mean things to me as a kid and i barely spoke to her until i was around 25 even though we lived in the same house!!

I wont tolerate any mean or nasty remarks from my two kids.

YANBU. Aprils fools shouldn't upset people. They have done this to be greedy that is all. Definitely stick with the punishments, they need to know there are consequences or they will grow up to be really unpleasant people.

Ryder63

Long shot - but is your DH soft on the teenagers to appear to be "down with the kids" and cool? Kind of reliving his own youth?

Not a long shot you're spot on. DH has always been immature it was fine in the early years of our marriage but he's useless in situations like this.

I don't think he's in an this as he always responds the same way. Telling them 'they went too far and not to do it again'. No punishment or consequences for their actions.

Yanbu

If it is an April fool and they haven’t actually eaten them then they’re taking it too far and the time to confess is long passed.

I do think the “joke” was them eating them though. Which isn’t funny on anyone, especially not young children.

Long shot - but is your DH soft on the teenagers to appear to be "down with the kids" and cool? Kind of reliving his own youth?

If this is the case then Op's husband is an even bigger knob.

Presumably you pay for their phones? Then I would be taking the sim chips. If they want phones they can get PAYG sims. What arseholes.

but how do you ground an 18 year old or hide their phone?

the exact same way you do when they are 14 or 16. 18 is not a magical number for most children, nothing really changes apart from a few legal rights (driving for example).

A bit off topic but DC1 doesn't contribute financially despite working? I'd change that straight away!

April fool's post? To wind up the teenagers?

Are they maybe smoking drugs? Weed can give you incredible appetite for chocolate and sweets.

That's just downright cruel to little kids. Mean and nasty. Selfish and thoughtless. Do they like seeing their little siblings cry?

Tell your DH from all of us he's a total bellend as well.

You are not going too far OP, you are attempting to raise decent respectful functioning future adults and your DH is trying to be "cool". Tell him to grow the fuck up. How does he think those 15 and 18 year olds will so out in the real world in a few years?