To think this is an april fools joke gone too far!

[Gabbyleo]

I've had enough really. out of any day not Easter. My DCs 8, 5 and 3 have been waiting patiently all month for their chocolate eggs. I wake up this morning to find the Easter eggs all eaten with the the boxing left in the cupboard , the wrappers inside with one smarty, button or malteser left . I put it on the top of the cupboard so only DH and the DS 1&2 (18 and 15) could reach them. I go up to DS room and they were pretending to sleep. I wake them up and they admitted to eating all the Easter eggs. there was 8 of them! I cant actually believe it! They said they were planning to go to shop and buy some replacements but it was closed. They claimed it was an 'April Fool joke but went wrong'. The worst thing was they both found it funny I've told them they have to apologise to younger DCs. That there consoles and phones will be confiscated for all Easter break and that they are grounded and won't be going to any of their friends house. April Fools jokes are supposed to be funny! DH told me in going too far but I don't care sick of them treating the younger ones like shit. Rant over.

Honestly sometimes I feel like I am on a parallel universe here. What the sons did was bang out of order. What kind of 18yr old does that? I mean in what world? And then some have somehow excused the behaviour as jealousy, suggested its ok because 18 year olds aren't known for their empathy, others have grilled the OP on even distribution of eggs and then someone has said she needs a parenting course because she 'humiliated' her 15 year old? I mean what the actual fuck?

OP I hope DH is still on board. I hope you did tell your MIL and she will stop funding the driving lessons. Things need to change very very quickly.

5plusmeandhim you are either just shit stirring for the giggles or are utterly pathetic. You really think the Op is the one at fault here? Hell, what kind of job are you doing as a parent then? I'd hate to see what your kids get away with

UPDATE

Younger DCs day ended up getting much better. DS15 ended up going to MIL once DH threatened to cancel his phone and sell his console (which both his and DS18 use). He seems take DHs threats more serious then mine which is a problem. Told MIL what went on today and she was horrified and so where other members of the family when they found out. Didn't mention about the 'stupid bitch' comment as that would've most likely given her a heart attack knows her gdc is using such language towards me. MIL gave them a good telling off agreed with me that this is due to a lack of discipline. The two DSs weren't allowed any desert as MIL said they already had some last night. DS18 lessons are no longer being paid for by her. He complained saying it was a joke. MIL doesn't take back chat very well and said is disgusting that they were treating their siblings that way they should be protecting them not harming them. Then MIL ended up having s mini rant about how teens so badly behaved these days. I told her about the punishment. she told it wasn't enough that I should hide half of the DSs clothes and refuse to wash the rest for 2 months. No TV or any luxury. SIL recommended I put them in a bunny costume holding up a sign saying what they did and post it on facebook. I thought the idea was great DH said it was too far and we should stop attacking the DSs. The DS18 have been moody all evening. However younger DCs have been having a great time and got even more eggs from MIL. She even decided to give the ones for the DSs to the younger DCs instead.

DS18 now wants to leave the house and DS15 said he wants to live with him . He has claimed he's leaving the house for years but his room is always a mess, hardly ever washes up, Refuses to wash his clothes, doesn't pay rent ( which will be changing today). He claims if they've is gonna have to pay me rent then he might as well find his own place.

Thanks all for the replies. The day is slowly getting better however we still have a long way to go

A round of applause!!! Well done OP!!

Let them be moody, they're in the wrong, they know it and they don't like it. Good.

Well done OP and go MIL! see not all are awful
I think I would be giving the 18 year old a cheery 'bye then'

Hopefully this will be a kick up the backside for not only the teens but DH.

They've been a pair of shots but I would agree that shaming them on FB is unnecessary and going to far. You'd be sinking to their level of 'but it was just a joke'.

They need the punishments you set following through on. Be consistent and whilst I agree with letting MIL know what had happened particularly re the driving lessons being conditional, you & DH need to do the parenting. Don't change your punishments based on MIL comments.

Thanks all. DH has now gone back to the defensive saying its not fair on the DSs and that they shouldn't be feeling upset on Easter with the family. I'm really sick of these stupid comments. If he didn't go out and buy replacement Easter eggs for the ones they ate our DCs would've been upset all day, maybe even longer!

Told MIL and said she will have a word with DH. She said that this shouldn't be breaking up the and family and needs to be dealt with asap.

wow entitled much

yeah course rent at home is szame as is own place-thats a good one

let him find out how hard it actually is

glad mil backed you up-your dh is still excusing the egg stealing it sounds like

Pair of shits

I think this all lies with your DH and the fact he completely undermineds you in front of your kids. If he doesn't change his ways you'll have the same problems with the younger DC in years to come. I feel for you OP

Your MIL sounds great!
Your DSs sound awful & need taking down a peg. They sound quite nasty & deserve to be told so.
Encourage the older one to look elsewhere for accommodation & give him a breakdown of how much rent/bills/council tax/phone/food/water/tv/ transport will cost him (and his brother who he will be supporting).
They need a reality check.

They are 18 & 15, they'll get over it!

I agree that MIL needed to know so that she could withdraw driving lessons or not as she saw for, but her berating them & you running to her for back up re your husband is too much imo.

Your MIL is brilliant, cherish her. :)

Your sils idea is ridiculous. Your mil is spot on. Follow her to the letter. You husband is an utter, utter nobhead.

Bloody hell OP, what a crap Easter Sunday for you you and your MIL sound ace (but definitely don't humiliate them on social media!).

To near-adults picking on small children and toddlers is disgusting, they need a kick up the arse. If DS18 is bluffing about moving out then leave property section of your local paper in his room with houses circled and details of removal firms etc, call his bluff!

You DS18 sounds very immature. He might look at moving out, but when he realised all the costs of running a place, he'll change his mind.

Most 18 years old would play a prank omntheir younger siblings, but a prank is hiding the eggs or cling film across the door so they run into it or something.
What they did was selfish.

You're not wrong punishing them.

This is probably actually giving you a great opportunity to talk to your husband about how his parenting (or lack thereof) has caused your children to see nothing wrong with harmful behaviour- there is no consideration for others because there's no consequences for selfish, cruel acts.

It's a good time to find a new way forward.

Glad your mil had the balls your dh didn't

Your mil sounds brilliant.

Also if you are still washing the 18 & 15yos clothes, please stop. They're both more than old enough to wash their own clothes.

Just read the thread. Good on your mil. But your husband is going to be to blame for two horrendous adults should he carry on bailing them out and making excuses.

That wasn't funny or normal by any stretch of the imagination. I have two brothers who are 10 and 13 years older than me, at your son's ages they were responsible for getting me and my brother ready for school and looking after us, the worst they did was tell us about the bogey man,never anything so cruel! I really hope their attitudes change pretty quick because their father isn't going to be around forever to bail them out.

Thank goodness your MIL is so on the ball.

I’d be telling DS18 not to let the door hit his arse on the way out.

I DH won't allow DS18 to leave until I believe his is mature enough to live by himself. Him living alone won't end well, we both know that. Whenever I tell him that he needs to do more chores or pay rent he always responds threatening to leave and find his own place. I usually tell him that it's fine however DH tells him he's not mature enough to get his own place and then he's able to stay with no change in his behavior

You definitely need to stop doing his washing! Just leave it. He’ll learn how to use the machine eventually if he runs out of clothes! Sounds like your H is babying him.