To think this is an april fools joke gone too far!

[Gabbyleo]

I've had enough really. out of any day not Easter. My DCs 8, 5 and 3 have been waiting patiently all month for their chocolate eggs. I wake up this morning to find the Easter eggs all eaten with the the boxing left in the cupboard , the wrappers inside with one smarty, button or malteser left . I put it on the top of the cupboard so only DH and the DS 1&2 (18 and 15) could reach them. I go up to DS room and they were pretending to sleep. I wake them up and they admitted to eating all the Easter eggs. there was 8 of them! I cant actually believe it! They said they were planning to go to shop and buy some replacements but it was closed. They claimed it was an 'April Fool joke but went wrong'. The worst thing was they both found it funny I've told them they have to apologise to younger DCs. That there consoles and phones will be confiscated for all Easter break and that they are grounded and won't be going to any of their friends house. April Fools jokes are supposed to be funny! DH told me in going too far but I don't care sick of them treating the younger ones like shit. Rant over.

Although they are out of order, I can't imagine you can ground an 18 year old? He might act childish but he is effectively an adult.

Can't ground him but can kick him out! And as for the 15 year old - dreadful behaviour.

Do not let them get away with this. Tell MIL. And have a serious grown up discussion with the DH.

You need to ask your DP this question tonight, when it is just the 2 of you. Turn the TV off, no phones, make sure he's listening. Then ask him

"I want a happy family, I want us to get along and to know that the older DC are going to watch out for and care for the younger and vice versa when I am gone." pause "What are you aiming for?" pause "How do you think situations like today are helping you achieve that aim"

Then leave it and revisit every time he acts like a huge dick

Those two lads of yours need their arses kicked. The language from the 15 year old would have had me incandescent.

The 18 year old needs to man up and get out and start paying his own way in life. Maybe then he’ll grow up a bit. As for the 15 year old...well, I have no words. Not sure how things cane to such a pass with him but he needs very serious consequences for what he said to you. Much more than taking his phone away. Very tough for you with a DH who is not backing you up, however.

Let dh give the phones back, just turn the data off. I'm with EE and have quite a bit of control over their phones - just go on the app and turn off data. Eldest ds is 17 and this works a treat with him!

No way would I give the phone back after him saying that. He could sit on the front step instead as a pp said. Or of course go to a friend's, but they'll all be with family too and good luck to him trying to contact his friends without a phone.

Bloody hell op. What a shame these entitled boys have managed to cause so much upset on a family day that's supposed to be happy and chilled. What entitled young men they are. Ugh.

The way your dh behaves it seems obvious where they've learned it from too. I hope he does step up to the plate and start parenting them. Though I guess that's a bit too little too late for ds1

Glad your husband is beginning to see sense.

Oh and Plus DS15 is now refusing to go to MIL unless he gets his phone back.

Good, then he stays at home and MIL will be informed why. As your oldest son's ability to keep his driving lessons relies on his ability to be a decent human being I would certainly inform MIL!

At least she seems to be on the side of decent behaviour!

Do not give in op, let them sulk and throw tantrums, it's completely their own fault.

thats horrible. I would make them cook their own dinner too. Don't include them in any of the family activities today at all.

OK you and your husband are going to have some real problems with those DS of yours unless you stay united on what is acceptable behaviour (and of speaking to their parents). Your DH is an enabler in where he almost encourages them to act out as jack the lads and that needs to stop. Make your son pay for bed and board. Your MIL needs to know what sort of selfish behaviour they have indulged in as I would not be happy paying for driving lessons for someone so thoughtless and selfish.

As for DS15 let his GM know why he is at home and maybe that will shame him and his brother. Your younger DC also should know why their brothers have been punished. It is not a prank. It is stealing, particularly as one of the eggs was won by your DD.

Hope your younger DC are having a nice time with their cousins.

You said in an earlier post that ds15 was copying his older dB. Calling you a stupid bitch is totally out of order. At 15 he is oldenough to understand right from wrong. Your 18 yo was totally out of order but he isn't to blame for the 15 yo's behaviour.

Hopefully grandma is a proper old school 'Dont mess with the bairns' type.

Just wading in here....both your DS need to take responsibility for chores, their washing, cleaning - the works. They have no respect for anyone else so its time for some basic life lessons. Give them no money, no stuff, no data except for homework. Unless you deal with this now, and firmly, its only going to get worse.

If I were you I'd make the older boys buy Easter eggs, not just to replace younger siblings but also to donate to the foodbank or similar

Please don't throw any food/chocolate away.

Problem.is yoir dh has shown his sons it's ok the treat you like crap and not listen to you by backing them up. Glad he finally got a grip.

Id be telling 15ds that he gets his arse to his granny's or I cancel his phone contract.

Ooow their behaviour has made me mad. I can stand bullying. And the fact they ate their sisters school egg is just gahhhh

I wonder what they ever thought that the funny part would be?

And replacing 8 eggs-yeah, sure they were going to to that!

Tell your MIL. The driving lessons depend on good behaviour. Don't be party to the cover up.

As for the 15 year old calling you a bitch etc. I would say phone has gone for good now.

If you leave the 15 year old at home God knows what you may come back to.

I do agree that he shouldn't be calling the shots.

If a family visit was arranged to MIL-then everyone goes.

Wtf does he need his phone for when out visiting family anyway?

I would definitely tell MIL. She might get your DH to start backing you up

If the driving lessons get stopped then the 18 yo learns that actions have consequences. 15 yo doesn’t go to MIL- fine. Switch off internet access, he’ll get bored. He still has a heck of a lot of ground to make up after what he called you.

Your H seems to be starting to get the message, he needs to stay on board. If he’d backed your sons after today, you would be justified in questioning his attitude to the whole marriage.

I hope they 'get it' I really do or god help their partners/families in the future. I'm sure they are food lads but... well they have acted like selfish jackasses and they should be looking after their younger siblings not tormenting them. I think DH is to blame there by minimising their actions.

I hope to God they would at least have the decency to stand up for them if they were being bullied at school or something.