Strange Neighbour and what to do.

[StressedtoHellandBack]

I dont think I am being unreasonable but want other opinions.
I have owned a property for over 20 years, it used to be my home. It was a nice place when I bought it and for many years later. Some years ago a couple bought a house in the row. They were very nosey people. They would come out a stand around if anyone went into a neighbouring property. If anyone parked in the street or had Road Rescue in the street they would be out. They watch where everyone parks or who goes in or out.
I moved away. Due to circumstances it has taken time to get the house ready for sale or rent. I have noticed that all the watching is going on especially if I am wearing heels which make a clicking noise on the paths.
I have rejected this man's advances not only because I do not like his type but also because I know his wife. He was warned by family members to leave me alone. He has been reported to the Police, none of which seem to have had any effect.
I still have items to remove from the house and work to carry out. I am nervous about going to this property because of this man. I do not think this is right. It should not be allowed. There should also be questions because this man's dubious behaviour is going on in the vicinty of several schools. I am also concerned that if the house goes for rent or sale his obsessive watching would put off prospective occupants.
What can I do to stop this man or alternatively (which I think is wrong) find a way of coping and being less frightened by his conduct?

Angryresistor I am sorry you had such a bad time. I am worried what this might become.
For a while it seemed he has backed off but lately he is moving it up again. It is not nice and the wife does not appear.
I am moving a distance from the terrace which is not pleasing to my adult children as I will be too far away to be helpful. I can not expect them to stay with me or provide a home for me. I have made this decision as I think it right. They think I should stay and ignore but when I get home late in the night it is scary because he is still there awake and staring at after 2 in the night. I am told I am running away but I see no other way

Sadly I think you are doing the right thing by moving away from this strange man.

Upon reading all your posts, if my neighbour grabbed my chest (I assume you are implying chest) or hell, grabbed me at all, and continued to be leering and watch me whenever I came home alone, and just generally acted like a creep, especially if I was unwell and in an understandably bad place, I would feel nervous and uneasy and affected by his actions.

I think moving away from him is the best thing for you. You'll no longer have to worry about him and can start afresh.

Not all men are like that so don't worry, he is a nasty letch and nothing you have done has encouraged him. It was probably just because you were near and easy for him to continue to watch and confront you.

Please don't change your behaviour because of this man. Wear your high heels, tap along the path.

Hold your head up, you did nothing wrong. This man got at you when your were very vulnerable and that was really bad of him. Truth is though, he probably won't do it again since you knocked him back; he'll just try it with someone else. He's horrid.

You know most men aren't like this.

Come on Jux are you saying that if there's a nutter knocking at your door you don't lock it and put the chain on? This man is obviously not like MOST men he's horrible, I wouldn't wear my high heels up to the door if I knew he was listening all the time.

Really? OK then, up to you.

If a guy had grabbed me (and yes, it's happened often, I grew up on a time when curb-crawling was normal and accepted, when bosses felt perfectly alright about goosing young, junior staff, and a Judge could decide a raped girl was asking for it due to the length of her skirt, so if a guy had grabbed me and backed off when I told him no, then I would not deviate from my routine one iota. If he came to my door that would be different, but I suspect this man's been told and won't bother op any more. If by any chance he does, then she will deal with that as she has dealt with him before.

Jux - When I was young there was wolf whistling and commenting but I was not grabbed at work or anywhere else. I wore short skirts too. If a boy got too close and failing to take a telling there was always the "knee" thing. I have given that a thought perhaps I should have done that there and then but was so weak with my health.
I went to the terrace yesterday and today. In recent times the popping out and window watching got more intense and I found out from another neighbour that he thought I was a new person. Clearly any woman is going to be a target if they move there alone. Today there was window watching. I wore soft soled shoes on purpose.
This guy is just a total weirdo and until the Police or someone's husband or brother tells him where to go he will continue. Alas that does not seem to be happening as far as the police are concerned. We are not supposed to deal with things ourselves so weird folks get to be weird and cause upset.
I hate that I am having to leave the terrace but I don't want to spend years like this.

Stressed I totally understand and I wish you luck in the future.