To ask when you put your baby in their own room & why

[vampirina]

I know the guidelines are 6 months but don't know anyone in real life who moved them at precisely 6 months. We are at 5 and DD has started waking up (she's slept from 7-7 since she was 8w of her own accord) when we go to bed or move around. I'm wondering if she would sleep better in her own room soon, or if it would be more hassle for me as id have to get up and go to her rather than reach across.

So I'm curious, when did yours make the move and what was the catalyst?

5/5.5 months. When he grew out of the side cot.

Mine is almost 8m and he's still in the snuzpod next to my bed.

He napped in the same room as one of us u until he was almost 6m as well. We're in a flat so it was easy to move the snuzpod room to room.

I have always wondered if white noise cancels out some of the SIDS reducing properties of room sharing though. It makes it harder to hear each other - though I know that's only one theory.

6 months and 7 months. Noisy sleepers so it definitely helped. Although they're still coming to our bed most mornings around 4-5 am so I guess we're still partly in the same room..

Who are all these babies sleeping through at 5 minutes old?!?!

DS1 is FIVE and still comes through to me every night.

DS2 is 22 months and still in my bed.

I feel very alone in my parenting style!

Shack - you are not alone, my friend has two teenage DDs who still go into their parents' room most nights.

I would say she is far too soft - she believes in gentle parenting.

Not my style - but I was just super strict: bed time, good night, shut door.

shakeup DS2 is currently resting his foot on my thigh. He went to bed in his bed. Wondered inatound 3am, woke at 5:30am wanting to join me for breakfast and then wanted sleep again.

I suspect there are plenty of us bed sharing.

Dc1 - 8 weeks
Dc2 - 14 months
Dc3 - 9 months
Dc4 - 10 months
Dc5 - 11 months

We couldn't fit the cot in our room so we moved them when they grew out of the moses basket.

10 months. He slept through from about 12 weeks but I lived having him near me and he was so little. By ten months he had been walking a while so was tired and went to be earlier, we needed the room rather than tiptoeing in the dark and had a proper structured bedtime and routine and was ready for his own little space.

The day we brought him home. Not enough space in our bedroom - and in any case I think that was usual at the time (1985). Neither of us could get up without checking how he was. He was ff and I took the night shift - I enjoyed the experience of turning a hungry wet squealer into a dry contented drifter back into sleep. Eyes filling up here as I remember.

4Mths with DS1. I hated it, but i was returning to work, and didn't want to wake him every morning when i woke up at 4.30am to get ready. Putting him in his own room meant he slept through till about 7am.

@NinaMarieP do you think you have much longer with the snuzpod? My DS is on 75th percentile so has nearly outgrown it in length. He's 7.5 months. I'm wondering if he also is waking himself by hitting the side (one side is kept down all night)

15 months (we had a massive bedroom and his would have been on another floor so waited until we moved house) & 11months. Timing felt right both times.

18 months but was ready at 12 months but the cot needed dismantling.

The 6 month mark isnt just about SIDS, i think the 4th trimester plays a large part in keeping your baby in the same room.

I struggle to understand how after 9 months of carrying this tiny thing you would then place them in a room on their own for a very long period.

DS was 15 months, I just couldn't do it before that but eventually it got too much with the cot in our room. I'd have kept him in the room forever if I could I loved holding his hand while he slept

Was around 6 months. Not because of the guidelines so much but I kept disturbing him going to the toilet so much during the night. Also my partner who works 12 hour shifts as a chef was being disturbed early in the mornings every day. Just worked better for everyone all round really.

16 months. Because we were walking him when we went to bed, even though we were as quiet as possible. Also because we wanted to put him in a toddler bed, so we needed him to get used to his own room in the cot before we put him in his bed.
I cried my eyes out though. I wasn't ready at all.

Night we came out of hospital - 5 days. It was right next door to our bedroom, chalet bungalow. It was fine & worked for us.

To those claiming SIDS occurs due to baby forgetting to breathe - can you provide a link to a decent website which gives evidence for this theory?

Around 4.5–5 months. They got too big for the moses basket and our sleep was more disturbed by them being restless than them actually waking up for feeds etc.

@Panda81 my son was on the 98th percentile at 4 months and remains tall but skinny and we seem to have a decent amount of room left - tons when he sleeps with his knees tucked under his bum!

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TabbyMumz the 6 month guideline is to reduce the risk of SIDS. When they are in the same room as you, your breathing regulates their breathing. If they're not in the same room as you, that doesn't happen. It's got nothing to do with hearing them and being able to be there in a flash - if they stopped breathing, you wouldn't know. And although you could say that you probably wouldn't know if they stopped breathing while asleep in your room with you, the point is that being in a room with you reduces the risk of that happening.

Also - the guideline is for all sleeps, not just night time. So up until 6 months, all sleeps should take place in the same room / place as you.

Ds1 stayed in with us until approx 13 months when he dropped night feeds, dd1 until 16 months when she dropped them, and dd2 is currently in with us at 6mo.

Sleep apnea in babies study ⬆️

DS is 9mo and is still in with me. We co sleep about half the time. Not inclination to move him yet. But I’m a single parent so I have a lot of space in the bed.

Four months - we were all waking each other up and he was sleeping all night. Once we conquered four months sleep regression he went in his own bedroom. He’d been sleeping 9-6 from about 8 weeks and it got longer. It made sense as we were feeding in the night and we’re just disturbing each other.

I was glued to the monitor like.... but we had a sensor mat and I was happy with that.