To ask when you put your baby in their own room & why

[vampirina]

I know the guidelines are 6 months but don't know anyone in real life who moved them at precisely 6 months. We are at 5 and DD has started waking up (she's slept from 7-7 since she was 8w of her own accord) when we go to bed or move around. I'm wondering if she would sleep better in her own room soon, or if it would be more hassle for me as id have to get up and go to her rather than reach across.

So I'm curious, when did yours make the move and what was the catalyst?

Ds1 6 months
DS2 6 weeks. Another one with a snorey baby. For a couple of weeks he was in our room, but we weren’t as we couldn’t sleep through the noise!

I moved my DS into his own room at 18 months. I waited til I had stopped breastfeeding and he was sleeping through.

When DD grew out of her Moses basket. Between 3 and 4 months I think. No space for a cot.

6 months for the first, a week or two shy of 6 months for the second - we realised we were the reason she wasn't sleeping through and kept waking. She slept through on the first night.

7 months.

I always intended for it to be 6 months but DS needed an operation at 7 months and we knew he'd have to come back in with us afterwards so didn't see much point in moving him 3 times.

Couldn't have lasted in our room much longer anyway - our bedroom is tiny and he grew out of his Moses basket so he had to sleep in the travel cot in our room (no room for actual cot and there was no way I was co-sleeping).

2 years. My eldest stopped breathing at 6 months so I became extra cautious. I then put them into their room straight into a bed.

I can't actually remember

7 or 8 months?

This thread made me laugh. Mine came into our room for years, we thought we'd never get a night's sleep without them! Also felt embarrassed for anyone to know about it - until we heard them talking to their friends who also got up in the night and came in.

Don't worry about it, no hard and fast rules. Your children will want to be in their own rooms to have some privacy soon enough - then you won't be allowed in.

@peachgreen it's so hard to know what's best isn't it? Sleep deprivation really exasperated my PND in the early months and so I think it's crucial you find a solution that works in that sense. Hope you've got support and things are improving

5 months - just felt ready! I just knew it was time.

We are at 5 and DD has started waking up (she's slept from 7-7 since she was 8w of her own accord) when we go to bed or move around.

SIDS guidelines recommend babies don’t sleep alone before 6 months. Are you in the room with her or somewhere else before you go to bed?

My first went straight into her own bedroom but her cot was literally about 4 ft away from me as my side of bed was by the door and her room was at right angles with cot by door.

@TittyGolightly As stated above I'm aware of the guidelines. We are elsewhere with a monitor. It's worked well for us so far. We have a small house and she's within earshot.

We are elsewhere with a monitor. It's worked well for us so far. We have a small house and she's within earshot.

I knew you’d say that. The guidelines are because babies can forget to breathe. Hearing an adult breathe helps them to regulate their breathing. There’s not a monitor in the world can replicate that.

@TittyGolightly I didn't say the monitor was to avoid SIDS .

My ds is going into his own room next week, he is almost 7 months and has hardly any space left in his crib so there is no choice. Sometimes he sleeps through sometimes he wakes up 2-3 times for feeds.

I talked about guidelines. Then you talked about guidelines and the monitor. Sorry for not realising you weren’t referring to the guidelines.

6 months. She was trying to sit up in the Moses basket and the cot was too big for our room.

Plus she was a very noisy sleeper and DH was moaning that she was keeping him on edge all night waiting for her to cry.

@TittyGolightly Also pretty sure the forget to breathe logic is one of many theories. It reduces the risk to have them in the same room but it's not known why. I'd be amazed to hear that the majority of people have all naps up to 6 months in the same room without leaving.

Irregardless it's not what I've done and I'm quite happy with my decision on that front.

Well, consider it a public health announcement for others that think a monitor reduces SIDS risk then.

3 and a half when he outgrew the cot and moved into a bed in his own room.

Nearly 7 months. He outgrew his moses basket and we had started putting him to bed without us using the monitor at 6 months, so felt comfortable with him in his own room. I must admit I am one of those mums who stayed in the same room with him while he napped until 6 months. I was personally too scared of the risk

It was just over six months when my DS went into his own room. I mostly followed the guidelines, but from about 4.5 months he would sleep alone for an hour or so at bedtime before I went up to bed (although I struggled to relax about that I must admit). He had all naps on me until six months so he never slept away from me during the day. When he was very small we would bed share at night (breastfeeding so it was the best option and followed the safety guidelines) and then he went into a sidecar crib, once he finally decided that it wasn't made of lava!

I still sometimes sleep in DS's room with him at night now (almost two). If he is particularly unsettled or if he is poorly. We set up a floor bed and sleep next to one another - we generally both get more sleep that way!

DC1 I slept in his nursery on a single bed with them in their cot until 10 months, was the worst sleeper.

DC2 slept a straight 8hrs through at 4 weeks old but stayed with us until they outgrew the bassinet at 8 months old

DC3 didn't come home for the first 6 months so we both had numerous night wakings from rounds and the CPAP machine and monitors.
Funny how you get used to sleeping in that environment quite quickly actually.
They sleep in our room now at 2 yrs old and no plans as of yet to change that.

DD was 7 months. DS is only 3 months currently but it'll be when we can coax DD out of the cot and into a bed then he can move into the cot. It won't be before 6 months.