To ask when you put your baby in their own room & why

[vampirina]

I know the guidelines are 6 months but don't know anyone in real life who moved them at precisely 6 months. We are at 5 and DD has started waking up (she's slept from 7-7 since she was 8w of her own accord) when we go to bed or move around. I'm wondering if she would sleep better in her own room soon, or if it would be more hassle for me as id have to get up and go to her rather than reach across.

So I'm curious, when did yours make the move and what was the catalyst?

BertieBotts, if it's not noise, then you can keep a perfectly good eye on them with a monitor. If it is noise, then being merely on the same room without making it quiet isn't enough. As it is, at the moment, I don't think there is enough to support naps being in the same room. Where there's correlation without causation being understood, you have to exercise some common sense in what may and may not be relevant

5 months, twins who shared a cot in our room but got too big too share and no space for two cots.

First 8 weeks, second 11 months and third 3 months.

Immediately, from day 1.

There just isn't room in my bedroom for a cot/moses basket etc The only place I could have fit them is in the actual doorway which is cold, draughty and a fire risk and hazard for sleep deprived parents at 3 am.

I don't live in Buckingham palace so the babies room is immediately next to mine with paper thin walls.

3/4 weeks - another noisy sleeper, he self settled and slept from 7pm-7am with one quick night feed (yes, I know we were very lucky did follow GF ).

Probably beared the grunting for around 10 weeks with DS1. Also he was such a light sleeper that our duvet rustling woke him up. We all slept much better with him in his own room.
DS2 is coming up to 5 months and still in the cosleeper, thinking of getting him a cot soon and he’ll most likely stay in with us until he can stay awake until 7 and they can go to bed at the same time because I do t understand the logistics otherwise. He currently goes to bed at and then ds1 goes to bed at 7.

2 days!! We couldn't sleep through the noise so just left doors open to him in next room.

Around 12 months. I followed all the SIDS guidelines though as I was terrified of anything like that happening. I do think if it's going to happen it will happen but I had to know I was doing everything I could to prevent it. I've seen the devastation it causes and I was just terrified. Even now he's 3 I always check on him when I go to bed and every time I get up in the night.

When they outgrew the moses basket as I didn't have room in the bedroom for anything bigger.with my first thus was at nearly 4 months my second was10 months.

Between 16 months and two years, when we could put them in a bed and know that they could get out of it and come to us in the night if they needed us. Before that they were in cribs and cots in our bedroom.

DD at 7 months. We moved house so hung on that extra month.

DS is 6 months at Easter and he will be joining his 2yo sister in the same room.

Please note; I have whopping babies who slept through 6-6 from 9 weeks old.

QUESTION: RE the SIDS guidelines about babies hearing their parents breathing promoting them to do the same, does it also apply to other children, ie a baby sharing a room with a toddler?

For naps during the day, I would put the baby in the Moses basket into the cot in her room (with monitor etc). That seemed to help her get used to it as a sleep space. Again that was 10 years ago so I presume that is not in accordance with current guidelines either.

10 weeks as she refused to sleep in her moses basket from day 1 and due to reflux was a terrible sleeper and only slept lightly, so would wake up at every sound we made in the room. she would start the night in her nursery and inevitably end up in bed with me after night feeding. But at 4 months, she would do the whole night in her room, even though she was waking up 5 or 6 times and did not sleep through until 8 months. I breast fed in her room... it was tiring, but worth it as she loves her cot and room now. We did use a breathing monitor to give us peace of mind and her room is next door to my room so i could hear everything and get to her quickly.

We did 6 months for both. For me I wanted to follow guidelines so that if the worst happened and they died I did what I could to prevent it.

I don’t understand how an angelcare monitor helps with SIDS. Once they’ve stopped breathing isn’t it too late?

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I knew I had read somewhere that resuscitation doesn’t work for SIDS.

6 months. We finally moved back into our home and she had her room all ready and set up so we went for it. She was sleeping through and it seemed like a good idea as we were always on edge that we might disturb her. I wouldn't entertain it before that but no judgement to those who do before. Do what works for you.

DD within first 8 weeks, stuff the advice (during pregnancy I totally bought into the first 6 months rubbish), nonsense, my health visitor said the sooner you get them in their own room the sooner they’d settle into a routine, a fantastic baby monitor does the trick, you are so attuned to it, I found baby in same room waking me up all the time I was so exhausted I actually sleppt through prolonged crying I was so shattered, in their own room and pretty much content most of the night I woke immedialtely To the first unexpected sound...

DS was 4yrs 6 mths. His uncle was coming to stay and he was embarrassed he'd find out he slept with us!

SIDS - totally horrific an truly devastating, it can happen to the baby in the Moses basket next to you or the baby in the next room, we all obviously know now we don’t have baby in bed with is, too many tragic stories about that, we just follow the advice, don’t put babies on their fronts (the advice our parents were told to follow!!) we don’t pike them up with blankets and surround them with cuddly toys they can get smothered in, it’s all so much common sense now we have more knowledge but I’m just not convinced having a child in the same room a small you makes the safer,I think it’s the bedwe put them in and how we place them for sleep that is more important, and obvious things like not close to radiators, not piled up with blankets and stuff..

Imsosceptical Sorry but saying that no one sleeps with the baby in their bed is just nonsense. Plenty of people do it and instead of acting like it is abnormal, people should learn how to do it safely, instead of having to do it furtively like it is some guilty secret.

Most Asian and African families co-sleep, either out of choice or necessity, and of course most of their babies grow up to be just fine.

DD1 at just over 6 months. We had been on holiday and she had slept in another room as we couldn’t fit travel cot in ours, she slept fine so continued when we got back.
DD2 was about 14 months. We kept her in with us until she was consistently sleeping through, as she was going into a room with her sister.

@Imsosceptical plenty of people all over the world safely share a bed with their baby. If you fall asleep on the sofa, you’re drunk, you smoke, you ff, you have a big heavy duvet on the bed - then don’t do it.

6 weeks for both.