To think that’s it’s cheeky as fuck to expect other people to fund your skin removal surgery?

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My friend had gastric bypass surgery last year after really struggling with her weight since childhood.

She has done amazingly well and lost over 11 stones.

Yesterday, I had a notification pop up on facebook.

My friend has set up a page where people can donate money to help fund her skin removal surgery. The target is set at £6,500.

As someone who has also lost a considerable amount of weight (5.5 stones) and also has some extra skin etc, I find it ludicrous to even think of asking for other’s to fund it. I have told my friend this and she said that she couldn’t think of any other way to raise funds quickly enough.

I think if people are willing to donate then that’s their decision, nobody is pushing them into it.
I have seen some really extreme cases of people who have lost huge amounts of weight and the excessive skin is really debilitating, they basically have to ‘tuck’ it into their trousers and in some cases it comes to their knees. It can have a really enormous effect on someone’s self image, so i think it was my friend/family member I would try help out too. Just because someone has been heavy doesn’t mean they should be ‘punished’ by not being allowed help.

If women can get breast enlargements on the NHS because of their "mental health" then why shouldn't skin removal, which actually can be a medical problem, not be available?

The B12 injections, while I completely agree they should be funded, cost more than £6 a year. That £6 is just for the actual B12, there is the the syringes, needles and more expensive the cost of someone to prescribe and administer it.

Just an aside - the nhs doesn't always find breast reductions. I'm a relatively slim person 10-12 in jeans but with ridiculous 30j breasts. I was turned down by my local health trust.

I was talking to my brother about this last night. A friend of his has lost loads of weight with no operations just pure willpower which I respect so much. I would definitely give something towards him having the operation. If however they've done it through having surgery I'd be less inclined to donate.

I hate crowdfunding. Please pay for me to go travelling & expand my mind, fork off!

keira i was a 46 G BEFORE weight loss. Im now a 32HH So i know how you feel .

Thank God for Bravissimo.

I'm a 34JJ so I know the pain! I have often considered reductions in the past but have decided against it because a) I'm a wuss, and b) I know they're a nightmare to try and get funding for unless you can prove that they're giving you serious problems. Which, I'd imagine, lots of loose skin might do!

@mirime

Its completely different. Those are actual disorders, and anorexia/bulimia mostly affects teenagers/young adults. They havn't had time to deal with it yet, but most seek help and should absolutely have it paid for. It affect other ages as well, but again is an actual disorder and deserves treatment.

Obesity is another matter. There is binge eating disorder and people genuinely need help - as I said, there are medical reason for some people and they need help.
But we are facing an obesity epidemic, and it is not because of disorders or mental health problems - it's due to people living sedentary lifestyles, eating massive portions and processed food and then doing nothing about it.

There is a huge different between eating disorders and gluttony. Most people are overweight because of lifestyle choices, not because of binge eating disorder.

It is not the same, and people need to be treated as adults and told so instead of being pandered too and told it's fine to be big.

"being pandered too and told it's fine to be big"

Yeah and this thread soooooooooooo proves that this is the case.

Anyone who genuinely thinks that overweight people are "pandered to and told it's okay" has clearly never been overweight.

Or bully overweight people.

She's only asking. The beauty of crowdfunding is that it's, you know, optional. If she was my friend I'd donate.

Isn't the excess skin often donated to burn victims? It seems like if the skin was being used to help other people, something could be worked out regarding the cost of the removal.

People saying OP has "outed" this woman - how on earth can you be sure you've got the right one?!

Why on earth should the NHS fund this? There is s massive surplus of other things that the NHS can't fund. Why can't she save up for the surgery herself? I've had breast augmentation. I paid for it myself, because why the fuck should I stretch the already over stretched NHS for that? (Or ask my friends to pay for it for me!)

@Avasarala and alcoholics who are self medicating because of mental health problems?

Plenty of people who have 'self inflicted' conditions may have other problems that contribute towards that problem. Someone overweight may not have binge eating disorder but may be over eating for other reasons and, like people who self harm, are unlikely to be able to stop until those reasons have been dealt with.

And believe me, over the years I've read plenty of people in online discussions on NHS funding argue that anorexia is self inflicted.

But ok, another example - what about those non-smokers with lung cancer who never tested their house for Radon gas? They should have taken responsibility and at least checked online to see the risk in their area.

So any football fans that are travelling to Russia shouldnt expect any treatment from the NHS if they happen to get in a fight over there and get injured. Because they know what the political climate is and are making a CHOICE to go over there right?

I object to the NHS being used for excess skin removal but have no problem with people crowdfunding at all. Up to individuals whether they contribute or not.

@Lookatyourwatchnow Did your breasts prior to surgery cause you constant skin infections? If not it's not quite the same thing.

@mirime what if they were causing me to feel anxious and depressed? Still valid.

But why is your depression more valid than what Sally is going through.

Id be happy to donate to a good friend who has done well to lose weight. Would also help a friend who got so pissed they broke their back and now need therapy help walk again. We all make mistakes how we deal with them is the true test of character. Its a request to donate not a requirement. You dont want to thats fine why worry.

BMW6 But taxes pay for lots of things...............prisoners for instance.

@HelenaDove because I paid for it myself!!! Like she should.

"because I paid for it myself!!! Like she should"

so any football fans who come a cropper in Russia should do the same Because attending football matches over there in this climate is a choice too.