Oh FUCK - husband just overheard me having a conversation with myself!!

[DyingOfShame]

I am SO embarrassed right now.

The imaginary conversation was between me and a singing idol of mine. We were collaborating on something together when he suddenly announced that he had feelings for me and could no longer work with me, didn't want to cheat on his wife etc.....

I thought my husband had come up to bed 10 mins earlier and only realised when I got upstairs, that he was actually sat in the room off our kitchen!

FUCK!!! This is mortifying. He hasn't mentioned it but he surely heard me!

AIBU to run away and never come back?!

It’s a bit odd OP but nowt wrong with odd. Life would be dull if everyone was non-odd.

Ha!

I used to have a very complex set of inner worlds like people on here have mentioned.

Since having several awful real life traumas and very much struggling now, that bit of my brain seems to have closed down completely, it doesn’t bring me any fun or satisfaction now.

So I’d say that in some ways, it’s the sign of having a healthier mental state.

Bahaha. I sometimes chat to myself like I'm being interviewed on the radio. OH has walked in a few times and doesn't even blink now. NOT EVEN ASHAMED. When my time comes, I will smash that interview thanks to all my practice.

I do this all the time & I don't care if it's weird- it takes all sorts.

I like to imagine that this personality trait puts me halfway towards being an author. Ie I have the great imagination; I'm just lacking the decent grasp of grammar & punctuation and the time/discipline to sit down and write. I'm practically JK Rowling!

Of course I'm not currently in Australia preparing to represent England at the Commonwealth games in the 1500 and 3000 metres. I might even win a medal or two....

Op are you bored or unhappy? The fact you're so engrossed in having another life, that you act it out with voices, when alone, would say to me you don't like the life you have.

Is it odd. Yes. But I'm not sure it's harmless imagination but more a signal you want more, to be successful, to be important, to be talented, to be desired, and as your needs aren't being fulfilled in real life, you escape into a fantasy world.

@Bluntness100 I often have an imaginary world in my head- I can't do it when I'm unhappy though, it just doesn't work. It's just something to fill my mind when I'm in bed or out walking.

Welcome to my world OP and those so inclined

I'm a straitlaced business woman, who is arty and plays the saxophone (badly). Have many a conversation along the lines of the OP

Such 'conversations' are usually private, but if anyone overheats then they're usually roped in as at least bit players.

Lol I do it all the time... best conversations ever.
I also write and have been known to talk to my characters.

bluntness i just read it can be down to ocd which i have but its not about being unhappy for the most part. I am very happy and often amuse myself with my daydreams. Oh im also a comedian in my mind.

Never have chats with Michael Jackson, nope. Would love to, but no

I think you should mention to your husband that you're thinking of writing a play or something similar in case he did hear you - why would he hide in the side room in the dark unless he was trying to eavesdrop on you ... maybe he's worried about you because he's heard you before - just think it may be best to half explain to him

Nerr Same, when depression rears it's ugly head the daydreams go quiet. I can't do creative and interesting thoughts when depressed.

Bluntness, does that mean everyone who belts out 'Hello' in the shower has a deep, unfulfilled longing to be famous and talented like Adele? That they dislike their life?

Of course not. They are just singing.

In the same vain OP is just playing around with her imagination. It doesn't have to mean something.

Sometimes I like to pretend that I'm showing a time traveller from the 1800s around my house. 'Oh this? This is a sort of electric picture book with an attached typewriter. And this is a machine that can create all sorts of hot drinks with the press of a button. No, I do not own an ironing board and that really isn't shocking in the slightest these days...' etc. I'm not unhappy or bored with my life: it just entertains me for a little bit while I'm doing mundane tasks.

I do this too, but not out loud (usually). I read a lot of fanfiction and if one grabs me I daydream about it but with me as a main character too. They are quite involved, my longest running one I met, got married to, and had children with a famous actor. I've always daydreamed a bit, usually wrt what I'd say if she said that/this thing happened, but I think it got worse when my marriage started going down the pan. Normally I do it when I'm driving or before I go to sleep, it's a nice place to go to when I'm not doing anything else. I do concede it's a bit odd, but it's not harming anyone and makes me feel better.

MorbidBibliomancy, the Timetravalling Tourist is one of my favourites

morbid live the time traveller

Oh and in answer to Kim's earlier question, I wouldn't discuss it with dh because it wouldn't take a psychologist to see that they show how shallow I really am .

In my daydreams I've never been a lady president, vaccinated a village, travelled through space or been interviewed on woman's hour. I am however so gorgeous and lovely (despite not realising it) that multiple people have fallen in love with me. In real life thankfully I do put a bit more stock on things like intelligence/ambition etc.

'more a signal you want more, to be successful, to be important, to be talented, to be desired, and as your needs aren't being fulfilled in real life, you escape into a fantasy world'

Bluntness - this is an interesting analogy and yes there is probably an element of truth to all of that!

I interview myself when I'm on the loo. Radio interviews.

Serial - Ha, no I don't think he was actually spying on me or anything sinister. He often goes in there as his computer is in there and when he came upstairs he told me he just wanted to quickly read something online......

So, there is some hope that he didn't hear. But you could hear a bloody pin drop in the kitchen, so unlikely

I sometimes do a cookery show if I'm making something nice. But it's not a secret in our house and my husband does it too!

bluntness
'more a signal you want more, to be successful, to be important, to be talented, to be desired, and as your needs aren't being fulfilled in real life, you escape into a fantasy world'

@Dyingofshame

Bluntness - this is an interesting analogy and yes there is probably an element of truth to all of that!

At least ONE person on here is admitting to this!

@bluntness100

OP are you bored or unhappy? The fact you're so engrossed in having another life, that you act it out with voices, when alone, would say to me you don't like the life you have.

Is it odd. Yes. But I'm not sure it's harmless imagination but more a signal you want more, to be successful, to be important, to be talented, to be desired, and as your needs aren't being fulfilled in real life, you escape into a fantasy world.

All of this.

I think it is a sign of an unfulfilled life, dreams underachieved and a lack of contentment. And the fact that some people admit to fantasising about having sex with/an affair with someone famous, and having conversations with them, (doing both voices!) shows that their relationship with their partner is not great either.

People can deny all they want, but regularly immersing yourself into a world where you are someone else, and have a different life, (and play various roles where you do all the voices,) does not shout 'I am a secure, happy person who is happy with my life, and relationships.' It's very odd, and is a sign of someone who is bored and unfulfilled with life.

People can blather on about how 'it's WEIRD how people are getting so affected by other peoples lives' til hell freezes over. I (and others) are entitled to our opinions, and to post them on here. If you don't like the opinions, tough shit.

@Weebo

Bluntness, does that mean everyone who belts out 'Hello' in the shower has a deep, unfulfilled longing to be famous and talented like Adele? That they dislike their life?

Of course not. They are just singing.

That is NOTHING LIKE what the OP and a number of others have been talking about though IS it? They are talking about fantasising about a completely different life, where they are with different people/a different partner, and they have the career they have always desired. Which, as I said, indicates they are not happy with their life...

And as I said earlier, it's a very odd way to behave; fantasising about being in a relationship with a famous person, or being an Olympian getting a gold medal, or being a pop star who is winning grammys, and living that 'other life' in your head, especially when you are doing all the voices of all the other people, and talking back to yourself!

@BurnThisDiscodown

I read a lot of fanfiction and if one grabs me I daydream about it but with me as a main character too. They are quite involved, my longest running one I met, got married to, and had children with a famous actor. I've always daydreamed a bit, usually what I'd say if she said that/this thing happened, but I think it got worse when my marriage started going down the pan.

This ^ As your life and marriage got more shit, fantasies about a better life/your dream life got bigger.