Oh FUCK - husband just overheard me having a conversation with myself!!

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I am SO embarrassed right now.

The imaginary conversation was between me and a singing idol of mine. We were collaborating on something together when he suddenly announced that he had feelings for me and could no longer work with me, didn't want to cheat on his wife etc.....

I thought my husband had come up to bed 10 mins earlier and only realised when I got upstairs, that he was actually sat in the room off our kitchen!

FUCK!!! This is mortifying. He hasn't mentioned it but he surely heard me!

AIBU to run away and never come back?!

To the people on here saying it's not at all weird to have an imaginary conversation with somebody famous, (and pretend you're having an affair,) or to pretend you are a famous rock star, or you have a secret second life in your head; I will ask this......

If it is perfectly 'normal' behaviour, then why not tell everyone you know - neighbours, family, colleagues, and friends, what you do??? Why not tell them all about your 'weird little world in your head.'

I am not saying it means someone has a mental health disorder, but no way is it normal behaviour. The fact that the OP is mortified that her DH heard her, and a number of other posters said they would be mortified too, shows it CAN'T be normal behaviour. Otherwise, why not tell everyone you know about your 'weird other world.'

If someone is living out another life in their head, and imagining scenarios far removed from their real life, that is definitely a sign that something is missing from their life, and there is definitely something missing from their relationship, because this is just very weird behaviour....

And the 'hey I'm well quirky and a bit mad LOL!' line that some come out with is tedious and tired.

This thread is, (IMO,) a lame attempt at trying to get into 'classics.' yawn........

kimanda I don't think I'm wacky or weird or mad or anything else.

It's just something I do.

Perfectly happy to tell other people about it too. No-one I know has ever said it's particularly weird or anything, maybe they think so, I don't really know.

What seems weird to me is that something that harms no one seems to bother other people so much.

I do plenty of things I know to be entirely normal which I don't discuss with DH or anyone else. Keeping something to yourself does not make it inherently weird or shameful.

OP, I'm with you.

OP I LOVE THIS POST! I talk to the cat constantly (she’s got a very well rounded view of politics and appreciates the same tv as me) and to myself when she’s hiding from me. Sod it, who said we have to leave our imaginations at the door when we became adults?

I have to practice scenarios out loud when I feel stressed. If I have to go to court (have idiot ex, am not career criminal) I will spend whole nights rehearsing potential questions/answers/scenarios. It helps me process everything and be prepared.

Good point, freezer .

Masturbation for example. Perfectly normal but I don't discuss it with Theresa from accounting.

I would say getting so seemingly irritated by a thread like this is much stranger than anything the OP has discussed doing.

There are plenty of things people do alone that they would be embarrassed for others to see/hear - It's not abnormal at all.

As I said, 'big' inner worlds are very common and in no way suggest people have anything wrong or missing in their lives. That's just piss poor armchair psychology.

The reason I keep my imaginings to myself is that they're ...well... private. I'm well aware that if I have a crush on someone famous that's about me not them (I'm perfectly aware I might not even like the person in real life) and if I imagine a different kind of life that says something about me. I don't necessarily want to tell everyone else very personal things about me and I don't imagine they'd want to hear them either.

I don't understand why not telling people about something means you're doing something wrong. I don't go round telling people exactly how I like to have sex - that doesn't mean I think having sex is wrong.

I’m sorry, but it’s one thing to talk to yourself ‘Right, it’s 4pm, I really must get something done’ or to the cat ‘Come on Mollie, lets see what’s in the fridge’ or even to think through a conversation that may happen later to plan your responses, but it’s quite another to pretend to be someone else and have conversations complete with different voices etc. If you’re going to do this, at least own your nutz!

Enid What? Those who think it's weird, try it, you might give those unused empathy muscles a stretch

I don’t want to try it thanks, I have zero desire to pretend to be someone else & to have conversations pretending to be several people.

But WTAF does it have to do with empathy?

As long as it’s not hurting anyone else, people can be as nutz as they like, what they can’t do is act like it’s not nutz and expect people to agree. Own your nutz.

I wonder if the people who DONT do this are the ones that don't see pictures in their heads? The ones that just think in words.

I didn't even know that was a thing until a MN thread a few years ago.

So if you're a wordy thinker rather than a picture thinker then you probably don't get just how great it can be - how you can really immerse yourself into these other 'worlds'.

For me it's like making a proper full colour, full sound film in my head. But if you think only in words there's not much fun to be found in imagining shagging your crush or starring in your favourite tv show.

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I can happily be a ‘picture thinker’ if we are talking about the builder next door. Multi colour masterpiece.

The difference is I’m me (well, maybe a thinner, younger, sexier me ). I’m not Maid Marion, Beyoncé or the Powerful Leader of a Nation having out loud conversations, in different voices.

I do something similar to this, occasionally. Never out loud, but I'll have whispered or mouthed conversations that I'm either expecting to have, or would like to have but never will (e.g. discussing a break up with an ex, or imagining meeting someone I admire).

It's very rare - maybe once or twice a year - though I used to do it more when I was younger. I feel it's a way of sorting things out in your head, figuring out how you really feel and would respond if the situation arose. I feel better afterwards, as if I've resolved something that was playing on my mind.

I'm quite happy to admit it, but doubt anyone would be interested! It's not weird, loopy or a sign of a mental health problem (unless it's impacting on your day to day life). Humans are weird, we all do stuff that others might find strange.

Gosh some people get really defensive on here about other peoples (action packed oscar worthy) daydreams.

Kim - to clarify, I never said I was having a full blown imaginary affair with the rock star - I said he told me he was developing feelings for me, but didn't want to cheat on his wife.

Quite admirable of him (me) I thought!

Is it the whole 'affair' scenario that's getting your back up? Because I sense that you're rather annoyed by that particular point, even though you dreamt that up - I never said we were having an affair!

"This thread is, (IMO,) a lame attempt at trying to get into 'classics.' yawn..."

and yet you just have to be part of the action, don't you Kim!

I think this is actually the weirdest thing I've ever read on here!

Really pink? It's super common amongst people who either read a lot, or who write (all writers do this - the germ of all stories is in daydreams), or who are generally creative and imaginative.

What do you think about when you've got downtime, when you're out walking or doing something with music playing? Generally it's when I get it most, but also in bed about to go to sleep. My stories don't feature me usually, generally other people /characters - they all have a little bit of me in them though. I wouldn't be without it tbh.

Agree it's possibly a skill developed at a young age when not having a particularly fun time - don't like where you are? Well a good book / your own imagination can solve that in about 2 seconds flat.

I read a lot and am creative. I don't have any need to act out scenarios or do voices. My DP does tho. he has whispered conversations with himself (or an unknown other). Weirdos all.

Wow OP you're getting an undeserved hard time from some people!

I like to have a good old chat with myself when I'm home alone. I also talk to my cat, who is a great listener

Life would be boring if we were all the same wouldn't it.

I think the sheer number of people in this thread who say they do the same suggests it's not weird or unusual at all :)

😂 hilarious. You've tickled me.

Indeed it would be boring if we were all the same!

I'd much rather be in the imaginary fantasy land camp than the one dimensional 'normal' camp

My husband has just caught me doing something terrible and embarrassing...http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/2832231-My-husband-has-just-caught-me-doing-something-terrible-and-embarrassing

I actually want to know which rock star it was...

Wow, there's some serious over reaction from people on here, how on earth could you get so upset about other people amusing themselves with harmless interactive daydreams?

It passes the time, keeps us entertained, and is occasionally useful for working through things bothering us.

It's something we do all the time when we're kids, I watch my own kids doing it now. Some people eventually stop doing it, some of us adapt it for adult life. I'd imagine it's fairly common for those who do creative jobs, especially within fiction writing.

I've found my people!

I snogged my coworker yesterday, ended up in bed, had a very passionate affair, left dp and spent the rest of our lives together, all imagined in great detail, even down to duvet choices and holidays. It passed a very boring 5 hours.

I have arguments with other people in my head too, they are normally my horrible managers and everyone else is amazed at my sarcastic come backs.

My kids are used to me muttering to myself, I bloody hope I don't do it at work

I also had a lonely childhood, not a great one either and frequently escaped into a book or fantasy world to cope with it all, I just think it's a habit that's never gone away