Oh FUCK - husband just overheard me having a conversation with myself!!

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I am SO embarrassed right now.

The imaginary conversation was between me and a singing idol of mine. We were collaborating on something together when he suddenly announced that he had feelings for me and could no longer work with me, didn't want to cheat on his wife etc.....

I thought my husband had come up to bed 10 mins earlier and only realised when I got upstairs, that he was actually sat in the room off our kitchen!

FUCK!!! This is mortifying. He hasn't mentioned it but he surely heard me!

AIBU to run away and never come back?!

I had an argument with a stranger the other day (in real life), because he thought my dog should be on a lead (long story, won’t bore anyone with the details). I think I dealt with it ok, but inevitably when I got home, I though of lots of clever things I could have said, so then I had the revised conversation by myself in the kitchen. I really put him in his place! 😂

And naturally, he ended up agreeing that I was right and he was a nasty man 😂

I’m not going to lie- I do it too. I’m a stay at home mom and have no one to talk to so I have conversations with like a family member about random shit.

For me it doesn’t help that I have ADHD

I have imaginary conversations all of the time but fell that I’m very much underachieving with all the First Ladies and Olympiads here! Must try harder next time...

For this who do this, do you also have very vivid dreams?

For those that don’t do this, what happens instead in your head or is it just very quiet in there?

I don't like Kimanda, that is all

Oh and I said that outloud

I do this sort of thing a lot too OP, it's nice to read about other people who do too!

I don't get why we're allowed to roleplay and act as kids but are supposed to just stop and be very dull when we grow up. Or why people get judgey about how others have fun.

He may have not heard you at all. He was probably absorbed in his own thinking or he might have thought you were on the phone. If he hasn’t mentioned it yet the chances are he didn’t attach any importance to you chuntering away. Relax.

I've had to use my back-up username to reply to this as I don't want ppl I know recognising me

OP, if only you could see the worlds I've built inside my head for the last 40 years. You've gone wrong only in two places: a) doing it out loud and thus risking being found out and b) being constrained by the rules of the real world. In my head, I can have sex with anyone I fancy because we're all members of a different species where that's totally cool and no-one gets hurt. DH would be horrified if he knew of the celebrity threesomes he's been sucked into over the years.

Oh, and last year DH found the erotic fiction I wrote and that was achingly embarrassing, so I hear you.

Weird is GOOD IMO.

oh my, I was going to joke and say he's probably relieved that you have someone else to talk to...takes the pressure off of him a bit with the whole "let's talk about our feelings" thing but then I read that it was a whole big thing... Now I don't really know what to say. Maybe google if an entire scenario conversation out loud is a sign of a problem. I think we all have them in our heads at some point. I really don't know if "out loud" matters or not. Best of luck.

Thank Christ for that! I thought it was just me that talked to myself!

I talk to myself all the time. I think people who have creative type brains need to kind of get out what’s in their head sometimes. We’re not mad, we just like using our imagination and sometimes that involves taking it outside of the brain space and saying it out loud

I tend to talk to myself more when I’m rehearsing stuff I want to say to someone (usually if they’ve upset me and I’m thinking of the perfect things to say to shut them down next time I speak to them).

But sometimes I’ll think of potential future scenarios I might come across and kind of “rehearse” how I’ll deal with them. Which means I have to think about not only what I’d say but what they'll say aswell. Some of these scenarios are likely to never ever happen

My OH has caught me talking to myself a few times. I’ve been ringing him and talking out loud about something when he answers the phone just at the end of what I’m saying to myself and he goes “who the f*ck are you taking to??” and I’ve tried to style it out by saying “oh I was just reading something out loud”. He never sounds convinced

It's not an exaggerated story! What would be the point in that? Yes I have imaginary conversations but I don't feel the need to embellish stories in here, to try and be funny

"Also your DP did not say anything because he blocks out your voice so he doesn’t hear instruction."
^^ This made me laugh. Hopefully it's true!

To all of you who do the same thing, thank you for admitting it, you're all wonderful!

I don't actually talk to myself, but like many people (I think), I do often voice my thoughts out loud.

Spirits can hear you anyway, although they're not necessarily listening.

The offence some people are taking at this is mind boggling.

Jesus, what a dull world it would be if no one had over active imaginations.

run - and run fast! dont look back.

I have not read through the whole thread, but I would say that embarrassment shouldn't be your first concern. Your husband, like me with my wife, will now not know if you are talking to him or to yourself. When you say "please put the bins out" he may well be forgiven for thinking that you are talking to yourself"! Be warned.

My husband says I'm basically Abed from Community

To all of you who do the same thing, thank you for admitting it, you're all wonderful!

You’re welcome! I’m not even ashamed, to me it seems quite normal to talk to yourself

The only times I’ve been really embarrassed about it is when I’ve been muttering something to myself as I’m walking down the street and then realise that someone is behind me and have heard me whittering away But hey they don’t know me and I’m not likely to see them again, so who cares?

Browneyes77 I learned how to keep my face in a neutral expression so no one would know I was deep in la-la land from a young age. I believe they call my particular expression "resting bitch face".

Back in my Uni days when I did A LOT of walking (to and from work and home twice a day, at least 3 hours along the same old, same old route), I used to really drift off into daydreams while listening to my Discman (yeah, I'm that old). If I had a penny for every someone said they saw me walking and I looked angry I'd be a millionaire.

I talk to myself way too often, usually when I'm annoyed with someone. I'll have a full on conversation with myself as if I'm having a go at them and I'll think of what they might say in return. Or other times I'll just mutter under my breath about them which DH hears me doing sometimes and knows he's better off not saying anything if he wants to live sounds like you have a good imagination though which isn't a bad thing really

See, talking to yourself is good

bigthink.com/paul-ratner/why-talking-to-yourself-out-loud-might-be-just-what-your-brain-needs

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I had a discman as well

I’m a total daydreamer. I often go to bed and actually decide what I’d like to dream about that night. Once asleep I never end up dreaming about those things but i like having something positive to focus my mind on when I go to sleep to help me drift off.

I’ve always been a creative and highly imaginative person and I think it’s just my way of dealing with things in my head. I play them out verbally. And often it just makes you feel better/positive/focussed when you say things out loud.

I talk to myself way too often, usually when I'm annoyed with someone. I'll have a full on conversation with myself as if I'm having a go at them and I'll think of what they might say in return

This is exactly what I do!

I talk to myself ALL the time, I really have to keep it in check

I talk to myself all the time! It's the only sensible conversation I get!!! Or when my teenagers are involved, it's the only conversation I get!