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To throw their parcels at them. (lighthearted)

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Forevertired19 · 22/03/2018 13:10

The neighbours opposite have an ebay obsession and since dd was a newborn (when we moved in) they've had their parcels delivered to ours. They don't know us and don't speak to us apart from to loudly knock on our door (an wake dd up late at night) to collect it. I don't mind once or twice. But it's nearly every day now. We only see the one but he is so rude. Around Christmas time dd went through a problem with sleep. She fought it terrible and we had finally got her down to nap and BANG BANG "WHERE'S MY PARCEL?!" he's horrible. So I got up then and politely asked he stopped asking us to take them in as we have a baby.

I've literally just been asked by our postman to take 3 huge parcels in for them. They're heavy and taking up my hallway and I'm 39 weeks pregnant now. I'll have a newborn any day and the last thing I want is a newborn and almost 1 year old woken up for a bloody parcel.
It's driving me insane. I asked politely and they still do it and the postman said it said on the delivery instructions (amazon package) to leave with our door number if they weren't in! I'm furious.

Should I tell him again or clonk the rude man on the head with it?

OP posts:
thebluenailbrush · 25/03/2018 12:17

btw you can always refuse to accept delivery of anything .They just send it back.

Kazzyhoward · 25/03/2018 12:34

Don't know if they still do it, but Royal Mail used to give you a sticker to put on your door saying not to leave your parcels with anyone else. When the postie sees the sticker, it also means he won't leave other people's parcels with you. I've had one on my letterbox for a few years and it works a treat. (Doesn't work with Amazon etc but that's different - I'd suggest you contact Amazon directly to tell them you don't accept the parcels - they should be able to put a marker on the other guy's account to stop it - just quote the reference on one of the parcels and Amazon will be able to trace them on their system).

doubtingmyself18 · 25/03/2018 12:58

Never mind throw it at them fucking twat them with it!!!

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 25/03/2018 15:07

The correct response to a rude "where's my parcel?"
is "Where are your manners?"

MumofBoysx2 · 25/03/2018 17:01

Tell the neighbour you're sorry, but you can't accept them any more (what sort of neighbours are they if they let a pregnant woman with a sleeping baby take in all the deliveries??) . If you say it nicely and explain why and they still get the hump then sod them! And also put a sign on the door saying NO parcels for number so-and-so. Perfectly reasonable!

PorkFlute · 25/03/2018 17:16

Just explain to the postman that you’ve told your neighbour you’re not taking parcels because they knock at all hours and wake your baby. Or don’t answer the door.
If they cba going to the depot they can get their parcels delivered to their workplace or change their settings to ask the postman to leave them in a safe space - their garden or porch etc. Or they can piss off another neighbour. Not your problem.

Wauden · 25/03/2018 19:09

Maybe just don't open the door for a while unless expecting ppl at a certain time?

StaplesCorner · 25/03/2018 23:23

Just read whole thread as I couldn't believe it. You think there is a law that says you must take the parcels? And so does your DP? Hmm

Gabilan · 26/03/2018 08:38

"So why did you accept this large parcel of drugs on behalf of your neighbour? "

"Well it said so on the instructions and I thought that meant I had to"

"Right, well we're now charging you with possession".

HOnestly OP why would you think you can be forced to accept delivery?

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 26/03/2018 08:42

I think if you refuse to accept an Amazon deliver it goes back to them and they cancel the order. Do that a few times and your neighbours will get the message.

JediStoleMyBike · 26/03/2018 08:53

Can you not start to leave the parcels on your front door step or would that mean you are liable if someone lifts them?

SparklyMagpie · 26/03/2018 08:58

You don't have to explain to anyone,just say no parcels!

Your DH seriously still took a parcel after you've been moaning?

This thread has given me a headache

OnTheRise · 26/03/2018 09:16

When a courier knocks on your door and asks you to take in any parcels for your neighbours, tell them no.

Then when the neighbour knocks on your door, tell him that you've refused the parcel and will refuse all others.

If he knocks again, don't answer the door.

That's all you have to do, OP.

It involves two comments: "No, I will not take that parcel in and I won't take any others in in the future;" and "No, I didn't take your parcel in and I won't be taking in any more."

He'll soon find somewhere else to send his parcels.

Branleuse · 26/03/2018 10:31

A couple of christmases ago, my neighbours, who work all week, decided to get all their gifts from amazon, and I was home studying, except i couldnt get into it, because 3 times a day id get a fucking amazon man trying to guilt trip me into taking parcels for next door. I do feel sorry for amazon drivers of course as i know they have targets, but it was getting ridiculous, and the neighbours would just pick up days later when they felt like it, while my hall was like a sorting office for the street.
I eventually put up a note on the door saying that for personal reasons, I can only accept parcels addressed to this address and no others.

PrettyLittIeThing · 26/03/2018 10:58

She wasn't certain if she could refuse the parcel in those circs or if she was somehow 'responsible' for it. Might sound a bit soft but there's plenty of people out there being taken far more advantage of.

Oh come on TWO adults thought they had to take in other peoples parcels, people obviously are struggling to understand why the op thought she had to. I would love to know what the op thought would happen if she refused Confused like she would get in trouble or something!

Branleuse · 26/03/2018 11:14

I dont have the sign up anymore, but am quite happy to tell delivery drivers that i only take on parcels for one neighbour and not the other. Its not that i dont like my other neighbours, but it just gets ridiculous and they never collect.
Its up to you who you take parcels for

Snowyhere2018 · 26/03/2018 11:23

I don't take parcels for one neighbour because he never collects them and he is also an arse. I don't make excuses I just say "no" to the delivery person. End of.

Redlocks28 · 26/03/2018 12:05

Not sure Im not up to speed with the laws in all this to be honest. Just I suppose from the post man's point of view we consented to having it as its on the instructions

It amazes me how some people actually function in their everyday lives when you read things like this!

DiegoMadonna · 26/03/2018 12:53

I honestly wonder how the people who start these threads cope with everyday life.

Just tell the postman you won't take the parcel. Job done. Why does this even need a thread?

TheSecondMrsAshwell · 26/03/2018 14:00

I'd take the next parcel and liberally rub it all over with a dirty nappy.

But then again, I'm a bitchette.

AlansLeftMoob · 26/03/2018 15:47

The cheeky sods!!!!!! I can't believe you have done this more than once, but tell the postie you're not taking any more stuff in. If he says "those are the instructions" say "I refuse to accept it, either drop it at their house or return it". The NECK of some people is shocking.

Snowyhere2018 · 26/03/2018 15:54

@Redlocks28. Amen to that Grin. This place is full of numpties.

WorldofTofuness · 26/03/2018 16:00

Re implications of accepting or refusing--I'd be more worried about the former. Given all the other charming aspects OP has mentioned of the neighbour, I'd be worried what his behaviour might be if the parcel got damaged, or the contents were incomplete....or as PP has suggested, the possibility of trade in illegal stuff.

A few years back we had our neighbours knock on the door as they'd taken in a parcel for us--embarrassing, as I certainly hadn't said the courier should deliver to them (we'd barely met them). On closer inspection, it actually turned out to be 3 parcels, only 1 of which was for me (the courier had bundled all 3 together). Slack day at work the next day, so I tried to re-unite the other 2 items with their rightful owners. One was decorating material: recipient had a web site with email address as handyman, but got no reply. The other was a memory stick with some kind of encryption key, for a bloke at an international consultancy. Even when I spoke to various admin people saying that I had something that appeared to be "security sensitive related to your company", no-one got back to me. Leaving aside the lack of interest in their property (and in the case of the company, in their corporate security), I was a bit taken aback by the poor professional image these people were happy to present in their gracelessness.

Twoo · 26/03/2018 17:01

Right missus. Grow a pair. If the postie/delivery person says ‘oh well, that’s the instruction’ when you decline to take the parcels, insist he returns to sender. Take no more ! Put yourself and your babies first.

chocorabbit · 26/03/2018 20:16

Myimaginarycathasfleas

I think if you refuse to accept an Amazon deliver it goes back to them and they cancel the order. Do that a few times and your neighbours will get the message.

That's right! Their deliveries will go back to the sender and get canceled. If they keep buying from the same seller he will get fed up and ban them altogether Smile

My father sent a parcel for me from abroad. He realised that he had sent it at my previous address! I checked online and it said "parcel refused - returned to sender". I definitely know that the new tenants can hardly speak any English but they still managed to tell the postman "no" and shut the door. My father had to spend another 30euros to re-send me the parcel.

Of course your neighbours might come and demand why you dared to refuse the parcels but who cares??