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To throw their parcels at them. (lighthearted)

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Forevertired19 · 22/03/2018 13:10

The neighbours opposite have an ebay obsession and since dd was a newborn (when we moved in) they've had their parcels delivered to ours. They don't know us and don't speak to us apart from to loudly knock on our door (an wake dd up late at night) to collect it. I don't mind once or twice. But it's nearly every day now. We only see the one but he is so rude. Around Christmas time dd went through a problem with sleep. She fought it terrible and we had finally got her down to nap and BANG BANG "WHERE'S MY PARCEL?!" he's horrible. So I got up then and politely asked he stopped asking us to take them in as we have a baby.

I've literally just been asked by our postman to take 3 huge parcels in for them. They're heavy and taking up my hallway and I'm 39 weeks pregnant now. I'll have a newborn any day and the last thing I want is a newborn and almost 1 year old woken up for a bloody parcel.
It's driving me insane. I asked politely and they still do it and the postman said it said on the delivery instructions (amazon package) to leave with our door number if they weren't in! I'm furious.

Should I tell him again or clonk the rude man on the head with it?

OP posts:
Andbabymakesthree · 23/03/2018 21:24

leeloo1

I was quite rude to a courier earlier. They got out of van, I stood up he saw me through window and when I was fumbling for key he still ranf the doorbell twice and banged like there was a fire.

I told him there's no need to be so aggressive when trying to get my attention a knock or the door bell will suffice- you saw me coming and now I've got a crying baby to sort out.....

PenelopeChipShop · 23/03/2018 21:58

Andbabymakesthree couriers can be so rude can’t they. I had one the other day who asked me to take a parcel for someone else but then said ‘hang on a minute’ and took a call on his phone that went on for ages, leaving me and toddler dd standing there in the icy wind.

I got really annoyed at how entitled he was to waste my time like that so decided to do the same to him. I left the door ajar but just took dd inside and carried on with what we were doing, which was getting ready to go out. Takes a good few minutes to get a toddler into warm coat, mittens and boots as you can imagine. And then getting the buggy up etc. By the time i’d finished and designed to give him my attention he had got the message! Ha. Rude fucker

popcornpaws · 23/03/2018 23:06

I had this years ago with my neighbour, they get loads of parcels and since im in most days it didnt really bother me, until the day i was going out and he was leaving for work at the same time, he asked where i was going and when i’d be home as he was expecting a delivery that day!!
He also said expect a lot more parcels as its getting near christmas and i’ve put your adress on them as we’re at work and our daughter (age 20 who doesnt work, so could open the fucking door and accept them!) doesn’t like answering the door!!

Jazzy11 · 23/03/2018 23:34

Don't accept the parcels and go over to the cheeky fuckers house opposite with your ready to pop hormones and go at em! 'Look, I've asked you not to get your parcels delivered to my house and your still doing it. I don't appreciate it I'm heavily pregnant with my own shit to deal with and you keep waking my baby up! Don't fucking do it again'
Any more parcels come for them tell the postie that you don't know them they are taking the piss and you haven't agreed to this and never come to your house again haha! I wish I was there to do it for you

kimanda · 23/03/2018 23:52

@Graphista

I agree with you 100%.

I won't take any parcels in for anyone either, as yeah you're right that you are responsible for the parcel once you take it in. I know someone who took a package in for a neighbour once (a new neighbour -private let, so a transient neighbour....) It was a bloody laptop, and my friend signed for it, and kept it for the day and then took it to her neighbour who took it off her.

A few weeks later, she got contacted by the seller who said the person it was meant for was claiming they had not received it. She said she had given it to them, but the woman denied it, saying what she had been given was 'something else...'

My friend had a massive amount of hassle, and was accused of stealing the laptop, and could not prove she hadn't had it. She was dealing with the fallout for months, and it only stopped when she moved house.

Graphista · 24/03/2018 00:07

Yea I don't take responsibility for other people's shit. Maybe I'm old and cynical but come across too many cf's to chance it.

kimanda · 24/03/2018 00:09

Don't blame you Graphista1

c75kp0r · 24/03/2018 08:46

Can you put a poster up advertising your parcel handling business which charges £50 per parcel. From 5th April, you will accept parcels for this fee. Failure to collect within a week of delivery will result in the item being returned to sender. Issuing instructions to the seller to drop at your house on anything ordered after 25 March constitutes acceptance of these terms.

peacheachpearplum · 24/03/2018 08:47

I live in a small cul-de-sac and we all take in each other's parcels. Doesn't happen that often, five of the six are retired people and the other house is a young family and mum only works part-time so is often around. Our postwoman is lovely and the Hermes driver has got to know us, he's been doing the job a long time and DH buys alot on line. The Amazon drivers change all the time but they mainly seem to be very polite young East Europeans. We must be lucky as it doesn't seem to cause any hassle. I wouldn't take parcels in if people were rude.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 24/03/2018 09:03

if you continue to act like a doormat they’ll continue to wipe their feet on you

This.
I'm not surprised the neighbours continue to use you as a collection point.
You're not doing anything to stop it

Vangoghsear · 24/03/2018 09:22

I think a touch of drama may be needed here. If above suggested approaches fail and delivery person knocks again lean forward holding your bump and scream "OMG I'm in labour and you're hassling me with CF's parcels again! Go away! I'm about to deliver a baby!etc etc"

Ruffian · 24/03/2018 09:39

The problem here is OP's neighbours had put her address down on the order as an alternative delivery place. Without asking her permission!

She wasn't certain if she could refuse the parcel in those circs or if she was somehow 'responsible' for it. Might sound a bit soft but there's plenty of people out there being taken far more advantage of.

Endless posts telling her to stop being a doormat aren't going to do anything for her anxiety, i'm pretty sure she's got the message Hmm

gillybeanz · 24/03/2018 09:43

A couple put a note on their back door, side of the house, so not visible from the front, asking for parcels to be delivered to mil house. They didn't even ask.
They just refused one day after they'd had enough, went over to tell them and saw the note in the window Shock

I'd just tell postie/delivery person, no more.

abigailsnan · 24/03/2018 10:25

Bleedin cheeky sods !!
Get on to the Post Office sorting office and inform the manager that no parcels will be accepted for your neighbours under any circumstances he should be able to sort it for you

SharonBottsPoundOfGrapes · 24/03/2018 10:53

I used to get mail for the street next to ours but same door number. Normally I'd just repost and go about my day but received a package so decided to knock on. When the man answered I asked if they ever got post for us and he said yes but he puts stuff like that in his burner. I told him that at least once a week we got post for him but just posted it through his door but wouldn't be doing that in future. I was furious. I know he wasn't obligated to do anything but I'd see this arsehole out walking his fat pug occasionally. Wouldn't be hard to post on his way past. Anyway I got my revenge eventually. We still got letters but I let them build up. But one day a delivery from Argos was left in my porch for his address. No one knocked on to sign for it. I brought it into the hallway then me and the family went to Wales for the week. 3 days in I get a message from my next door neighbour asking if I'd received a parcel for him (he'd been frantically door knocking when he discovered what happened) and I said yes but he would have to wait until we returned. He was visibly angry when eventually got his hands on it but he had no comeback. Grin

Alwaystired122 · 24/03/2018 11:13

Agree 100% with Ruffian. I think OP has got the message now and these ‘just say no’ ‘stop being a doormat’ replies are not helpful!

NFATR · 24/03/2018 11:43

Not sure Im not up to speed with the laws in all this to be honest. Just I suppose from the post man's point of view we consented to having it as its on the instructions

Oh come on, you can't possibly think that because someone says to deliver to you that you have to take them in every time? Despite being told otherwise?
And you never bothered to check in what, the year at least you've been doing this?

no-one is that much of a wet blanket are they?

Orangecake123 · 24/03/2018 13:38

Just say no....

And keep repeating that. You don't have to accept anything from the postman.

AdoraBell · 24/03/2018 17:01

I haven’t got time to RTFT, but YY to pp suggesting a poster stating £50 fee for taking in a parcel.

SauvignonBlanche · 24/03/2018 20:48

I can't believe you've gone along with this!

Esspee · 25/03/2018 08:10

After all this your partner took in another parcel? Seriously?
JUST SAY NO! Every.single.time!

babybatbear · 25/03/2018 08:45

Just say no! I'm a postie, I knock neighbours all the time who say 'no I don't take parcels for them' and I just say 'ok' it's totally normal to us we don't even think twice about it.

PeterPiperPickedSeaShells · 25/03/2018 09:09

I do have some sympathy for couriers who probably don't get paid unless the parcel is delivered. While this certainly doesn't excuse some of the rude behaviour on here, they do have a shitty deal

tiggytape · 25/03/2018 10:05

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thebluenailbrush · 25/03/2018 12:13

just stop taking them. Seriously it's that easy. Just say no politely. Any nonsense about what it says on the instructions just say no and then drop a note to your neighbour.

I had several delivered to my neighbour who had a small baby ( the courier knew she was always in so dropped them off there, despite my instructions re a safe place in my garden which they ignored ). I felt pretty guilty so gave her a nice card to say thank you and rearranged future deliveries to corner shop and the amazon locker nearby.