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To throw their parcels at them. (lighthearted)

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Forevertired19 · 22/03/2018 13:10

The neighbours opposite have an ebay obsession and since dd was a newborn (when we moved in) they've had their parcels delivered to ours. They don't know us and don't speak to us apart from to loudly knock on our door (an wake dd up late at night) to collect it. I don't mind once or twice. But it's nearly every day now. We only see the one but he is so rude. Around Christmas time dd went through a problem with sleep. She fought it terrible and we had finally got her down to nap and BANG BANG "WHERE'S MY PARCEL?!" he's horrible. So I got up then and politely asked he stopped asking us to take them in as we have a baby.

I've literally just been asked by our postman to take 3 huge parcels in for them. They're heavy and taking up my hallway and I'm 39 weeks pregnant now. I'll have a newborn any day and the last thing I want is a newborn and almost 1 year old woken up for a bloody parcel.
It's driving me insane. I asked politely and they still do it and the postman said it said on the delivery instructions (amazon package) to leave with our door number if they weren't in! I'm furious.

Should I tell him again or clonk the rude man on the head with it?

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Schlimbesserung · 22/03/2018 14:12

You don't have to accept parcels even if they are addressed to your house, so you certainly don't have to accept anyone else's.
It might be worth asking your postie to leave a note on the sorting frame at the sorting office so that everyone who covers your street will know that you won't accept parcels for their house. They could easily arrange for their mail to be kept for them at the local sorting/delivery office if they weren't too lazy and entitled.

SilverySurfer · 22/03/2018 14:14

I can't believe this - of course you're not obligated to accept their parcels. Just say NO.

Juells · 22/03/2018 14:17

Leave a note on the door "We will not accept any parcels for no X, he is a cunt"

That should do it. Grin

Oysterbabe · 22/03/2018 14:17

I'd look through the spyhole and just not answer the door.

MrsPreston11 · 22/03/2018 14:19

Yes I just wouldn't answer the door.

MyKingdomForBrie · 22/03/2018 14:19

Assume you’ve got the message by now OP but no you do not have to accept the parcels under any circumstances

I can’t really believe the postie or delivery guys tried to insist to be honest but if they do just shut the door!

SlothMama · 22/03/2018 14:19

OP you need to stop being their doormat, either learn to say no or just ignore the door when the postie comes.

Melamin · 22/03/2018 14:23

I don't care for a tiny thing that needed signing for that I can push through their letter box

No Way would I be signing for someone else's post. If it is signed for it is their responsibility.

Say No.

Dobby1sAFreeElf · 22/03/2018 14:25

We had a few issues with our previous NDN, but before that we took parcels in for them. It only took one explanation to the normal post that we wouldn't take for them as we'd had some problems, and he never asked again for them. Maybe its worth explaining that as your neighbour has been rude on a few occasions you won't be accepting parcels any more.

ChocolateCrunch · 22/03/2018 14:25

What a nightmare! Definitely a large note on your door stating you do not accept parcels for no x and they should be returned to the depot/sender if no x are out.

hellsbellsmelons · 22/03/2018 14:26

Do you have glass in your door?
If so then put the note on the inside. No-one can tear that off.
I had to do this.
Basically to ask the postie NOT to leave our parcels with my delightful NDNs! (miserable FWs)
The other side are fab though and they take them for us without a fuss!

TempusEejit · 22/03/2018 14:27

I also had the "but it says on the delivery instructions to leave with you if they're not in." I just replied "well no one asked me about it and I'm telling you no, sorry." Not my problem.

Namechangetempissue · 22/03/2018 14:35

Note on the door:

NO PACKAGES ACCEPTED FOR OTHER ADRESSES -PLEASE DO NOT KNOCK

then don't answer the door unless you are expecting something.

Namechangetempissue · 22/03/2018 14:36

But spell it correctly obviously Grin

steppemum · 22/03/2018 14:36

put a note on the door - postman, please do not knock with parcels unless they are addressed to us. We will not accept them and we do not want to be disturbed.

StormTreader · 22/03/2018 14:48

I could put on my orders "leave at number 12" if I wanted - I have no idea who lives at number 12 and they aren't obligated to accept just because I wrote it on a thing.
Signing for it DOES obligate you to ensure its undamaged though, you're actually taking on the responsibility you're worrying about by doing that.

The postman just doesn't want to carry it back to the depot and do the admin of logging it back in so he's trying to get you to take it, that's all.

TimeIhadaNameChange · 22/03/2018 15:02

Print off some sticky labels so that when they get taken off the door you can just replace them. I'd also suggest ignoring the door when the postie comes, but that will only work if you're not expecting anything.

TwoDrifters · 22/03/2018 15:03

How about some of these, OP? I would hope most delivery couriers would take note. www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00OGNXHZC/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_c_api_mv8SAbHY2M5V1?tag=mumsnetforum-21

Avasarala · 22/03/2018 15:12

If you signed for it then said "don't have it" he could probably come after you if it was valuable to him.

But just don't take them. Don't sign. Don't let them in your house. Tell the postman or courier that you didn't consent and have told him to stop delivering stuff to your address. Then shut the door. If they duno them on your property somewhere, take them and put them in the street or infront of his house.

Just say No!

Ohyesiam · 22/03/2018 16:17

Quite amazed that you can’t find a way to say no to this.

DevilsDoorbell · 22/03/2018 17:06

Don’t answer the door. Put a sign on he door saying you are not excepting parcels for number *

You’ve told the neighbours no now show them you mean it.

DevilsDoorbell · 22/03/2018 17:07

Re Halloween, round our way, if there are no decorations, you don’t knock on the door

rollingonariver · 22/03/2018 18:04

I assume you'd only be liable for the parcel if you sign for it?

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Forevertired19 · 22/03/2018 19:28

Not sure Im not up to speed with the laws in all this to be honest. Just I suppose from the post man's point of view we consented to having it as its on the instructions.
An I wish halloween was like that here. We don't make an effort for it and they still knock at our doors and come back twice. We put up 3 notes and all were ripped off and ignored.

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Forevertired19 · 22/03/2018 19:31

Suppose it's easy to tell we live in a rough area. Drives me insane. Especially next door who have music on full blast all day and night making it impossible for dd to sleep but they're within their rights until 10pm. The worst was when they blew up a huge bouncy castle and I couldn't gain access to my home because of it on the front of the terraced houses. (what we live in there's no road between them, they're directly opposite to one another). I soon called the police on them and environmental health.
Cant wait to move

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