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To throw their parcels at them. (lighthearted)

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Forevertired19 · 22/03/2018 13:10

The neighbours opposite have an ebay obsession and since dd was a newborn (when we moved in) they've had their parcels delivered to ours. They don't know us and don't speak to us apart from to loudly knock on our door (an wake dd up late at night) to collect it. I don't mind once or twice. But it's nearly every day now. We only see the one but he is so rude. Around Christmas time dd went through a problem with sleep. She fought it terrible and we had finally got her down to nap and BANG BANG "WHERE'S MY PARCEL?!" he's horrible. So I got up then and politely asked he stopped asking us to take them in as we have a baby.

I've literally just been asked by our postman to take 3 huge parcels in for them. They're heavy and taking up my hallway and I'm 39 weeks pregnant now. I'll have a newborn any day and the last thing I want is a newborn and almost 1 year old woken up for a bloody parcel.
It's driving me insane. I asked politely and they still do it and the postman said it said on the delivery instructions (amazon package) to leave with our door number if they weren't in! I'm furious.

Should I tell him again or clonk the rude man on the head with it?

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MLMsuperfan · 22/03/2018 23:41

We once had a quite large and heavy package left in our back garden (you have to go through a gate) that was addressed to X Avenue where we live at the same number in X Road.

I walked to the parcel address (about 1/2 a mile away) to tell them what was happened and they could come round and collect it. Spoke to the wife.

The husband came around the next day, and shouted at me! Said I'd wasted his time. Asking why we would sign for a parcel that wasn't ours (we didn't sign anything it was just dumped).

Last time I do a favor for a stranger.

HoneyBadger32 · 23/03/2018 14:51

you need to get a grip, you don't want to take a parcel don't take a parcel. this is so simple.

Pinkvoid · 23/03/2018 15:04

Unless you are expecting a parcel yourself just don’t answer the door and even if you are expecting one that turns out not to be yours, refuse to take it in! It really is as simple as that. Post a note through the neighbours door telling them to change their delivery instructions as well. They’re taking the piss.

QuiteQuietly · 23/03/2018 16:02

Stop taking parcels in. Just say no. I know it's hard to be confrontational sometimes, and maybe you're feeling vulnerable at the moment. But it's got to be done. If you can't say no, just don't answer the door and unplug any doorbells. Couriers knock on your door because they remember you are a sucker who takes parcels in for neighbours.

Also worth emailing amazon (primary@amazon.co.uk) and asking for the delivery instruction to be removed. We did similar a few years ago, and haven't had any amazon packages for vile neighbour since.

Liskee · 23/03/2018 16:08

JUST SAY NO.

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Forevertired19 · 23/03/2018 16:13

I'll definitely email amazing. I went out earlier and dp looked after dd. I told him to be the one to confront them yesterday if they ask again. (above pp is right, if I get confrontational right now I'll probably cry. Anxiety and all that) and he didn't.
I've come home to another one today.
An as soon as I've gotten dd to nap bang bang I need my parcel blah blah.
I'm definitely going to email amazon.
An push a note through their door.

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Ruffian · 23/03/2018 16:19

Hope you'll be moving soon OP, sounds like a bad place to bring up a baby. Flowers Your neighbours are massively taking advantage of you, presumably see you as a soft touch. Do as you've said above and don't answer the door to delivery drivers

SunnyCoco · 23/03/2018 17:43

Bloody hell why do you keep saying the parcels are just arriving???
Surely a delivery driver / postie knocks and hands you the parcel??? So just say NO, I’m not accepting any parcels not addressed to me, thanks
You make it sound like they’re appearing out of thin air!

Avasarala · 23/03/2018 17:55

I can't believe this thread is still going.

Just say no. Tell your husband to just say no. What is wrong with you both that you cant say no to a delivery man. I understand being wary of confronting the neighbour but saying no to a delivery man/postie isn't a challenge. Just say NO.

Ginger1982 · 23/03/2018 18:15

I don't understand. How did you come home to another one today? Did DP take it in or was it just left?

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Forevertired19 · 23/03/2018 18:21

I'll reiterate. I was out today. Dp took it in.

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SunnyCoco · 23/03/2018 18:23

Honestly you need to get a grip this is total madness

crazycatgal · 23/03/2018 18:36

You and DP need to get a grip and say no. It doesn't matter if the neighbours have said to leave parcels with you, it doesn't mean you have to take them.

Smidge001 · 23/03/2018 18:46

You're being completely bizarre! Just don't accept the parcels! It is so easy. I really don't understand the issue.

Even if there was some weird ruling where you 'had' to take them if someone has said you will - what if you weren't in ?!! Of course you don't have to take them. This is such a non-issue, you and your DP seem very odd to keep doing this when you're furious about it Confused. If you don't want confrontation just stop answering the door to the postman!

Andbabymakesthree · 23/03/2018 18:54

Just go over and tell them straight we aren't in the position to take your parcels anymore. Please update your Amazon delivery details so that our number is removed from the leave with them neighbour.

PrettyLittIeThing · 23/03/2018 19:19

This is so strange. I can't believe you didn't know you could refuse a parcel! I refuse all parcels now as my neighbours would never come to get them and I was going to deliver them. I just say no I can't, I don't even give a reason. Check out the spy hole or window before answering and don't answer it if it's a parcel if you really just can't say the word no.

PrettyLittIeThing · 23/03/2018 19:21

Wasn't goin to deliver* that should be

GingerFoxx · 23/03/2018 19:24

I don’t accept neighbours parcels for the same reason (disturbing sleeping baby) and just tell the postperson that I’m going away so cannot accept the parcel as wont be able to pass on to neighbour.

poddige · 23/03/2018 19:27

Oh COME ON OP!

put a note on the door. Do not take any more in.

SAY NO!

CrazyDuchess · 23/03/2018 19:36

Especially next door who have music on full blast all day and night making it impossible for dd to sleep but they're within their rights until 10pm

Sorry OP this is incorrect - itnit not their right to listen to music so loud it disturbs you regardless of the time of day. Speak to Environmental health - the law is on your side on that one!

Fishcalledlola · 23/03/2018 19:36

I once tried to deliver a parcel to the recipients neighbour. I asked if he would take a parcel for number 22. He looked me straight in the eye and said 'no, I hate him!
I have never asked them again Wink

pigsDOfly · 23/03/2018 19:54

Unless you have a large red sign on the front of your house that says POST OFFICE you have no obligation to get involved in the delivery of anyone's parcels.

Practice saying NO in a firm voice.

ChasedByBees · 23/03/2018 20:06

Make that be the last ever parcel OP.

leeloo1 · 23/03/2018 20:24

I've started saying no to parcels for neighbours too. The thing that irritates me is when the courier rings the bell repeatedly, then hammers on the door, as if there's a fire. Then when I stop whatever I was in the middle of and unlock it they say 'can you take a parcel for number...?' Just fuck off with your banging!

The last neighbour to collect a parcel (dh took them in for 2 different neighbours, then went out for the evening!) hammered on the door repeatedly too. Grrrr!

So now I say 'sorry no, I'm going out!'

Graphista · 23/03/2018 20:47

So annoying. I've learnt over the years never even to start such nonsense. Where I live now has secure entry and it's a very loud buzzer. Like a pp my health is poor and I'm sometimes asleep in the day and don't appreciate being woken. I'd one delivery driver buzz THREE times trying to pressure me to take a neighbours parcel by the third time I told him to fuck off! Bloody intrusive! I also called the company concerned to complain making it clear if such behaviour happened again I'd be reporting them for harassment hasn't happened since.

I DEFINITELY wouldn't take anything signed for because if there's anything wrong - stuff missing, damaged - that can cause a massive headache as you can't prove you didn't steal/damage it. Sod that!

That there's signs available for just such a situation shows how many of these cf's are out there!

Personally the very first time the neighbour was rude/aggressive I'd have returned to sender!

"Just I suppose from the post man's point of view we consented to having it as its on the instructions." No they know that's not true but it's a pain for them to return it to depot and do paperwork so they will try it on. Couriers even worse some companies will dock/reduce their pay for that day for undelivered parcels.

I've had posties and couriers claim it is something for me, try to give me the parcels without saying it's not for me - nice try! No unless it's mine I'm not taking it.

I agree sign on the door you only take in your stuff and tell the neighbours it ain't happening any more and to remove YOUR info from their accounts.

And dp needs to not take them either - had you not said to him?

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