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To not want to leave my 1 year old for a week?

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Happystpatricks1 · 19/03/2018 22:16

Dh has won an award (he’s a scientist) and there is a ceremony in Arizona to present the awards. It is a big deal and I’m very happy for him but it is a week long trip away from ds who will be 15 months by then. I have never left him even overnight before but dh isn’t really bothered and thinks ds will have a great time with my sister - yes I do trust her to look after him but a week seems like a long time to be away?

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LightDrizzle · 22/03/2018 11:31

I think I’d only go on one leg on the private plane and go for a couple of days including the ceremony. You get to share your husband’s big moment, he gets a whole week of celebration with peers, and your baby only spends 3 days or so away from you.
Definitely do a few overnights with your lovely sister in the run up.

Camomila · 22/03/2018 11:32

I wouldn't go and DH wouldn't expect me to. The last time DH and I went out DM said DS spent ages shouting 'where's my mummy', crying and trying to go to the front door. Similarly when I've been away for the night he cried a lot on DHs shoulder. A week would be really unfair on him. He'll be 2 next month.

Having said that I think it depends on their level of understanding, when he was younger he didn't miss us that much and was fine for DM. It might be alright if you do a few practise runs with Dsis. DS and I went away to Italy for a week without daddy at that age and he wasn't bothered about there being no daddy at all.

Mrscog · 22/03/2018 11:37

I think a week is too long. If I were you I’d fly out with DH but then get an earlier flight back - would 3-4 nights be an easier compromise?

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