To find this alarmingly sexy?

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I am a 41-year old feminist who's done all the reading about socialisation and gender stereotyping and yadda yadda yadda. DH put a magnetic knife strip up in the kitchen yesterday and was looking all solid and competent whilst wielding a drill and wearing a jumper. I was overcome by a desire to shag him.*

I'm hormonal and it had been a while, so I'm hoping that that was what was behind it, rather than me contemplating a future where I am turned on by the sight of fortysomething men engaged in minor acts of DIY. Saying that, I've asked him to think about putting up some shelves

*Unfortunately we have friends, and they were on their way.

Much prefer DH in a suit and tie, smelling of aftershave rather than sweat. He's tall and thin but gets an air of Daddy Pig about him when doing any DIY, thinks he's an expert but I need to keep a very close eye on him a la Mummy Pig.

YANBU. Good for you! ☺️☺️☺️

I come over all unecessary if DH is driving in a short sleeved shirt and wearing his chunky Tag Heur watch.

Ah, whereas a short-sleeved shirt (assuming you mean button-up rather than polo) dries me like talc.

Long sleeved rolled up, on the other hand... Add a work lanyard and ID badge, and an earnest expression, oh yes.

"Competence porn" describes it very well. The opposite of manchild, yes, exactly.

I love a competent man. Doing whatever, but doing it with skill. And enthusiasm.

Nom, Dionysus, Sidge I'm joining the sexy reversing club as well.
Love dirty hands and dirty sweat streaks on the face as well.

Enlightened Thanks MsWanaBanana and TheSassyAssassin!

I have to admit I get excited when DH gets out his toolbox. Nothing sexier than a man who can do DIY compentely.

Frouby, this is very much my DH.

It’s all manly competent carry on, charging around getting shit done and I’m thinking hot, hot hot. Then, lots of shouting and “FFS it’s all gone Pete Tong” as he snaps the handle off/shatters the glass/kicks the paint over. Fell off the extension roof a few years ago, past the patio doors, competence porn it was not!

He has finally understood now, job done, knickers off...

Did have to explain that cooking on the BBQ and it’s cleaning do not appear on the Impressive Jobs List, was very disappointed.

DH is tiling the kitchen, it could not be a less sexy sight if he tried! Grubby, a bit sweaty and in very old torn clothes
Clean shaven, smart, in a suit though... yes please, unfortunately that only happens when we go to a wedding!

Dan no woman ever killed her man while he was doing the washing up.

How true.

I do the arm round the seat looking behind me to reverse. Don't hold with rear view mirrors..I wonder if that works both ways? No man has ever tried to hump my leg after I have reversed into a tight spot.
DP is shit at DIY but I get frisky when he cooks, as he's a chef and does that fast chopping thing while I'm drinking the wine... (I like to watch).

@NomDeWho oh yes I love seeing my husbands big arms on things. Also if he packs up the car with our suitcases and takes shopping in etc.
Anything strong.

I love his arms when he comes home from work.

It's attractive when somebody is capable no matter what it is with, I think.

I take your arm behind the seat reversing and raise you reversing a car and trailer perfectly straight into the designated space

I used to come over all unnecessary when DH did that but now I’ve cracked it and passed my trailer test it’s lost it’s appeal.

Competence Porn should absolutely be a thing, I couldn’t be doing with someone who was practically helpless and needed to call someone to do the smallest tasks for them.

...and wearing his chunky Tag Heuer watch.

WAIT A MINUTE !!!

Have you seen the prices of those things??

MrsHathaway most definitely a polo shirt or a t-shirt. Certainly not a crisp poplin short sleeved shirt like his Dad wears

Phew. And at the dad-shirt.

I am bisexual. If it helps at all men and women look a lot hotter weilding tools in a competent fashion. Similarly people being enthusiastic about something entirely innocent (I am nerdsexual too).

Yes this is me too! I find watching someone skilfully absorbed in an activity they they’re interested in very sexy. George Eliot (of all people) summed it up rather nicely when she said “what suffused adorableness is in a human frame where there is a mind that can flash out comprehension and hands that can execute finely”

Also I thought I was the only one with the passenger seat reversing fetish we should start a support group...

Always wondered why I got a bit fluttery when experiencing the sexy, arm behind passenger seat, reversing.
Feel better now there are more of us.

There was a stage where DH merely had to change gear to get my stomach fluttering. Reversing doesn't do it, though. Towing is so baffling it might as well be witchcraft. Not erotic.

Nerdsexual, my favourite ever MN word!

I think it’s because forearms are like the male equivalent of cleavage and the passenger seat reversing move shows them off

Men in suits standing at the bar, for instance, in that legs apart, one hand in pocket stance. The suits have to be slim fit in style...Obv

OP, you say you are hormonal?
Funny enough I saw a study that showed women were more attracted to Alpha male wide jawed hunky ( DIY) types during their most fertile days in the month and lean more towards beta male, narrow jawed skinny leg jeans ( I'll get my dad round ) types on their least fertile days.

Oh to have a useful man around the house, I do secretly find my friends husband incredibly sexy but I think that's entirely based on how handy he is and all the stuff he's built, fixed and put up round their house! I'm the fixer in our household.
I do become all hot and bothered every time DP puts on a suit and tie (which is fairly often) and he waits for me to leave the house before lifting weights now as I come over all unnecessary

Wow, I'm celibate, however this thread has nearly made me think about dating again!

I could launch myself at plenty of fish and ask them how they handle a screwdriver, then invite them round for hot dates to do DIY whilst I dribble in the background encouragingly