To anyone wanting to leave and being told "and you will be entitled to child support"

[Njordsgrrrl]

Get this letter.

You will have noticed (I did two weeks ago) that your payment of £7 ( a fortnight) has not been received by us.

This is what will happen now.

You will not receive this payment.

I'm going to adopt this approach to all my financial dealings.

"Dear British Gas, you will have noticed no payment has come in.

What will happen now?

You will not receive this payment.

It's a good enough excuse for the CSA who have collected about £90 in eighteen years.

Doing it.

No sorry, not divorced, never been in the press and my chidren live with both parents but feel free to make up facts to suit your agenda

So you have no experience of lone parenting, child maintenance, the CSA/CMS yet you feel obliged to tell those of us who do how we should live our lives? Is the view up in the moral high ground a good one?

Well yellow my views on poor parenting role models are very different from yours. To me a poor role model is someone who abuses their children, neglects their children, is mean and unkind. Not somebody who claims a bit of WTC to top up their wages.

I actually feel sorry for you to feel the need to constantly judge others. That's not the mark of a happy person imo.

No she has no experience of hardship at all - doesn't stop her judging those experiencing it

I don't think Yellow is Xa, the writing styles are quite different and Xa's was always recognisable anywhere.

Yes fair enough yellow. Providing that is equally applied to everyone, for all tax payer funded resources. So not just lone parents, couples too, and of all ages.

And all tax payer funded resources like the nhs, education etc. What's fair for lone parents is fair for all. Let's just allow the tiny minority who have never used any public resource in their life to have dc. And only then if they can prove that regardless of what the future brings they and their dc will remain entirely self funding.

I presume you are in this miniscule group or you'd be a massive hypocrite.

Very interesting shedmice. Going to give them a call tomorrow and enquire about that. I don't know anyone it has happened to so I will be interested to hear what they say since ex owes arrears.

I work full time. Minimum of 60 hours a week. No benefits. No I don’t need the CMS money. Yes my children are mine. I take full responsibility for bringing them into this world. Would perhaps be nice for them if their father took a little interest. Financial or otherwise. I know we were only married for 18 years. For a man it seems to be easier to walk away. My daughter said to me “you would never have done this to us mum”. No I wouldn’t and the gender gap makes me despair

Prettylittlething good luck, let’s us know how you get on