As far as the arrogance of doctors goes, I'm not sure I've seen any of it here. Encountered plenty in real life - newly qualified doctors (as someone from the RCGP rather bluntly put it "the ones who haven't killed anyone yet") & fresh-minted Reg's who think Consultant is suddenly within their grasp can be a nightmare. Not all of them, clearly. Many of them are lovely. Most of them, in fact. But like any profession, you'll get some who want a slap. With half a brick in a sock, for choice. With doctors I think it feels particularly awful because they're privy to huge amounts of personal information, see us at our most vulnerable, and we need to be able to trust them. Doctors, almost subconsciously, get held to incredibly high standards - & failing to meet them feels like a betrayal. Though you do, as I mentioned, get some who are just Utter Arses. Often because they can't cope with the idea they're not the cleverest person in the room. Thankfully good consultants are over that one & Professors are generally quite excited to have someone to talk to about stuff who won't have heard their pet theories/already read the papers on things, but can still follow what they're talking about reasonably well. (Though that can get a bit Grim Times if they forgot we're talking about My Actual Body, not just some abstract concept...) There are also lots of lovely people who will do things like come & check on me after I've had my NJ tube placed, because they were the one to set that in motion & they wanted to see how I was doing after I almost laid out half the staff in the endoscopy suite because sedation turns tiny-fairylike peaceful person into fearsome-fighty creature with far more strength than you'd expect & literally held my hand the next day when the tube had to be withdrawn by 20cm because it had kinked. Or the Reg who came in not simply on his day off, but on Eid to fix my NJ as an emergency because an x-ray had showed it coiled in my stomach. There was no space on anyone else's list & if it wasn't done on the Friday I would have had to be admitted over the weekend (at least), so this doctor sacrificed not "just" his day off, but one of the most important religious festivals he celebrates, to provide me with the best possible care & outcome.
@randomuntrainedcuntowner
You're welcome - hope you've taken advice of PPs on your return to work: consider that they'll not love you if they need to find a bed for you, & there's a risk of that if you go back to soon. Won't somebody think of the bed managers?
Also, totally understand you wanting a space for medics; but fear you would be plagued by: 1. people coming to whinge at you about how they can never see their GP/any & all other failings of the NHS; 2. the online equivalent of people accosting you at social events wanting medical advice; & 3. weirdy ones masquerading as medics, because weirdies gonna weird. (I mean, yay doctors & all that, but larking about pretending to be one is odd. Never mind the oddity of a mere box of badgers, this is badgerworld, running a special discount day for badgers, on some kind of badger festival where badgers everywhere come out to, er, do badgery things [I'm from Inner London, ok, not terribly au fait with the ways of badgers]. I don't think actually full-on illegal despite the protected title thing though, because of the set-up & possibility of claiming it's a fiction not a deception. [Have we a lawyer handy who actually knows?])
@coffeeforone
Your DS's temperature coming down in A&E certainly suggests that he might have been physically too warm at nursery & at home as well as having a fever. Nurseries are generally kept very warm; & most people keep their homes warm too. The advice not to strip children off if they've a fever means not to leave them wandering about in a nappy/their undies (depending on age) - it's ok for them to be in lighter clothing than is usual for the time of year, and really important when you put them to bed that you think about a quick swap off bedding to something a bit lighter/cooler than usual if they sleep under a thick duvet/several covers/usually have a wheatbag in their bed/you tumbledry their sleeping bag right before bed or have it in the hot press so it's warm. Might also just be he needed a few doses of the calpol & calprofen to start bringing his temperature down. If your DS has never been feverish before it's understandable you might panic & not think through the steps of it being most likely he's the same cold you & your DH have, then checking the NHS website to see what they advise about when to seek help. You don't mention any symptoms beyond fever, & certainly your OP & following posts gave the impression it was only that that caused you to call 111 & go to A&E, so apologies if it was something else that triggered your call. As I said in my earlier post, 111 doctors will always err on the side of caution, especially with a child so young. Not having enough OOH doctors to be able to see you IS an issue - that's a sign your OOH service is hugely overstretched & underfunded & that absolutely is something you should complain about! As well as the OOH service not working properly, it means that people are being directed to A&E when there's no clinical need for them to be there, which costs the NHS a huge amount of money in addition to increasing pressure on departments by burdening them with more patients. Once in a while, of course, the virus WILL be (for example) meningitis & the patient will need hospital treatment. If they've been seen at a set time by OOH they can then be transferred immediately to receive the necessary care. If they/their parents (depending on age) get fed up with waiting & decide it's just a cold after all & they'll go home without seeing anyone... that can have tragic consequences. So please contact your MP & tell them that your local OOH services is so overstretched they'd no appointments available at 2100 (was it? or was it earlier you rang? sorry, my phone doesn't like tracking back through the thread) & were having to direct patients to A&E, putting extra strain on the department. Paeds may have been quiet (in minors) while you were there, but the lack of OOH appointments means that adults will also have been redirected to A&E. It helps the NHS if people keep contradicting that shitehawk Hunt's claims everything is just grand/would be just grand if NHS staff just worked harder (or whatever his lie of the day is) & of course we've sadly no longer got Stephen Hawking to keep battering away at the buckeejit with his devastating use of truth, facts & logic. It was my local hospital the fecker went right to the High Court to try to close (after trying some other very underhanded tricks, including a very disingenuously-worded survey with a ridiculously short response time, available only in small[ish] print, in English, in a Borough with a large EAL population, lots of elderly people, & a level of literacy that means the survey was going to be incredibly difficult for a lot of people to respond to) because he was so furious at not getting his own way. People would literally die trying to reach the other two hospitals they expected to take on the patients from Lewisham (never mind the fact KCL's A&E can barely function with its current patient levels); & they'd die from not making the journey (Lewisham is a transport hub; KCL & QE are incredibly awkward to get to - people might be able to just afford the cab fare to Lewisham, or someone might be willing to drive that far, or they could cope on the bus; for me, for example, KCL = 3 buses & over an hour IF everything is joining up). Oh & all this was because QE, the PFI hospital was failing, so obviously the answer is to close the well-performing A&E that's just been refurbished... my cats would make better health ministers, so. They're good at snuggling the most inflamed joints (well they'll be warmest) & they'll help with respiratory physio. Well, mine. Not sure they'd do anyone else's. But cats for respiratory physio could be a thing - would help with number of cats needing adopting, too. And they help with blood pressure regulation & managing stress levels. On which note, I suspect it becomes very clear that - despite the ministrations of said felines - I've yet to sleep & am somewhat silly with it. Serious about you contacting your MP though. If people don't speak up - & make it clear that they see these issues as part of the systematic underfunding of the NHS, rather than being in some way the fault of the medics concerned - it becomes that much easier for the erosion & undermining to just keep on. The NHS needs people outside it to say that they see what's happening & it's not ok & needs to change.
Ach, how can it be 0437? Please PLEASE let me sleep now...