To be concerned with friends relationship?

[lunaloner]

One of my close friends is 25 and her boyfriend has just turned 40. They were 21 and 36 when they got together. Now don't get me wrong, he's an absolutely lovely bloke and they are very happy, I was a bit wary at first hearing about the age gap but he's been around for so long and they are happy so I just got used to it and kind of forgot about it. I've met him lots of times and he doesn't seem his age and he does look younger, he's a very fun character. However she's just announced they are expecting a baby this year and I feel horrible for feeling this way, but I'm a little concerned. They are both so happy as are their family's.. but I'm just worried that it may not be noticeable now but what happens when she's 35 and he's 50.. they'll have a 10 year old and they want more kids so likely younger children too and I fear the age gap will really become noticeable then. I know it's not my place and my concerns won't change anything.. she's pregnant, engaged and in love. I just really fear for when his age catches up with him... AIBU?

Ha ha ha ha.

They make it work so guess they are happy. Leave them to it.

YABU

Nowt to do with you, butt out!

Yes I think YABU. It's really not an unusually large age gap.

Yes, you're right. Best you suggest she has an abortion. That can only help matters.

What does it matter? Do you want them to split? Find something else to concern yourself with. It's not like he is a bed-ridden 95yo. 🙄

My dad was 40 when I was born.

He is now 82.

what happens when she's 35 and he's 50

Nothing. Absolutely nothing.

YABVU. None of your business.

Are you single OP?

People can drop dead or get sick at any age. A 50 year old that’s healthy and looks after themselves will be much better off than an unhealthy 35 year old. It’s not even that big an age gap. There’s nothing to be concerned about here.

OMG cause 40 is just soooo oooold

I know it's not my place and my concerns won't change anything.

Bingo. You hit the nail on the head there.

It’s not a concern for them so it’s completely bizarre that it would be for you.

She’s your mate, you’re supposed to be supportive. And people don’t really notice age gaps, and if they do, who really cares?
They’re happy, try and be happy for them!

My DF is 14 years older than my DM they have been married for 58 years
He is now 92
DB is 14 years younger than DSIL they have been married 31 years
I married someone my own age he left me with 2 under 5 DC for OW

Honestly you need to mind your own business. It really is nothing to do with you.

YABU Just be happy for them. 50 is not old

My dad and stepmum have this age gap. They have three children together and are still very happy after 30-odd years.

My sister is 20 years younger than her DH. She was 33 and he was 53 when they had their child. we always used to worry she would end up looking after an old man. She is now 50 and is in the advanced stage of a life limiting illness while at 70, he is her full time carer. Noone knows what will happen in life, be happy for them for the joy that they are currently having.

YABVU

Why does it matter if they are happy? And what on Earth is the pr born with the age gap being noticeable?? They live each other, have been together 4 years already, are happy and expecting a child together. Sounds like a loving relationship to me and sorry to be harsh but you sound like a bit of a busy-body.

*problem

My DH is 11 years older than me, OP. We manage.

Thanks all - I appreciate the honesty. I really have done nothing but welcome him into my life and I do wish the best for them. I have spent lots of time with them together over the last 5 years and I am happy how happy they are. I think just hearing they were expecting made me look at them more long term rather and I had a little wobble, was only out of love for her. I promise I'm not a miserable cow!

Jesus..9/10 for being goady. Yabu... it's none of your business.