To think same sex parenting is easier

[doctorwhat]

So many threads I read about DH's saying they don't do enough housework or with the children.

Also women saying things like 'oh he's a great dad, I get a lie in one day a week'

I am in a same sex relationship and we don't have these 'traditional' often sexist roles whereby Mum deals with the house and baby while dad works and gets praised for helping out around the house.

These types of situations and arguments just don't exist because we don't have our gender stereotypes to fight. Although sometimes we do fight over who gets to clean the bathroom

Sure there are times we can both be lazy but it always works out without one person feeling like they are at their wits end.

All of our friends with kids are straight couples and usually once a week we hear the women complaining about husband gallivanting off leaving her to pick up the schools runs, after school activities despite working herself.

I guess I think it's annoying to see so many stereotypical gender roles playing out in front of us when we know it's completely possible to both parent children, work and have time to ourselves.

who?

The OP did specifically say 'same sex' to be fair (so yes, in this context she refers to women, but clearly she means that the same situation would apply if they were both men), so I only read it as a comment on the fact that opposite (and that's an intentionally loaded descriptor) sex couples slot into specific gender dichotomies which by definition don't concern same-sex couples. Saying 'we are women so naturally are less messy, more expressive and more considerate, where normally one partner out of the two would be messier, emotionally distant and selfish, and that's why gays rule & straights suck' would be illogical stereotyping, but she didn't say that.

Silly silly me marrying a man

Oh and by the way I am shit at housework and DH is far more patient and imaginative with the dc’s
Funny how not all couples follow stereotypes eh

Based on many threads here, the op has a point. Doesn't mean it's true for everyone though.

How does she have a point? There are lots of hetero couples that have a fair balance, and lots that don't. Which is exactly the same for same sex couples. Lets not stereotype anyone.

I said based on many threads here on mn which admittedly are mainly from people in heterosexual relationships.

OP also didn't say that straight couples were destined not to have a fair balance, she just said gay and lesbian couples had it easier in one respect because they didn't have to deal with one potential aspect of straight relationships.

I quite like the idea of sharing the parenting with another woman, I must say. But sadly I have no attraction to women so it's a no go for me.

And actually my DH is great at sharing the parenting with me, so I can't really complain.

Joking aside, I don't really think you can generalise, every relationship is different, some people make great parents and others don't.