To feel deflated after this? It was supposed to be exciting...

[DippyDiplodocus]

Wedding dress shopping...

I have just been for my first trying on dresses appointment.
Prior to going I had a dress in mind that I thought was "the dress", I found it online and fell in love with it but when I tried it on it didn't look as good on as I'd hoped so now it's not the one any more.

Tried about 10-15 more on, I found the style I like, I think. Two of the dresses were lovely and suited my figure nicely and would look great once fitted.

However, I didn't have the "oh my god, this is it" all birds singing, people crying, butterflies in tummy feeling about either of the dresses.

I guess I'm feeling a bit deflated and I don't know what to do next. I guess try more on? At least I've identified the style that suits.

Oh we get married in September and I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant so pretty time pressured too 😩

Anyone have any tips on where to go from here?
I thought I would be super excited and find my dress and it would be super easy. I'm now feeling like this is probably not going to be the case...

I didn't have the "oh my god, this is it" all birds singing, people crying, butterflies in tummy feeling about either of the dresses

As long as you get that feeling about the groom, nothing else is quite as important

Have a look on the Debo’s website. They have gorgeous wedding type dresses.

I think the magical Hollywood moment is a bit of a myth tbh. It’s one dress, you’ll wear it for about 8 hours depending on what time the wedding is. You’ll look beautiful. Brides always do! Find something you really like and will feel comfortable and happy in.

I didn't have that either. Reason being, it's a daft invention of the weddings industry! As said above, as long as you like the groom then it's all good

Firstly - double congratulations on getting married and your pregnancy best of luck with both.

Can I suggest that you don't get too focussed on having perfect elements to your wedding. The "one" dress, the perfect venue etc. It is always hard for reality to match up to the fantastic pictures we all have in our head (in my case I am usually about a stone lighter ). Think of your wedding as a package where a lot of things added together make a wonderful day. Each element is something you are happy with but doesn't have to be perfect.

Remember too, that people want you to have a lovely day, they will think you look beautiful and the people that care about you will not be second guessing the choices you make. Don't put yourself under too much pressure.

Have you considered having the wedding a bit later? That looks like it will be really close after you give birth and a dress that flatters and fits you fine now may not then. Alterations can be expensive and take awhile as well.

@LeighaJ - it's not really an option to move it at the moment, we've got quite a lot booked already and I think financially we wouldn't be able to afford changing so much of it around.

This will be second baby, so I do have some idea of how I will be, although I know every pregnancy is different. I've got six weeks between induction date and wedding day so it will be a bit of a squeeze.

I didn't have the "oh my god, this is it" all birds singing, people crying, butterflies in tummy feeling about either of the dresses

They're dresses. Life isn't a Disney movie!

@blastomama - I know that. I just expected something more perhaps. At least a feeling?

Thank you for the congrats @ChazsBrilliantAttitude 😁

Mine was the same. Tried maybe 5 or 6 on and ended up buying the first one. I didn't get a butterfly moment... I just kept comparing every subsequent dress to that one and kept wanting to put it back on again. That's how I knew. Plus, it made my bum look good

Hahahaha @ethelfleda

The ones I tried made my waist look lovely and slim. Also not too fitted around the tummy area so if it is a bit blobby post baby it shouldn't matter too much as it can hang out and not be noticed 😁

I just can't decide if I want straps or not 😩

The last one I tried was not what I expected to like at all but that was probably my favourite. I'd definitely like to put it back on again... maybe that's the sign?

Honestly don’t stress about that. I didn’t get that feeling, I just choose a dress I liked.

This is the last dress (not fitted), quite baggy but you get the idea. When it's pulled in it does look good, even if I do say so myself.

I'm so indecisive. I think I'll go try a few more on tomorrow maybe and compare to this one.

I'm a size 10/12 with large bust (FF) and big bum, small waist.

This is the back. Excuse bra.

You look amazing

Congratulations on both the marriage and baby!

I don't know as I've never been wedding dress shopping myself, but I expect that feeling you describe doesn't really exist.

Did you take pictures of the dresses that you'd be happy to share? Maybe we can have a nose offer some thoughts?

It looks lovely! I love the strappy bits across the back

Wow. That is stunning.

Cross-post!! I love the back, it shows off your tattoo and is feminine yet not too sexy. Like it

That’s gorgeous. That shop looks like sense and sensibility bridal!!

This was the original one that I fell in love with but looked shit on. I think I have too much curve for it and I just ended up look like a frump. It's a beautiful dress just not for me, sadly 🙁

Dippy you look lovely. I agree that 'the dress moment ' is usually a myth. Try some more and if none you prefer then go for the one in the photo - it's stunning.

It's about a marriage not the dress or meal or anything else. Good luck!!

I don't look too broad in the dress do I? It's such a nightmare having a large frontage. If any one wants some I'm happy to donate boobs.

I did the same as you - had one particular dress that was my dream dress but when i tried it on, it didnt suit me at all! But I kept trying on and i did have my 'oh my god this is MY dress' moment. If you can, maybe try a few more on. You can still go back to the ones that you have found if you dont find another one. I agree with others that the groom is more important, but if you can find a dress that makes you cry with happiness as well, then why not try for it! Also after trying on other dresses, it might make the ones youve found look even better in comparison maybe.