To feel deflated after this? It was supposed to be exciting...

[DippyDiplodocus]

Wedding dress shopping...

I have just been for my first trying on dresses appointment.
Prior to going I had a dress in mind that I thought was "the dress", I found it online and fell in love with it but when I tried it on it didn't look as good on as I'd hoped so now it's not the one any more.

Tried about 10-15 more on, I found the style I like, I think. Two of the dresses were lovely and suited my figure nicely and would look great once fitted.

However, I didn't have the "oh my god, this is it" all birds singing, people crying, butterflies in tummy feeling about either of the dresses.

I guess I'm feeling a bit deflated and I don't know what to do next. I guess try more on? At least I've identified the style that suits.

Oh we get married in September and I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant so pretty time pressured too 😩

Anyone have any tips on where to go from here?
I thought I would be super excited and find my dress and it would be super easy. I'm now feeling like this is probably not going to be the case...

Always straps with big boobs.
Much more flattering.
Gg/h here
I'd be tempted to buy a dress last min once you've had the baby.
The one in the picture is beautiful btw

Straps were pretty rare when I was dress shopping ten years ago, it’s nice to have something a bit different. I had a bigger bust than you and added a halter neck to a strapless dress. It did feel a bit safer.

Halter necks made my neck ache so badly.
I had corset bodice which held the bosoms up without stressing about a suitable bra.

I did wonder about a halter neck although they didn't seem to have any in the shop. Not that I noticed anyway.

I love that dress! I was very unhappy with mine as felt the shop had pushed me into it - it had far too much padding around the bust which was empty when I put it on! My dear aunt had to say on the wedding day 'I didn't realise you had so much up top' and proceeded to prod me and the gap that was there!

Watch Say Yes to the Dress (and the Bridesmaid dress spinoff). Ch5? DD is addicted.

I think it's good viewing for dissipating the inner Bridezilla instincts.

The dress in the picture is beautiful.
If you go shopping tomorrow perhaps put yourself in the hands of the ladies in the shop and see what they come up with. Try everything on! wedding dress shopping is difficult because they were all just so different to what we wear day to day.
The one I ended up with was completely different and I would never have picked it up but the lady in the shop insisted I try it and I’m so glad she did!
I also ended up taking a friend when I made the final decision who wasn’t a bridesmaid and wasn’t even a particularly close friend because I knew she tell me the truth.

Too broad? You look teeny!

Another FF here - definitely NOT strapless!

The second dress, the one you originally wanted, I think will make you feel very uncomfortable after giving birth...it's very fitted and I think you will feel rather 'tummy conscious' iyswim, rather than the gorgeous one in your first pic which is more forgiving of any post baby tum. You look fab in it. That feeling you describe...I never got that as I felt like a whale in every dress I tried (I'm not even big) as it was such an odd thing to be wearing. Even on the day I wasn't sure I like my dress. Didn't mean everyone else thought I looked awful or disliked it.

Used to work in a bridal shop, here are my tips:
First find the shape that suits you and you feel comfortable with, it looks like you've already found it and that is an A line which is great for an hourglass figure (you lucky thing!).
Top part, you can go strapless but the top part needs to be quite structured to avoid 'spillages'. Think something like a boned corset that laces up at the back. You could go for a 2 piece (top and skirt) if you like the idea.The necklines that would suit you if you go for straps are v neck, scoop, sweetheart, avoid cowl or anything that comes up high such as a boat neck, they make all boobs look bigger.
Skirt part, A line slim or full whichever you like. No gathering at the waist or just below, makes hips and bums look vast.
Colour, you can't go wrong with ivory, pretty much suits everybody.
The back of the dress is lovely but do you like the front? Most of your pics would be of the front so I wouldn't buy a dress just because you like the back. You can glam up whichever dress with accessories, cheaper than professional beading/embroidery.
And finally, I saw hundreds of brides in my day and I only remember a few who had the butterflies or gushed about 'the one'. Definitely a Hollywood thing. Stiff upper lip in the UK thank you very much

My friend got the shop to add A halter neck to her strapless dress so that's an option.

I wanted to go back and change my mind even after putting the deposit down, So different to what I thought I wanted. Loved it on the day.

@Dilligaffe thank you for the tips!

Yes, I like the front. I think it's not too "booby", just enough on show. I figure I've got them I may as well flaunt them a bit.

Now you've said to be cautious with strapless I think I might avoid altogether. Don't want that muffin top look going on once I relax and slouch a little

I think my mind is slowly being made up.

I keep looking at the pictures of me in it.

Forgot to mention, plenty of decent, supportive lingerie about so not a problem if the dress itself doesn't do the job.
Flaunt away
Congrats btw

If you're booby now, how booby will you be still just 6 weeks after the birth? Especially if you're breastfeeding.

from an extremely booby, but non breastfeeding person

Just to tell you OP that dress is gorgeous on you!!! Have a lovely day and congrats on your pregnancy

@Bratsandtwats all I can do on the boob front is get measured again once baby is here and hope I can still fit them in! I'm not going to have long for alterations, just going to have to pray they can be done in time.

Just tried to upload another pic but apparently I've reached my limit 🤨
I'll try again tomorrow.

Hi firstly congratulations on both news the woman who I saw at my wedding dress fitting was bloody scarey but totally honest. I loved the dress you picked out originally in my head that would be what I wanted but I was told "darling you haven't got the right shape for that dress it will make your hips look huge ". Then she put a similar one on me and she was right. And it wouldn't matter how much weight I'd loose that dress would not have suited me. So then we focused on what would suit me. The one you tried on is stunning and looks more forgiving if need be. You really don't want to put yourself under any pressure.

Also to add I think a lot of us look at dresses online and in magazines and think oh I love that but the reality is it wouldn't suit our shape and that's regardless of weight sometimes too. As I said my lady scared me but she wanted me to look and feel lovely and tgankgod she was honest because you need that advice.

A couple more pics of said dress.
I didn't go and try any more on today, wasn't really feeling up to it. I was quite surprised how exhausting yesterday was!

Might go tomorrow instead.

Good choice OP! Sets off your assets beautifully and will hide any wobbly bits around the tummy area.
Next step is altering the dress's straps so they don't gape. If you look at the pic from the back, you are bending sideways and the strap doesn't sit on your back. There's a simple way of dealing with it and it doesn't even require advanced sewing skills, hopefully the shop will know what to do.
The other thing is finding a bra that doesn't show, do invest in a good bra, the bodice is sitting on you but not 'shaping' you if you see what I mean. Easily fixed with a good bra.
You look fab btw, can't believe you are 17 weeks! I looked a wreck on week 1!

You look so pretty! Honestly, you look gorgeous. I don't know if it is the right dress for you but if I saw a bride looking like that I'd think she made a great choice and be very envious.

BTW, you covered your face in the forward facing pic but you're recognisable on the dress back one. Or would be if i knew you.
Just in case you want to change it.

I'm def not a dress kinda woman, but I think that dress is gorgeous! Looks great on you, no need for further exhausting shopping I reckon!

Fucking hell, that is absolutely gorgeous

If I were you I’d put it on and never ever take it off - it suits you beautifully

That is @Dilligaffe
The ladies in the shop spoke to me about alterations etc.
I think I would probably go braless, as it will have a built in bra when/if/should I choose it 😬 I just kept mine on to keep the boobies at bay!

Yes back isn't quite right currently but again that would be dealt with when altered. I think I'm falling more and more in love with it 😁