To feel deflated after this? It was supposed to be exciting...

[DippyDiplodocus]

Wedding dress shopping...

I have just been for my first trying on dresses appointment.
Prior to going I had a dress in mind that I thought was "the dress", I found it online and fell in love with it but when I tried it on it didn't look as good on as I'd hoped so now it's not the one any more.

Tried about 10-15 more on, I found the style I like, I think. Two of the dresses were lovely and suited my figure nicely and would look great once fitted.

However, I didn't have the "oh my god, this is it" all birds singing, people crying, butterflies in tummy feeling about either of the dresses.

I guess I'm feeling a bit deflated and I don't know what to do next. I guess try more on? At least I've identified the style that suits.

Oh we get married in September and I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant so pretty time pressured too 😩

Anyone have any tips on where to go from here?
I thought I would be super excited and find my dress and it would be super easy. I'm now feeling like this is probably not going to be the case...

Firstly, congratulations!!
Secondly, I understand exactly what you mean. The first time I went shopping I expected to love the experience; I was super excited and thought it would be enjoyable even if I didn’t find “the one”. In reality, I was hot and sweaty and being shoved into dresses and there were too many opinions and I really disliked the whole experience which didn’t give me a chance of finding the right dress.
After that I never went with more than one person (and chose that person carefully). I expected less magic in the subsequent shopping trips but I did have the big moment (in a dress from debanhams despite trying on dresses that were literally 20x the price).
I know it’s only a dress but don’t give up on the moment. Although, you may have it the second time you try a dress on (and fwiw the picture you posted is gorgeous).

My MOH said the same @MapMyMum.
I might drag one of my bridesmaids shopping again tomorrow 😁

The only feeling I had when I finally found a dress that looked nice and I was comfortable in: relief! No butterflies

I do love the back on the dress (I'm in). It's perfect and exactly what I wanted.

The first time I got married I literally tried on about 50 dresses. I brought one on eBay I adored but I couldn’t squeeze into it. So I found another and my DM kindly brought it for me, I liked but it had no train. So I sold it. I then chose one I loved but on reflection it wasn’t the most flattering, or comfortable so I brought another cheapie Debenhams one o change into.
Looking back I think it was a sign lol!

Second time I got married I chose a flattering dress from Debenhams in the sale for £48 and I got alternations on it; a bow, pockets (Tom boy) and a detailed belt oh and obviously to fit correctly as it was too big. That cost me £190.
That dress was my dream dress, when I tried it on after it was done I finally got the wow!

Go for the most flattering, the one you look good in because you will feel good and look good!

Strapless is on its way out, very dated now.

I didn't get that "oh my god" feeling either. But my mum did, and she was so right. I looked amazing in the day (if I do say so myself 😂)

dippy I think you look gorgeous! I also think not everyone gets that feeling.

Ps laughed at your ‘happy to donate boobs’ comment - I’m in the same boat.

Finally- congratulations at both your marriage and pregnancy!

@Backscratchesforever - I tried a strapless number today. It did look nice but I'd be worried about losing my boobs and constantly hauling it up all day which wouldn't be ideal.

Sounds weird but I've got quite prominent collar bones and they look fairly dainty and feminine so they do look nice in a strapless but I really like the back on the one pictured.

Maybe straps are the way forward.

I left the shop not knowing if dress A was the one. Then I knew it was when I tried on a dress in a different shop and couldn't stop thinking about dress A. Helped I'm sure by the assistants being horrible and me just wanting to get out of the shop.

Also my first wedding dress experience I took loads of people with me. The second time I went alone, and I think that really helped matters too. It avoided too many opinions, my self confidence was higher and I was able to keep true to myself and my own style.

Thank you @Maria1982 ☺️

I have way too much boob, no one needs this much 🙈

I can’t see any pics sorry!

With your blessed breast size I would go with straps, you don’t want to fall out or keep having to pull it up and adjusting yourself.

Congrats btw

I didn't have that moment when I got married as I got the dress my parents liked. I didn't like it. We renewed our vows last year and I got a wedding dress for it. I knew when I tried it on. It's true. I got the feeling. I didn't pick it off the shelf, the consultant did. Maybe go with advice from the consultant?

I tried on a few, chose the bits I liked and got them amalgamated into one dress. Is that an option? I only started planning my wedding two months before it happened and I was a little bit pregnant when I got wed. Had a corset back so the sizing was flexible. Still love my dress. Funny thing was, I was planning on having something very simple but when I tried several dresses on I found the shape that suited me and completely changed tack. Was much more refined than I planned.

last year I went with my daughter to get her wedding dress, she had one that she was certain was the one but picked 4 others to try on, the one she really liked from pictures was just not her at all, but the 2nd one she tried on was just perfect, and she knew it when she put it on, so keep looking sooner or later one will catch your eye. She went here dodgy name but some really nice dresses and good prices, they have them all over the UK

I don’t think most people get the fairy tale magical experience that getting married is sold as. You will find a beautiful dress and have a very nice day but it probably won’t be the most amazing day of your life. It’s best to adjust your expectations a bit otherwise you could ruin what should be a really fun time because you’re expecting too much from it. Ps the dress pictured looks beautiful.

Potentially @TeeBee - I would like quite a lot of detail on the dress (as per pictures) so not sure how much it would cost to create something like that...

The one pictured was fairly pricey though, I don't really know what my budget is either. My parents will want to contribute but not sure how much.

I think I will go shopping on my own tomorrow. I'll take my time and see how I properly feel. It's difficult when your bridesmaids keep telling you everything looks nice.

Meh, I hated wedding dress shopping. I'm 6ft and a size 16 so couldn't getting anything near me and I felt really uncomfortable. I also thought most of them were just awful - I've never really got the wedding dress hysteria thing. It's just a dress. Don't put all your focus on that.

Why can’t I see the pics? Wahhhh

Dippy that dress is beautiful. I love the back on it. I can't believe you're 17 weeks pregnant, either you have the worlds tiniest bump or that dress is magical!
Try a few more on and then if see which one you picture yourself walking down the aisle in. I hope it's this one because it's perfect!

I will try more on tomorrow and update with pics - I kinda hope they're all not as nice so my mind can be made up!

I don't know @Backscratchesforever 🙁 I'm assuming others can see them...

Finally I can see it! (Had to download the app)

That dress is beautiful! I love the colour and the detailing, it is very magical.

I can't believe you are 17 weeks, I would have looked horrendous, although I was pregnant at the time of both my weddings, I was luckily only 4-6 weeks.

@chubbymummy - the consultant today commented on how small I was. I was small with my first baby too.

I just hope I "ping back" well after!

Yippeee @Backscratchesforever

I'm pleased you like it too!

This dress is actually pink 😳 although china's very subtle. I think I'd probably be more inclined to go for ivory.