To feel deflated after this? It was supposed to be exciting...

[DippyDiplodocus]

Wedding dress shopping...

I have just been for my first trying on dresses appointment.
Prior to going I had a dress in mind that I thought was "the dress", I found it online and fell in love with it but when I tried it on it didn't look as good on as I'd hoped so now it's not the one any more.

Tried about 10-15 more on, I found the style I like, I think. Two of the dresses were lovely and suited my figure nicely and would look great once fitted.

However, I didn't have the "oh my god, this is it" all birds singing, people crying, butterflies in tummy feeling about either of the dresses.

I guess I'm feeling a bit deflated and I don't know what to do next. I guess try more on? At least I've identified the style that suits.

Oh we get married in September and I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant so pretty time pressured too 😩

Anyone have any tips on where to go from here?
I thought I would be super excited and find my dress and it would be super easy. I'm now feeling like this is probably not going to be the case...

*Thanks - silly autocorrect

@MipMipMip

I covered my face in the first because my face wasn't looking the best and I thought the cat looked better 😂

I doubt DF even knows what mumsnet is and I don't think I've written anything too bad to warrant witch hunts just yet...

I think I'm safe for now 😁

Not to put too finer point on it but come September you is gonna be HUGE!! Embrace it! You are carrying your child! That is more wonderful than you will ever know. You don’t need to feel a “wow” about the dress, you need to feel a wow about your wonderful day, the guy that you love and the beautiful little person that will soon be here. You will glow

Wow that dress is gorgeous x

@Puffycat I'm hoping not to be too huge I'm hopefully being induced at the end of July so providing all goes well the baba will be approx 6/7 weeks old when we tie the knot.

I had a baby in May last year (DS was sadly stillborn at 38 weeks 💙). I don't recall my "ping back" rate but I know I wasn't too blobby for too long. Only time will tell I suppose...

That's OK then Dippy, I know some people like to keep identity private and it is so easy to forget to edit something...

I got married three years ago and still have the "fuck I had the wrong dress" feeling occasionally. I never got the emotional response I was supposed to have.

However, I look back at the photos or go and have a look at the actual dress and remember that I'm being daft, it's a beautiful dress and I looked amazing.

Societal pressures suggest we must all have a princess moment with our dresses. However as I'm 5ft3, no boobs and skinny as fuck I'd have looked ridiculous in the dresses I thought I wanted.

And OHMIGOD that dress is gorgeous! You look amazing:)

If this dress comes with an inbuilt bra you'll be fine. I'd go back to the shop and try it on again without a bra to see how it looks. Ask to speak with the seamstress, how exactly they are going to deal with the gaping and support for the boobs, you'll soon see if they know what they are doing. Otherwise I think you've found 'the one' (bottle of champagne emoji)!
Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy

That is a gorgeous dress and really makes you look stunning. The softness below the waist will cover any non-pinging back very flatteringly.

As a fellow racktastic female, I can only wear strapless if it's properly boned, ie corset boning rather than dressmaker boning which doesn't do much for anything over a B cup. You can get bras where the back strap crosses very low at the waist and wraps around; perhaps consider something like that if the built-in bra doesn't feel secure enough - don't forget that you'll be up dancing! There's plenty of tricks to keep straps hidden.

And congratulations on both accounts!

I didn't go to the dress shop today either... failing spectacularly at this high motivation bridezilla stuff.

In my defence I got sidetracked cleaning my motorbike, which extended to jet washing the front yard, then the side of the house. I just can't stop jet washing once I've started - it's very therapeutic.

Anyhoo it did give me thinking time about THE DRESS and (I think) I am 99% sure that this dress is THE ONE 🎉🍾 I just can't imagine finding another that even comes close to this one, although I'm going to give myself a week to try on more and then I must make the decision, before I'm much larger in the belly department!

Thank you for all your input, it has been highly valuable 😁

If it helps I've been this weekend and there were zero butterflies for me either. Glad to see you've found your dress, looks beautiful on you

I found dress shopping to be one of the most stressful parts of the whole thing. So much pressure that it's all suppose to be champagne and tears of joy with your nearest and dearest. I took two dresses back that I bought off the peg and ended up going to my final appointment where I found the one on my own! In the end it was fun and I did get a bridal moment and got everyone to come see after I'd chosen it. It helped me to think there would be lots of dresses that would look nice, there's never going to be the 'one' as such but I did have a moment when I put mine on so until you feel fab I'd say keep looking. I tried on over 30!