DH is a heavy drinker and has lots of form for drink driving. we both used to do this when we were young, I suppose you just think you're invincible and nothing will ever happen to you. I grew up but he still does it, albeit not as regularly. I have spoken to him many times about this, probably nagging. Sometimes i have hidden keys etc. The most recent time that I know he did it, when he got back I told him I was reporting him to the police as a regular drink driver. He was shirty but not sure he really believed me. I reported it online that night, they emailed back to say they would log it as information i.e. Potentially do nothing. Obviously they dont have resources to hang around every night in case he drives past so they can breathalyse him.
Last night he came home on foot from a friends house, had had some drinks and brought a bottle of wine home with him. We had a chat and I went to bed. He said 'dont worry if you hear the car start, im just going to back it into the garage' (I had left it out). I said 'You're not going to drive out are you?' And he said no.
This morning when I came downstairs there was a bunch of flowers and card with a lovely message in for me. Very sweet. However my first thought was not how sweet, it was 'ffs he must have driven out to get those!' And as there is still some wine in the fridge I suspect he finished the first bottle, wanted more and drove out to get some, but also thought he'd get a gift for me as well.
I wanted to text him and say wtf you drove out after specifically saying you wouldn't?! Then i thought about texting to say thanks for the flowers, what a nice surprise. In the end I've done neither because if i thank for the flowers without mentioning the driving, i feel like I'm condoning it; if i chastise him for the driving, i think he will react angrily and will wipe out his nice gesture with the flowers. I would rather he keep his word about not driving than have flowers. However i dont know how to raise this in a way that will actually be constructive and not just leave him feeling hurt, defensive, and more than ever inclined to do what he wants because I'm not his mother.
I also dont know for sure that he drove to get them - it would have taken him about half an hour each way to walk to the 24h supermarket though, and give his history I doubt this is what he did.
Any thoughts on what i should say when he gets home?