..terrible Mother's Day card

[greenchica]

AIBU to be offended by the sentiment of this!

You wouldn't get a fathers day card with 'let someone else do the cleaning today' on it.

This

Cavoli it's this type of soft and fluffy no harm meant below the radar reinforcing that does the harm. The card could simply offer hugs, gifts, doing something nice for a sibling, making drinks, etc without the insidious suggestions of mums needing a break from housework as they are the ones who do it.

yep that's some gender stereotyped misogynistic BS right there.

I hate the world...

I also hate the ghastly adverts on tv, promoting anti wrinkle cream as a suitable Mothers’ Day present.
If you look at the subtext, it’s basically:
“ Here, you wrinkly old crone, slap this on so you’re fit to be seen in public on Mothers Day”.
Charming.

urgh...that gets you coming and going...you're ugly, you need help with that.....oh and above all your looks are all the value you have ever had..and guess what! you are losing them!

Fuck that.

just putting this one out here and waiting for the comments that ALL the tokens are not about house chores, but neither were the tokens on the mum's card, just saying

I also hate the ghastly adverts on tv, promoting anti wrinkle cream as a suitable Mothers’ Day present.

so what? You hate them, I don't buy £100 moisturisers so I am happy to get them as a gift. Other people hate chocolates/ soft toys/ jewelry/ books/restaurants/spa/plants/paintings/goats/ whatever gift will make one person happy.

That card is already on the thread.

Depends the age of the person who chose it.

Gosh, the men's one is pretty horrible (misogynistic) too. I'm reading "no chores to do around the house for a day" as "you won't be nagged for a day" as they coupon isn't for the child to actually do the chores.

Seriously?? I get more offended by the people who find this offensive. Its a darned card. Women DO do more around the house than blokes for the most part, even though, thats not true in our house, husband does most of it, we share equally, but thats not because I'm an out and out feminist, its because Husband actually enjoys putting his music on and washing up and hoovering. Its a card!!! Get over it.

Both cards are truly dire and deserve to go straight in the bin. Unless from your child of course.

Yes!! At toddler sense today it was all about doing chores to help out as it is Mother’s Day coming up! In our house it’s dh who does more of the housework

Last father's day my DS gave me lots of home made vouchers for things like "hang out the washing", "mop the kitchen floor" etc as well as "big hug" type vouchers.

I was really touched by his gesture and incredibly proud of him. It showed he valued the work his parents do around the house.

Only a complete drama queen would take offence at this. I pity anyone trying to please you, but particularly your kid(s).

You sound like a lovely Bloke

I'm actually just an average bloke. Far from perfect but not really any better or worse than my peers.
I am generally quite tolerant but offence at this kind of thing drives me mad. The right approach is to photocopy the vouchers and keep cashing them in.

Jeez. It isn’t offensive. Not everything has to be so deep!

Yeah but, no but, it's the patriarchy out to GET us and laughing in our faces and tying us to the damn kitchen sink!
Or, you know, see it as tokens for doing something nice.
As a SAHM myself, if mine wanted to wash up/cook dinner, that'd be lovely for me. (definitely the peace and quiet one would be appreciated sometimes )

These are great for when it's a loved one's birthday and we are broke,a few baby sitting passes,depending on the relationship and age,can be a game in the park,tea for two,a massage!.I even had one for removing spiders from the room at any time!😌

I even had one for removing spiders from the room at any time

See, DH would need one of those on his card and not mine as he's a total and utter wimp when it comes to removing spiders - it's me who's like and takes it outside myself

i hate all the sea of pink and fluffy shite on offer as gifts too.

My mother's day cards from dds last year made me laugh - it reflects their personalities and priorities so well:
DD1's said "mum, thanks for teaching me the difference between there, their and they're so I can feel grammatically superior"
DD2's said "mum, thanks for feeding me so I don't die"

tbf Id love someone to dust and vac for me.
I can see why this offensive in general though because why is it assumed that those jobs were the mothers in the first place? Not a great thing for your children to see and internalise.

Still I do want someone else to do the dusting and hoovering.
Im a sahm though. Not everyone is. Hopefully some people share housework equally with their partners.

and the dads card looks loads more fun. I want a night out and a fry up!!

I can't work up the energy to be offended by this! Whether it's appropriate or not depends on your individual household dynamic.

Has anyone mentioned the Mothers Day CDs?

As if when you have a child you also get a frontal lobotomy so that the only music you can listen to is Robbie Williams and Ronan Keating .....

Let’s be honest...at least it’s admitting that we do it all, because even the most enlightened home on the world will still have mums doing the decision/tweaking work. Men do not go around picking up odd bits of Lego, deciding to wash the bedspreads, cleaning the oven or replacing toothbrushes, auditing clothes or the other minor stuff that comes witj running a hone