Not to feed dd to sleep, sleep on me in day. - my mum (who on babies is usually sensible) thought bf was bad generally and certainly didn't think babies should "get used" to it.
That I was being neglectful moving dd onto green milk - she NEVER liked blue milk would drink far more if it was green and I had go ahead from GP to do it. She was 2.
That it was "dangerous" to take dd out - wrapped up warm in pram with blankets etc because we lived in Northern Europe at the time and it was "so cold her lungs will freeze" not sure how they thought the locals survived.
Nice normal hv - hmm, my first was something else. No experience with children at all but an EXPERT all her advice came from books or research. I had enough at one point when she tried to tell me dd SHOULD be sleeping through the night at 6 months in a way that suggested I was flipping waking her deliberately! Told her not to come again. I was then assigned someone else and when dd developed asthma and some quite serious allergies she was fantastic! She'd a big family of her own and a wealth of experience and took a very common sense approach.
"nap during the day, they will sleep better at night!" Yep - from parents and non-parents, parents lucky enough to have children that slept well. Mine - didn't sleep through until school! (Now 17 and needs PRIZED out of bed!!)
I think I recall Aprils posts about this dh from another username - multiple issues with him and his mother iirc. April I don't know how you coped!!
Fizzy drinks do have an effect on milk. The carbon dioxide gets in and while of course the milk isn't fizzy it changes the consistency plus if iirc changes the ph? I did find it was better for dd when I was bf if I didn't have fizzy juice.
My (now ex) mil was really great and accepted fully that times and knowledge change. She'd had a hard road to motherhood and was really understanding of my anxieties when pregnant with dd after losing 3 previously. When others (inc her own son!) were dismissive of these concerns she soon put them back in their box!
My own mum I've had some ahem disagreements with regarding dds disability. Apparently nhs specialists make stuff up to keep themselves in jobs! There's nothing wrong with her (yea apart from the chronic daily pain, swollen, regularly dislocating joints, repeated related issues which have resulted in hospital admissions and risked her losing her sight!)
"I have little faith in Gp's" me too. Many reasons but including several years of me and dd being sure something wasn't right prior to her diagnosis. Eventually a (female - I'm sure a big part of it is many male gp's think women are mainly hypochondriacs!) locum took one look at dds latest 'barely a bump caused it' injury and referred us to a paediatric orthopaedic specialist. To be fair HE took one look and was fairly sure what the issue was likely to be (tests and assessments were still done of course). Not only frustrating and causing extra suffering for dd but I can't help but think it would have SAVED the nhs money if we'd been referred earlier instead of repeated trips to GP, a&e and numerous X-Ray's plus ineffective treatments for other issues (her condition makes her resistant to certain Meds).
However I do remember an incident where I was expecting daft advice/criticism - dd was having a SUPREME tantrum in the supermarket, I was so embarrassed but also frustrated and so sort of pretended to walk off and "abandon" dd - knowing she'd jump up and catch up realising she's pushed mum too far. An older lady with an unfortunately strong case of "resting bitch face" approached me. I thought "oh here we go" instead she broke into a smile and said "you're doing fine. Some of mine were lucky to live to 3!" And patted me on the arm 😂
"and you're all here to tell the tale."
I hate comments of this type. There are babies and children who DIDN'T survive due to what we now know to be incorrect advice or just lack of knowledge. Eg lot of heavy smokers in my family, the norm for that generation and older but me and my sister both have quite bad asthma, I've an aunt who's baby died of Sids, her and her dh also both heavy smokers at the time and kept their home very warm "for the baby" it's now 30-odd years later and she's wracked with guilt that although she COULDN'T have known any better those things could have contributed to her sons death, mum's cousins dh is disabled due to being in a car accident as a baby. In a carrycot not strapped in (I only recently learned that was why). So no NOT all of those babies and children survived/stayed in best possible health.
I'm not a granny yet (and hope not to be too soon) but even when I'm advising (only if asked) friends or family on baby/child issues I do preface with something like "what worked for me was..." Or "the advice when dd was a baby was..." And I try to keep up with the latest advice, partly curiosity, partly as I still occasionally will babysit for folk.
Dd did actually comment recently she hoped I wouldn't be how one of her friends mum's was being with friends older sister that's just had her first. Apparently she is being a bit too free and insistent with the advice. I said I hoped not and if I was just either ignore me or let me know what the correct current advice is. (When the time comes)
But there's ALSO incorrect info coming from the other end of things. I was reading recently that although how I did making up and storing formula was no longer the "ideal" it wasn't as "verboten" or potentially harmful as is often claimed.
Some advice comes back around, a thread I was reading recently a few older posters said some of the "new" advice was what they were being advised in the 50's/60's.
Dd totally wrong footed me! I was all geared up to be a relaxed, flexible mum - nope! Dd HATED being out of a strict routine.