Colleague left me stranded in the snow

[pissedoffnurse101]

Work alongside a colleague, I currently have no car and have been one of the only few people to get into work with all this bad snow. Today, we got the go ahead to go home and she has dropped me off to the closest train station. There is one train showing up as running in the opposite direction, no staff here at the station and no one available to collect me.

AIBU to think she could have driven the 20 minutes to drop me home (she has a 4x4)???

OP thank you for making me feel so much better about not picking up colleagues in the last few days. I dont want to be responsible for another person's safety and it's reassuring that they might be totally ungrateful and I'd be putting them out. :)

Colleague (C) done OP a favour by dropping her at a station, trains should have been running.
OP wanted C to drive 40 minutes out of her way in dangerous conditions even though C has had a recent car crash.
OP claims to have been doing C 'favours' when actually it is C who has been giving OP lifts to work.

Yes, YABU. Thank the poor woman and stop treating her like your personal chauffeur. Your pregnancy is not her responsibility.

I don't understand the arrangement.Can you take a step back and explain the whole arrangement.

BTW You are not entitled to claim expenses for the commute -at least if you do it is not classed as expenses, but is a taxable benefit.

You sound like quite the entitled fucker

They were on their last call. It’s part of the job to get the non driver of the day somewhere reasonable/agreed. It’s not ‘going out if their way’. It’s how it works when you need two staff out on calls.

I was a community nurse for almost ten years. It absolutely does not work like this is any of the places I've worked. In fact, in most community nursing/support worker roles it says in your job description you must be a driver and have use of a car for work. On rare occasions I have had to transport a non driver (a student nurse or a colleague who has been having car trouble) there has never been any expectation whatsoever that because I am driving them around during the work day I am also responsible for getting them home. If anything the expectation would be you drop them back at the office/clinic where the team is based at the end of the day. The OP's colleague was doing a nice thing by dropping her at the station and was under no obligation whatsoever to do more than that.

I have taken colleagues home before as they are nice and I like them. You sound like a petulant ungrateful child; I would not want you in my car for any amount of time.

The drip feeds are magnificent though, please keep them coming. Is your DH perhaps unable to collect you as he’s in hospital with anthrax?

Arf

All my trains home from work were cancelled yesterday. I'm 20 weeks pregnant and was rushing to get to the nursery before 6pm to pick up my 4 and 2 year old. I tried getting a taxi but unsurprisingly they were fully booked. It was three slow buses for me!

Never occurred to me to ring a friend to drive me home, I mean she has her own life and driving 40 minutes in these conditions is actually really dangerous.

Yabvu but it sounds like there are many other issues you have with these colleague. It sounds like you are too dependent on her.

I'm glad you got home in the end OP. Yes it would have been nicer for her to take you the extra but as a car driver it's not fun for us either out there and she was probably unaware that you couldn't easily get home from the station. How would you have got home had she not taken you to the train station?

The drip feeds are magnificent though, please keep them coming. Is your DH perhaps unable to collect you as he’s in hospital with anthrax?

I think OP's next drip feed will be:
OP has only just given colleague a kidney.

OP has only just given colleague a kidney.

And, due to complications following the surgery, OP only has one leg.

Why didn’t you get a taxi?

You didn’t say anything to her and you martyred yourself instead by seething in the cold for trains. While it’s nice to get a lift, you seem to expect them. If you want a lift then say something or get a taxi.

I still don’t understand why you didn’t just ring for a taxi

You are bu by expecting someone to help you. No one is obliged to help anyone else. You sound entitled

I was a community nurse for almost ten years. It absolutely does not work like this is any of the places I've worked. In fact, in most community nursing/support worker roles it says in your job description you must be a driver and have use of a car for work. On rare occasions I have had to transport a non driver (a student nurse or a colleague who has been having car trouble) there has never been any expectation whatsoever that because I am driving them around during the work day I am also responsible for getting them home. If anything the expectation would be you drop them back at the office/clinic where the team is based at the end of the day. The OP's colleague was doing a nice thing by dropping her at the station and was under no obligation whatsoever to do more than that..

This is completely correct. I was a student nurse in York and was on a community placement in the winter in Accomb. I got the bus from York city centre ( I lived on Heworth at the time so it was a walk in for me to get the bus to get to accomb) My mentor would drop me back off at the office and I would get the bus back home including weathers like heavy snow. I would never expect to get dropped off at my door.

The title is not accurate as OP was not left stranded by a work colleague in the snow. I think it's best not to expect a lot from work colleagues in future.

"You sound like quite the entitled fucker"

What kind of setting do you work in? I used to be a nurse in a nursing home and on a day like today if i had gone into work i wouldnt have even expected to be able to go home at the end of my shift as a lot of the staff wouldnt have been able to get in. I wouldve taken some clean clothes and had a sleep in between helping out, then worked tomorrow. This is one of the reasons i no longer do it lol

Only on MN are you an entitled bastard if you don't drive and think it might have been nice for a colleague to offer to take you home in a snowstorm
I hope all the frothers on here never need a favour..because woe betide you if you aren't 100% self sufficient at all times!
OP I would have taken you home, and I get how hard it can be to ask if someone doesn't actually offer. Its VERY cold, and quite a long walk on very icy pavements if you are 30 weeks pregnant ( yes ok it was a classic drip feed!)
It honestly wouldn't occur to me not to make sure my colleague got home ok. And I'm not even " a taxi" ( nor do I drive one).

Want to throw in another drip OP? Have you got PGP? Or is has your colleague been sleeping with your partner?!

Talk about a click bait title!

I was expecting to read that the colleague had driven past stranded op like a goon, spraying her with yellow snow and flipping her the bird.

So disappointed to read the colleague was more than reasonable in dropping her at the train station. And that the op is just a bit of an entitled CF.

The difference between myself and the OP is that if I asked someone for a favour. They did it and then through no fault of theirs I encountered problems I wouldn't act like a petulant brat.

Just get a cab.
Expensive but worth it. It's short term and if you're pregnant, it's ideal. I can't find the part where you said you are pregnant but I'm assuming you are given a couple of comments.

I feel rather sorry for your colleague. Driving all day, in bad weather, soon after having crashed a car? Bloody stressful and exhausting. I am glad you got home safely, after having been dropped off at the station as planned. I hope your colleague has also made it home safely.

You're just adding bits of information to make your colleague look unreasonable because you don't like being told you're unreasonable.

Maybe request to work with a colleague who has a crystal ball so they can predict public transport complications?

Yawn.

I'd see the point if she literally left you stranded but you got home. Yes it took you longer but you got there.