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AIBU?

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Original poster

to say dd needs to stay at school

96 replies

Wishfulmakeupping · 01/03/2018 17:04

foundation class trip walking to the local shops, teachers not told me just heard from another parent who has been asked to help get them there. they have to cross a known busy road - no traffic lights there.
its a big class of 32, I don't feel comfortable I think I'm going to say they'll have to leave her behind - aibu?

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spanieleyes · 01/03/2018 17:05

Yes

PlanNumber · 01/03/2018 17:06

Yes YABU, unless you want to her to stay in school on her own? I should think the school will tell you your options are to let her go or go and collect her. They will have arranged extra adults.

You will have agreed to local outings on a permission slip at the start of the year, I expect.

BananaHarvest · 01/03/2018 17:06

Very unreasonable. They will have a risk assessment and strategy in place to manage the road. Why would you want your child to miss out?

Perendinate · 01/03/2018 17:08

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PurpleDaisies · 01/03/2018 17:09

I’ve been in countless trips like this. There are always plans to cross roads safely.

You are being unreasonable.

Sirzy · 01/03/2018 17:11

If your not sure ask to see the risk assessment. However there is most likely no reason to not let her go

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Wishfulmakeupping · 01/03/2018 17:11

I'm wobbling in general about some of the ongoings at that school this is not coming at a good time maybe next year when they've settled down and less excitable

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PurpleDaisies · 01/03/2018 17:13

As if teachers, TAs and helpers aren’t able to manage “excitable” kids. It’s what they do every day.

Honestly. Confused

LongWalkShortPlank · 01/03/2018 17:14

I felt a little like this when I found out my little girl was doing stuff like this. But ultimately I think it's good for her to practice things like walking sensibly and road safety when I'm not there with her

Dermymc · 01/03/2018 17:14

You are over reacting.

Calm down.

Have they ever lost a child? Their job is to deal with excitable children.

Lowdoorinthewal1 · 01/03/2018 17:15

TBH if you have this little trust in your DDs school you should move her.

Keeping her alive and uninjured is the absolute basic requirement. If you honestly don't think they can do that, how do you think they are managing any other aspect of her development?

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Wishfulmakeupping · 01/03/2018 17:16

if it were any other road be less concerned but as part of my job I have accidents/speeding reported to me and I know its a nightmare road and in this weather too even more so :(

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Lowdoorinthewal1 · 01/03/2018 17:16

Is this your eldest child?

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Wishfulmakeupping · 01/03/2018 17:17

they aren't Low ive got a meeting with the class teacher tomo if issues aren't resolved then ill be meeting the head next

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FitBitFanClub · 01/03/2018 17:17

You are being BEYOND unreasonable.
Either lighten up, get some therapy for your anxiety, or home ed your child.

Original poster
Wishfulmakeupping · 01/03/2018 17:17

yes I know I know 'precious new born' :)

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Glumglowworm · 01/03/2018 17:20

YABU

Teachers are used to getting groups of children across busy roads, and will have risk assessed the best strategy to do so safely.

If you don’t trust the school then move her or home ed. And seek help for anxiety if this is something you typically worry about a lot

Topseyt · 01/03/2018 17:20

Yes, you are very much overreacting.

We live in a fair size village with one primary school. I regularly see the kids in their classes being shepherded through it by teachers and teaching assistants. My own three DDs went to the school too, and in all of our many years here I have never been aware of a problem.

Let her go. It is unfair to hold her back like that.

Flutterbyeee · 01/03/2018 17:21

You are having a meeting to discuss your concerns about their ability to cross roads safely? These people spend more awake time with our children than we do in the week. So important you work on your trust.

juddyrockingcloggs · 01/03/2018 17:21

You are and are not being unreasonable!

Look, I lay awake at night worrying my son will fart himself to death and so I understand thinking about your child with people you don't 100% trust will give you the heebie jeebies.

But, they have risk assessments in place, they have done it before and the chance of anything happening to her are very slim you must let her go think how she will feel if she is the only one that is left behind. It would be mortifying for her and totally unnecessary.

user1483387154 · 01/03/2018 17:21

Completely overreacting and definitely BU

Pengggwn · 01/03/2018 17:22

Are people on MN obsessed with risk assessments? It's a road. Asking to see the assessment of the risk of being run over doesn't make those risks bigger or smaller.

AppleKatie · 01/03/2018 17:22

Yabu

The teachers will have been on this trip before and they will be well used to handling DC. If they thought there was something special about your DD that made it dangerous for her to attend this trip they wouldn’t be taking her.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 01/03/2018 17:23

the meeting tomo is about that shes not settled and upset on a daily basis about going to school and constantly being alone at play times

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PlanNumber · 01/03/2018 17:23

Of course it does Pengggwn. Risks are assessed so that control measures can be put in place. Both will be detailed on the risk assessment.