Was DH being unreasonable?

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DH just walked to the shop for a few bits, got to the check out and said "Morning love, crazy weather out there!" She refused to serve him because he'd called her love. For context, we're in Yorkshire where every one calls every one love, DH calls his male friends love. This will probably divide opinion on MN but I'm wondering if it served him right or whether the lady should have served him? He had to walk as we can't get the car out due to the snow and the next shop is going to be a good 40 min walk each way!

There is no such thing as a psychic, the are all livers & con merchants.
There are no such things as ghosts & talking about them to your children & expecting them to see them is damaging.

In your shoes I'd apply for the job, sort out my finances, ownership of processions and move. He sounds like a selfish self centred lazy prat and you & your children will have a better life without him.

Yorkshire here too and wtf overreaction if you live here. Love, duck and as PP said cock in Barnsley. For the person who said 'love' was misogynistic, women call it men and women here.

I have to say nothing endeared me more to my Yorkshireman friend during a London visit than his greeting of absolutely everybody with ‘Y’alreet cocker’ including the doorman at the Savoy and the staff at Prada.

Awwww makes me homesick for my native Yorkshire. She's a silly moo. I love a bit of 'love' . And laughing at the memories of 'duck' and 'cock'.

Down here in London I get 'mate' which I really don't like but would never complain. I even got 'babe' from our window cleaner which was really funny as I am SO not a babe!

stripey, that’s a bit of an overreaction to calling a shopkeeper ‘love’.

as a 42 year old mother of 4 and grandmother of 2, I'd be delighted if anybody called me anything remotely affectionate instead of just getting demands lol!!!!
what a silly lassie.
poor hubs x

How sad is she ?

In Liverpool, we call each other Love, Chick, Princess, Queen, Fella, Mate, Girl, Lad or La - male or female. That's just how people greet each other here. There's nothing more to it. You can't take offence!

And Bertrand my extremely big and hard ex marine neighbour called DH ‘love’ this morning. Tha’s talkin’ shite love.

How extraordinary. Particularly in the north, and even more so in Yorkshire.

Wrong thread stripey. Just been reading the one you meant to post on. And I agree with you.

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My husband got told off by the doctor's receptionist for exactly the same thing. He was crest fallen just trying to be friendly! Personally I don't mind at all when he calls other women 'love' and am mystified why they take offence.

If a really young lad calls me love I hate it, but if some guy much older than me calls me love then I don’t seem to mind

Well I'm from as far South as you can go and I'm very friendly and affectionate! It upsets me that we're so stereotyped down here! I really don't have a problem being called love at all, even if I did, that's not the way to handle it, she was definitely being very unreasonable! Really wish you hadn't bottled it OP, would have loved to know what her reaction was.

When I was living in Yorkshire I hated being called love. I don't live in Yorkshire any more but I still hate it, although I am rarely called it down south, thank goodness. Down south it's more of a LOOK LOVE whereas in the north they mean it more tenderly.

She’s being completely ridiculous. I feel sorry for you DH, that would upset me if someone done that

I remember my first visit to Yorkshire, being so happy when everyone called me 'love'. As a Glaswegian, we love a chat at the checkout and this just raised it to another level. Love the Yorkshire folk. Was the checkout woman very young op ?

I’m from Yorkshire and hate men calling women ‘love’. Patronizing twaddle.

There's a women who works at our train station calls every one darling sweetheart or flower really can't see what the fuss is about. Having worked in retail for years you generally get abuse ignored or just been rude to a nice greeting should make a pleasant change. Sounds pissed with power and stamping her authority

I'll miss all this when it's gone. One thing that I adored about the UK when I first came here was the pet names. Your DH wouldn't offend me in the least. It's all gone a bit mad. I mean, there's Harvey Weinstein and then there's a gentle northern bloke (am I allowed to use the term bloke anymore? Not sure!) buying some bits and bobs at a shop, referring to the person at the till as 'love'. She'd be fine if a woman said it, I'm sure, which is insulting because it's making assumptions about your DH.

Dontoutmenow what about women calling men love? I do this it’s not meant in a patronising way

I'm Newcastle born and bred and use pet all the time.

It's just part of my vocabulary. I don't mean anything by it.

The people who are offended by a man calling a woman love, is it equally offensive for a woman to call a man love? I live in Yorkshire and hear it from both sexes. You can tell if it's being used in a patronising way. The vast majority of the time it's just friendly! I don't use it myself but don't mind at all that others do.

When I worked in a shop a few years ago I hated being called sweetheart, babe or gorgeous by men. For me those terms crossed the line. Also being told to smile by customers really irked me. I didn't mind love or pet though. And I still served the customers no matter what they called me. I even served one who groped me. I was there to do my job, which was serve people.
Your husband is not being unreasonable, she should have served him.

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Are you ok pet?