To ask someone who does this to explain why?

[QueenOfIce]

Social media posts like this, why?!

"1 year ago today this little bubs came into our life, you are our world little munchkin we are so proud of you. Happy birthday! Love you to the moon and back"
#bubs1stbirthday #mummyanddaddyslittlelegend #myworld #bestie

There's a difference between:

1. Photo of birthday baby and "Happy first birthday to Ava, can't wait to see her open her presents later. I love her so much!"
2. Photo of birthday baby "Happy birthday Ava, can't wait to see you open your presents later. I love you so much."

SIL does a scenario 2 sort of thing for FIL, who isn't on Facebook. It's all about getting attention for herself and showing how good a daughter she is (ha). DH just phones him if we don't see him on the day, and doesn't feel the need to diarise it for his friends and work colleagues to see.

I always think it might be nice for these children to see the posts when they are older and they will come up on FB memories...

It is about validation for many though anxious. Definitely is for my'kids got 100% attendance' fb friend!

Ugh I know, joyous celebrations of happy times are just so wrong. Be better if everyone was cynical and miserable wouldn't it

Who said anything about posting memories of loved ones that have passed? My op clearly stated those nauseating posts riddled with hashtags for a baby.

I had one of them earlier this week too, except it’s for a 15 year old who must be cringing at his parents admiration for his many talents which have been detailed over 3 paragraphs. Yes, like most 15 year olds I know, he’s your average nice lad but the way they are going on he should have been on the honors list this year for just existing.

Too sickly sweet. Fair enough to wish happy birthday and have a great day, but 3 paragraphs detailing how handsome he is, kind, generous, intelligent, motivated, inspiring, loved by all is a bit much, it sounds more like an obituary! I read, roll my eyes then hide it.

Alpine sharing the odd photo of your DH is fine and nothing like the example I gave.

I always think it might be nice for these children to see the posts when they are older and they will come up on FB memories...

My dc would disown me if I put stuff up like the OP has mentioned

I find this annoying too. I have a friend (who admits privately her and dh don't get on) who does it to her dh even though he isn't on facebook. 'Happy Birthday to the BEST husband ever! I would be lost without you! My world, my love!' It is clearly for other peoples benefit!

Oversharing extroverts. DD2 does this. Gushes about her lovely DH on FB but constantly moaning about his extravagance and laziness to me.

Really you don’t think it’s about validation

Your friends and family may like to see pictures/have updates etc but the thing is why you/i/others give them that

It makes no difference who likes or dislikes your photos/information you add to your life someone suddenly showing no interest no liking certainly would make you feel differently

No idea. Personally if i'm going to post about DD i always do a Baby Bore alert claxon.

I know someone who will say one month, one week today this little man will be one. Two weeks today my Nan passed away three years ago. I don't mind a status on the day but WTF!!

Of course it's about validation. Why bother posting it otherwise? Especially the gushing messages to their husbands. Who else needs to know that they have the " best husband in the world "?
Anyone in a secure relationship wouldn't feel the need to plaster how lucky they are.

I use Facebook to communicate with family that I live far away from. It’s an easy way to send photos and updates on my kids/life, obviously I talk to them as well but on FB I just need to send a photo to everyone at one time.

If you don’t like it unfollow/unfriend. People are allowed to be proud of their kids

Just because you don't care doesn't mean other people don't. I have a lot of family on my Facebook who do care, and my mother in law especially appreciates photos of my babies. Likewise, I appreciate seeing photos of my relatives.

It must be a very sad existence if you feel such disdain for other people's happy Facebook posts.

I don't think anyone thinks there's anything wrong with posting photos of your dc on FB. That's totally different to what the OP is talking about. Having said that my dc don't like it so I steer clear from doing it.

Aww...there is plenty on fab that makes my eyes roll out of my head and along the floor but your OP comes over as bitter and judgemental which doesn’t make you any better does it?

I think it’s often a simple outpouring of love and affection that drives this. Sometimes it’s self promotion and smuggery but other times it really is that simple...an expression of love.

If you have a problem with that to the point you have to write a bitchy post on Mumsnet about it, I’d suggest it’s you that is lacking in some way. Scroll on past and chill the fuck out.

And how can your small child be your bestie? of course people post to garner a response or they wouldn't bother posting!

@QueenOfIce I consider my kids the best thing to ever happen to me. Whilst I wouldn't describe them as my "bestie" we have a bond you can't replicate with other people, closer than any "bestie", so why do you find it hard to understand that people may feel this way about their own kids?

Pictish how do you decipher if it's done out of love or self promotion and smuggery?

If it bothers you, scroll on. I do things like this, maybe not as gushing, for 2 main reasons:

1. It serves as a lovely memory and will pop up in my memories on fb every yr and it just makes ME feel warm and lovely.
2. I then tag dd or ds using the scrapbook feature on fb for them to read when older and on fb.

If that is all you are worried about, happy days for you!!

Oh it's for memory..right. Never heard of a diary?

Deceased relative is hardly on Facebook reading those messages either.

Some people do like to believe they would be. No need to be so disparaging of others’ beliefs.

I love the idea that dead relatives spend their time refreshing Facebook in the afterlife. Even granny Myrtle who died 10 years ago and hadn’t mastered text message (let alone social media) in her live years.

Shock horror!!! Modern woman uses technology to record a memory rather than pen and paper!!!! Diaries get lost or fade. Social media will be here for the foreseeable.

Plus I live in 2018 not 1988.