To say I'm not your fucking mum?

[DrewBerry95]

Argh, fed up of seeing people say "you got this mama" or something along those lines on Instagram/FB!

Or answering a post and calling you mama/mumma

I'm not your Mum. You didn't fly from my Fanny flaps. Only my son gets to call me mum/mummy and even he wouldn't use a wanky phrase like 'mama'

AIBU?

The first time I heard this was when a black American gentleman called me ‘mama’ and it was around 1970. I was not a mother, only 16 at the time and so it puzzled me. It is one of the many black American words/sayings that was infiltrated the world.

Have those words "infiltrated" the world? @Charolais Or do you reckon it might actually be a cultural way of speaking that hasn't "infiltrated" anything? Whom have they "infiltrated"? Please inform me.

What was the norm before those black Americans "infiltrated" their words into 'normal' language @Charolais?

Words matter, don't they. It would seem.

So funny because I seen a post saying mama earlier and just thought fuck right off. Must be the same people who say women support women.

I have always called my mother Mama and Mom. It would sound weird if I said mum because I don’t live in the UK or where it is used. My ds calls me Mommy. That is the spelling here in the US. I can see not liking being called that if you not actually their mother, though.

Mama/Mami is a term of endearment used in Hispanic countries (and Mediterranean countries) which is now coming into American and British culture, because, you know, language does that. It is what you would typically call your children, so doesn’t even mean mum in this scenario.

Used in the context that you are saying then it is wanky but i cant get that bothered about it. If you don’t like it then why don’t you just find different Facebook groups that are more to your liking.

It’s a bit like reading the Daily Mail and getting outraged by the comments about pert posteriors.

I think using the fanny flaps phase is a bit cringy and annoying. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Here in the US it is not uncommon to call someone mama when they’re not. Or, hot mama. It is just a saying, I guess. I don’t think it’s meant to offend, just like calling a woman girl or chick or gal. It is not to demean.
It shouldn’t be used in a formal business setting obviously. Around here, we even call each other baby and sweetheart. All these, and there are a lot more, are forms of friendly endearments plus ma’am and sir, Mr., Master (young boy), and Miss. We often call all women Miss, married or not, no matter the age. We also wave at strangers in cars and say hi and good morning/afternoon/evening. It is how it is around here, southern US.

22 never heard that and have 2 kids

We also tend to give each other about 20 nicknames each....I had about 7 different ones growing up.

Do ppl really say mama / mumma

my children call me mama as it's normal in the country where my mum comes from and normal from where my dad was born.
I love it and don't really want them to ever call me mummy.
I know the thread has moved on from the discussion of whether mama sounds wanky but whatever.

Do ppl really say mama

It's the normal word for mother for hundreds of millions of people. What has you so confused?

Obviously they do ^^ "hot mama"

A bit surprised at how the most anti ‘hun’ community I’ve ever encountered has come down so ferociously in favour of ‘mamma’!

It's the normal word for mother for hundreds of millions of people. What has you so confused?

Not confused just weird if ya under 10 go for it otherwise it's weird.
Just my view, sorry

In the US a baby’s first word is usually either mama or dada. It’s commonplace to say mama here.

Not confused just weird.
If ya under 10, go for it otherwise it's weird.
Just my view, sorry

YANBU
Particularly wh n adults use it to talk to each other (ie not in front of children). Social media groups - "Hi mamas, Cani ask you advice on..." etc. Or even the use of "mummy's". Like "mummy's milk"

Of corse it's different according to were your from! I should have said that!

Tough crowd Op
I get what you are saying
There's nothing wrong with a child calling their mother Mama

I loved when my dc called me mama

I'd feel embarrassed if an adult called me mama though

carouselfish yes, has changed from original biker meaning.its a term of endearment and respect/
want some fries with that shake

also hispanics here call other women mami or mama as a for of endearment.my columbian neighbor calles me mama all the time she is 30 yrs older than me.
it means they think you are a good person and worth knowing.if they called me anything else i would be disappointed

I have never seen/heard it either. I have enough of my own DC to answer to without adding extras

The OP is getting a hard time here. She's not complaining about the word mama (which my son uses, and I'll die a little the day he outgrows it) but this kind of bullshit.

I get where you're coming from OP. There seems to be some mama cult all over social media. I suppose it's supposed to be supportive and empowering but just comes across as a bit wanky.

I personally can't stand all the 'mother' and 'winging it' type of sweatshirts that are everywhere. I'm pretty sure my mum's generation didn't feel the need to wear clothing declaring their status as a parent.