To say I'm not your fucking mum?

[DrewBerry95]

Argh, fed up of seeing people say "you got this mama" or something along those lines on Instagram/FB!

Or answering a post and calling you mama/mumma

I'm not your Mum. You didn't fly from my Fanny flaps. Only my son gets to call me mum/mummy and even he wouldn't use a wanky phrase like 'mama'

AIBU?

*wanky

Too much time on the old hands op.

You didn't fly from my Fanny flaps.

2 out of 3 DC did not 'fly from my fanny flaps', with being EMCS.

However, I am on social media a lot sad sack, with no life and have never been called Mumma/Mama by anyone other than people on MN who call me Mamma, as it's my name on here.

I have to wonder what you are doing to invite this!

Nursery key worker to exDH, said in sing-songy small-children-are-present voice: Oooh here's daddy, shall we see what daddy thinks of your piccy picture?

Deadpan XDH: We need to know each other much much better before I let you call me daddy.

Never come across this thing online where adults call one another mum or mama or whatever, but I don't do social media and my friends aren't patronising twats, so no wonder probably. I actually really like Mama as a mum name; DP is German and says Mama and Papa and it sounds so cute even from a massive hairy adult man.

and even he wouldn't use a wanky phrase like 'mama

Fuck off. I'm a Mama to my children, nothing wanky about it

A lot depends on the pronunciation of Mama, either the upper class way or the pseudo-gangsta, the latter is dire and says a lot about the parent who accepts it.

I've never come across it either......

A lot depends on the pronunciation of Mama, either the upper class way or the pseudo-gangsta, the latter is dire and says a lot about the parent who accepts it

Wtf are you talking about? What "pseudo gangsta way"?

Only my son gets to call me mum/mummy and even he wouldn't use a wanky phrase like 'mama'

White nothing, providing the person calling me it is my own child and not a grown adult using it as a wanly term of endearment

Well apparently it would still be 'wanky' if your child called you it. I'm mama to my child, there is nothing 'wanky' about it.

I do see it a lot in online mums; groups, but probably only from three or four people who just post a lot .

The same people tend to automatically refer to any child of anyone in the group as "sweet [firstname]" which irritates me more, tbh. But they are nice women and I'm sure I have quirks of phraseology that annoy others too.

I quite like it. They're not calling you Mama (which is absolutely fine and not wanky, by the way), they're calling you A MAMA. When you are.

It doesn't bother me online. In hospital for a week after giving birth when several nurses felt the need to call me 'mum' was pretty weird.

How is that weird? Are they suppose to know and remember every single woman that gives birth?

Well I'm not welcome here then

I use mama because I'm Italian and that's what my children call me.

But strangers calling me mummy makes me want to kick them in the shin.

I see the word “mom” commented by teenagers on their idol. It’s seen as a compliment, as in they look up to you, see you as a second mum etc

I've never seen this either! I've had the odd email (to a mums' group, admittedly) which began "Hello Mummies.....". Does that count?

Must be a regional thing I've never seen it on my media

My friends DC switched from Mummy/Mum to Mama overnight, but in the most godawful baby voices. It seriously does my head in.

But as for Instagram/FB etc, just stop using them or delete people who annoy you. I don’t use any of them and nothing I read on here convinces me that’s a bad choice.

I see that exact phrase lots and usually following a post where anybody sane would be thinking “nooooooo she hasn’t fucking got this, she really really hasn’t. Why the fuck has someone in her life not cared enough to either step in and sort it for her or rung children’s services,fucks sake she really has not got this”

My DD calls me Mama and I love her saying it. It sounds really sweet, in some ways nicer than Mummy. I will miss it when she doesn't say it any more. In that respect, it is in no way a 'wanky' term as you so crudely put it.

I think it is more of an American way of speaking/addressing someone. I've seen a couple of examples of it on US forums and chatboards, where the users do say things like 'I get you, Mama,' or 'You've got this, Mama', but only from what I can gather a purely supportive way. I don't suppose it is ever meant in a 'psuedo gangster' context as one PP says...

I think you have too much time to think of pretty trivial things, OP. Chill out, Mama.

I will correct my original post - Small children issuing it is fine and those who use it as an origin thing, for example grown German men saying mama and papa, also fine.

But grown women on mum groups calling me mama and saying things like "you got this mama! 💪" and similar things like "mama you're amazing" just annoys me, I can't put my finger on why

I was with you up until you insulted my son, who calls me mama. You seem super classy.

Its strange how we all have different words that irritate us, you seem slightly unreasonably annoyed at the word 'mama' and I more annoyed at words like 'Wanky' and 'fanny flaps'

mamahanji. You’re welcome when your child says it nicely & naturally 💐. Small Italian child, lovely. Two secondary school kids taller than me suddenly saying Mama like some crazed baby doll, not so lovely 😖. Adults using it to other adults on social media 🤮

Parrot your son is probably a child! Children using it to call their actual mums mommas is absolutely acceptable

Grown women I don't know? Not so much

I thing mama is quite quite coming from your own DC. I may try and get my DS to start saying it when he starts talking

Yabu. Infact YABVU. It is actually a compliment. If anything "fanny flaps" should be banned.